What if marriage isn't about finding someone who will serve you, but about becoming someone who serves like Jesus? And could the greatest spouse actually be the greatest servant?

In this episode, we explore how biblically serving one another is not optional in marriage—it's foundational. Starting with Ephesians 5:21, "Submit yourselves to one another in the fear of God," we break down what mutual submission really means and why people get so caught up on that word.

We discuss practical ways submission looks in everyday life: putting your spouse's needs ahead of your preferences, choosing humility over pride, and choosing unity over winning. We address the power struggle many marriages face and confess that our flesh constantly fights against servanthood—which is why we need God at the center.

Drawing from Mark 10:45 where Jesus came not to be served but to serve, we challenge couples to "outserve each other." We explore how husbands are called to love like Christ—sacrificially, patiently, protectively, and self-giving. This includes leading with humility, loving when inconvenient, and putting their wife's emotional and spiritual well-being first.

Wives are called to serve with strength and honor, not out of obligation but out of love and reverence for God. We discuss the danger of complaining about your spouse to friends and the importance of respecting each other through words, tone, and facial expressions (eye rolls shut down communication instantly!).

Using Jesus washing the disciples' feet as our model, we share what "foot washing" looks like in marriage: forgiving quickly, serving when tired, loving when hurt, and choosing grace over resentment. We emphasize that your marriage is a living sermon—a light that may be the only example of Jesus some people ever see.

Real love is demonstrated in the small, unseen sacrifices done consistently. Marriage is not a contract of convenience—it's a covenant of sacrifice where two people say "I'm here to serve you, not use you."

If you would like prayer for your marriage or anything at all, email us at everydayidopod@gmail.com. We would love to pray for you and be an encouragement! You can also message us on Instagram at ⁠⁠⁠⁠everyday_i_do_podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠.

Where do you find your true identity—in your spouse, your past, or in Christ alone? And what happens to your marriage when both partners understand who they are in Him first?

In this episode, we tackle the identity crisis many marriages face today. Drawing from 2 Corinthians 5:17, "Therefore if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation," we explore how understanding our identity in Christ transforms everything about our marriage.

We share candidly about the baggage we brought into our marriage—Teddy's divorce, Maya's family history, and cultural patterns we had to break free from. We discuss how we both struggled with letting our pasts define us, but chose early on to never use the word "divorce" and to build something different than what we'd seen modeled.

The core message: your spouse cannot be your savior. We confess how Maya idolized Teddy early in marriage, looking to him to fill needs only Christ could meet. We address the "Jerry Maguire" lie—"you complete me"—explaining that biblical oneness isn't about losing yourself or being completed by another person, but two whole, Christ-centered people coming together in covenant.

We break down key identity truths: you are chosen and loved (Ephesians 1:4), you have redemption through His blood (Ephesians 1:7), there is no condemnation (Romans 8:1), and you are complete in Christ alone (Colossians 2:10). We explain how confession in marriage is pure honesty and vulnerability, not just seeking an apology.

Addressing the identity crisis in roles, we discuss how husbands are called to be prophet, priest, and king—hearing from God and leading their families. Wives are the "Ezer" (helper), the same word used for God as our helper, coming alongside to encourage, pray, and strengthen. We emphasize that wives can't properly submit and husbands can't properly lead unless both know their identity in Christ first.

Strong marriages are built on two people who first belong to Jesus.

If you would like prayer for your marriage or anything at all, email us at everydayidopod@gmail.com. We would love to pray for you and be an encouragement! You can also message us on Instagram at ⁠⁠⁠⁠everyday_i_do_podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠.

What would your marriage look like if you had a clear, God-centered vision guiding your decisions? And are you building your future together intentionally, or just letting life happen to you?

In this episode, we explore how every great story has a quest—and marriage is no different. Drawing from Proverbs 29:18, "Where there is no vision, the people perish," we discuss why most marriages don't fail because of one big moment, but because they slowly lose direction. We share how we started our marriage without any real vision, thinking it was just the next step in life rather than a purposeful journey requiring intentionality.

We break down what marriage looks like with vision versus without it. Without vision, couples react instead of respond, conflict becomes personal rather than purposeful, and life decisions feel random and disconnected. With vision, decisions are filtered through God's purpose, conflict becomes growth-oriented, and unity increases even in hard seasons.

Using the imagery of oxen yoked together from Amos 3:3, we explain how two people can't walk together unless they're agreed—split vision means no progress. We candidly share our current season of job loss after eighteen years and how we're trusting that God is already in the next season, we just have to catch up to where He is.

We challenge the popular idea of vision boards focused on personal desires, emphasizing instead that biblical marriage vision flows from God's design. As Psalm 37:4 truly means: when you delight in the Lord, He places His desires in your heart—it's not about getting what you want, but wanting what He wants.

We offer practical questions to discuss together: What do we want our marriage to be known for? How does our marriage serve God's purpose? What do our kids think about our marriage? Remember—it's never too late to start, whether you've been married one month or fifty years.

If you would like prayer for your marriage or anything at all, email us at everydayidopod@gmail.com. We would love to pray for you and be an encouragement! You can also message us on Instagram at ⁠⁠⁠⁠everyday_i_do_podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠.