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AuDHD Podcast for grownups: F Them Fish!

AuDHD Podcast for grownups: F Them Fish!

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Welcome to the AuDHD Podcast for Grownups: F Them Fish, the podcast for neurodivergent adults navigating real life. Hosted by your neurodivergent besties, Callie Elward-Barrett and Jayne Gurton, this is your weekly safe space for honest, funny, and unpolished conversations about autism, ADHD, and AuDHD in adulthood.


If you are dealing with adult ADHD symptoms, late-diagnosed autism, or the unique intersection of AuDHD burnout, you are not alone. We dive deep into the everyday things nobody explains after an adult diagnosis: executive dysfunction, sensory overload, rejection sensitive dysphoria (RSD), masking, and neurodivergent relationship dynamics. We are honest, occasionally sweary, and completely uninterested in pretending to be perfect.


Grab a beverage, or body double some life admin with us in your ears. Tune in every week to understand your neurodivergent brain, combat overwhelm, and realize that it’s surely not just you.


Connect with us:


  • YouTube, Instagram, TikTok
  • Email us your stories & questions: mailto:fthemfish@gmail.com


Subscribe or follow so you never miss an episode, and leave us a 5-star review if this pod makes you feel understood, entertained, or slightly less alone!

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Episodes
  • Neuroinclusive Leadership, an AuDHD Deep Dive
    Jul 14 2026

    What does neuroinclusive leadership actually look like, and can empathy, active listening, adaptability, and emotional intelligence be learned?


    In this solo deep dive, Jayne translates the findings from her Master of Leadership research into practical, plain-English lessons for leaders, workplaces, and neurodivergent employees.


    Hello, hello, and welcome to AuDHD for Grownups: F Them Fish with your neurodivergent besties, Callie Elward-Barrett and Jayne Gurton. We talk about neurodivergence in real adult life: work, relationships, burnout, sensory needs, identity, and all the messy bits in between.


    With Callie taking a well-earned break, Jayne hijacks the pod in full corporate boss-baddie mode to unpack her thesis, Empowering Neuroinclusivity: Exploring the Role of Leadership in Cultivating Neuroinclusive Workplace Culture. She explores why leadership is central, not incidental, to neuroinclusive workplaces, why empathy is a skill, and why inclusion requires much more than a quiet room or a one-off training day. (And yes, she would now like to be addressed as Master Jayne).


    In this episode, we talk about:





    • The shift from treating neurodivergence as a deficit to recognizing cognitive diversity as an organizational strength
    • The learnable skills behind neuroinclusive leadership, including empathy, active listening, emotional intelligence, and adaptability
    • Why intersectionality matters, and why support cannot focus on one part of a person in isolation
    • How language, communication, and growth mindset shape identity, safety, and belonging at work
    • Physical, social, and organisational environments, and why accommodations are only one piece of the puzzle
    • Microaggressions, allyship, accessible recruitment, and the risk of quietly filtering neurodivergent people out
    • What is still missing from the research, including a clear leadership framework built around neuroinclusive practice


    Timestamps





    00:35 - Jayne hijacks the pod

    03:12 - The thesis and research questions

    06:35 - From medical deficit to organizational strength

    10:55 - Intersectionality: it is never just one thing

    15:19 - Language, identity, and empowerment

    20:32 - Physical, social, and organizational environments

    25:34 - What the research still does not tell us

    30:13 - The big takeaway: neuroinclusive leadership skills can be learned


    Disclaimer: This episode shares research interpretation and lived experience. It is not medical, therapeutic, or legal advice.


    Connect with us:

    Find us on YouTube, Instagram, and TikTok at AuDHD for Grownups: F Them Fish. Send us your questions, workplace stories, examples of leadership that made a real difference, or your latest ADHD taxes!

    Email us at: mailto:Fthemfish@gmail.com


    Keywords:

    Neuroinclusive leadership | AuDHD at work | neurodiversity in the workplace | ADHD leadership | autistic employees | workplace inclusion | psychological safety | reasonable adjustments | inclusive leadership

    AuDHD for grownups: honest, funny conversations about ADHD and Autism - work, relationships, sensory overload, identity, and the stuff nobody explains after late diagnosis.

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    30 mins
  • AuDHD & Rest: Giving Permission to Pause and Reset
    Jul 7 2026

    In this short podcast update, Callie explains why we are taking a week off, asks for listener feedback, and gives ADHD and AuDHD grownups permission to rest, be present, and do a little bit less.


    This podcast was created on the lands of the Ngunnawal, Wadawurrung, and Dja Dja Wurrung Peoples.


    Hello, hello, and welcome to AuDHD for Grownups: F Them Fish with your neurodivergent besties, Callie Elward-Barrett and Jayne Gurton. Where we talk about neurodivergence in real adult life: work, relationships, burnout, overwhelm, identity, and all the weird little things that make you think, ‘surely it’s not just me’. We’re honest, occasionally sweary, and very much not interested in pretending to be polished.


    This is not quite a full episode, besties. It is a short update from Callie, because we are taking a week off and, in true ADHD fashion, forgot to tell you.

    It is school holidays in Australia, the house is full of kids, Tech Guy is also taking some time off, and Callie is trying to be properly present with family. Because honestly, what is the point of working for yourself if you never let yourself use that flexibility?


    This update is also about rest, guilt, and the pressure to keep producing, even when your actual life needs you. Callie gives you official permission to do less, pause without earning it through total burnout, and stop being everything to everyone all the time.


    We also want your feedback. What do you want more of? What do you like? What is missing? What questions, ADHD tax stories, mortifying moments, overthinking spirals, or guest suggestions do you want to send us?


    Timestamps

    00:00 We are taking a week off

    00:55 School holidays, family time, and being present

    01:28 We want your feedback

    02:10 Send us your questions, stories, ADHD tax, and overthinking spirals

    03:10 Follow, subscribe, and help the algorithm

    03:49 Permission to do less

    04:41 You do not have to be everything to everyone

    05:01 Upcoming guests and what is coming next

    05:24 See you next week, besties

    This short update includes Callie’s lived and professional perspective on rest, work, family, and doing less. It is not medical, psychological, or workplace advice.



    Connect

    Find us on YouTube, Instagram, and TikTok at F Them Fish AuDHD for Grownups

    Send your stories, questions, ADHD tax, guest ideas, and feedback to mailto:fthemfish@gmail.com


    AuDHD for Grownups: F Them Fish is an honest, funny podcast about ADHD, Autism, work, relationships, sensory overload, burnout, identity, late diagnosis, rest, overthinking, and the stuff nobody explains after diagnosis.


    Follow or subscribe so you do not miss an episode and leave us a five-star review if the pod makes you feel understood, entertained, or slightly less alone.

    AuDHD for grownups: honest, funny conversations about ADHD and Autism - work, relationships, sensory overload, identity, and the stuff nobody explains after late diagnosis.

    Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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    6 mins
  • AuDHD Noise Sensitivity and Sensory Overload
    Jun 30 2026
    Why can everyday noise feel impossible to ignore when you have AuDHD? In this episode of AuDHD for Grownups, your neurodivergent besties Callie and Jayne talk about noise sensitivity, unexpected change, justice sensitivity, and what happens when something affecting your nervous system sits firmly outside your control.This podcast was created on the lands of the Ngunnawal, Wadawurrung, and Dja Dja Wurrung Peoples.Hello, hello, and welcome to F Them Fish: AuDHD for Grownups with your neurodivergent besties, Callie Elward-Barrett and Jayne Gurton. Where we talk about neurodivergence in real adult life: work, relationships, burnout, overwhelm, identity, and all the weird little things that make you think, ‘surely it’s not just me’. We’re honest, occasionally sweary, and very much not interested in pretending to be polished.Grab a beverage, or body double some life admin with us in your ears, and let’s get started.Jayne has new neighbours. They seem lovely, but they have also brought children, dogs, visitors, music, and considerably more noise into what was previously a very quiet neighbourhood. In this episode, Jayne asks Callie for some coaching advice about what to do when the sound around your home suddenly changes and your nervous system is having very big feelings about it. They talk about AuDHD noise sensitivity, sensory overload, and why home is an important place for recovery and regulation.Callie introduces the circles of control, influence, and concern as a way of thinking through situations that cannot immediately be changed. They discuss whether reframing your thoughts is genuinely helpful, or whether it can feel suspiciously like gaslighting yourself into pretending something is fine.Naturally, the conversation then wanders into fairness, ethical consumer choices, and the personal hills neurodivergent people are prepared to die on. This leads to a few unexpected realisations about justice sensitivity and why some things can feel not just annoying, but fundamentally wrong.In this episode:· AuDHD and noise sensitivity· Why some sounds are so difficult to ignore· Sensory overload at home· Why home is an important neurodivergent safe space· Coping when you cannot remove yourself from the noise· Balancing your sensory needs with other people’s needs· The circles of control, influence, and concern· Reframing negative thoughts without dismissing your feelings· The difference between reframing and toxic positivity· Feeling hyper-aware of your impact on other people· Fairness, reciprocity, and resentment· Neurodivergent justice sensitivity· Ethical consumer choices and the hills we choose to die on· How relationships and familiarity can help build empathyTimestamps00:00 Catching up with our besties01:54 Jayne's new neighbours06:51 Noise, boundaries, and competing needs08:47 Sensory sensitivity and accepting what you cannot change11:40 Circles of control, influence, and concern13:22 Reframing16:42 Fairness, reciprocity, and being hyper-aware21:19 Ethical choices, personal values, and the things that stick24:25 Consumer power and voting with your money25:46 Justice sensitivity and the hills we will die on29:51 Queer Quail, Pride Month, and the NeuroQueer EngineersThis conversation is based on Callie and Jayne’s lived and professional experience with AHD and Autism. It is not medical or psychological advice, and neurodivergent people may experience noise, sensory processing, emotional regulation, and justice sensitivity differently.ConnectFind us on YouTube, Instagram, and TikTokSend your stories and questions to FThemFish@gmail.comAuDHD for grownups: honest, funny conversations about work, relationships, sensory overload, identity, and the stuff nobody explains after diagnosis.Follow or subscribe so you do not miss an episode, and leave us a five-star review if the pod makes you feel understood, entertained, or slightly less alone.AuDHD for grownups: honest, funny conversations about ADHD and Autism - work, relationships, sensory overload, identity, and the stuff nobody explains after late diagnosis. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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    32 mins
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