In this episode of Fall From Grace, Tony shares one of the most confronting chapters of his story — the period where addiction didn’t look like chaos, but control.

“The Day I Couldn’t Pretend Anymore” explores high-functioning addiction, shame, and the quiet erosion that happens long before everything collapses. Tony breaks down what addiction was actually like for him, why judgement makes it worse, and how neuroscience helps explain why stopping isn’t just about willpower.

This episode also marks the moment where pretending became impossible — and where a single phone call changed the trajectory of his life.

If you’ve ever felt like you were holding it together on the outside while falling apart inside, this episode is for you.

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⚠️ CONTENT WARNING

This episode contains discussion of addiction, mental health distress, psychosis, and a personal crisis point involving thoughts of not wanting to continue living.

There is no graphic detail or method description.

Listener discretion is advised.

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CHAPTERS

01:46 There's A Version Of Addiction We Don't Talk About Much

02:31 Life Didn't Stop & That's What's Messed With My Head The Most

04:20 Uncomfortable Truths About Addiction

05:43 What Do We Know Today About Addiction?

09:18 Hope To Bring Humanity To These Conversations Rather Than Judgement

10:22 Reflection On What We Know Today

10:36 My Body Showing Signs Well Before My Ego Caught Up

11:56 Crossroads

14:21 Arriving At St Vinnies Hospital, Melbourne

15:10 Support Is Available

15:47 Thank You For Listening Today