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In this week’s episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m exploring attachment from a different angle and sharing how boundaries and recovery can actually create secure attachment, even if you didn’t grow up with it.

Instead of focusing on attachment labels, we look at how internal safety, self-trust, and boundaries change the way we show up in romantic relationships.

Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:

• The difference between anxious, avoidant, disorganized, and secure attachment and how they often show up in adult relationships
• How self-abandonment fuels insecure attachment patterns like chasing, distancing, and resentment
• Why boundaries aren’t about pushing people away, but about staying connected to yourself
• How boundary work creates internal safety and builds self-trust over time
• Why secure attachment can be developed in adulthood through recovery and consistent boundary practice

Secure attachment isn’t something you either got in childhood or missed forever. When you stop abandoning yourself, you stop building abandonment into your relationships. Boundaries help you stay present, grounded, and connected to who you are, so relationships stop feeling like life or death and start feeling safe.

Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive practical tools for building emotional safety, healthier relationships, and a more whole life.

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In this week’s episode 332 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m discussing something I often observe, especially during family gatherings: knowing your boundaries, understanding your patterns, and gaining valuable insight, yet still getting triggered. In this episode, I explain why that happens, why it’s not a failure, and what actually helps when your body reacts faster than your thinking brain.

Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:

• Why your nervous system responds before your intellect, and why “knowing better” isn’t enough in the moment
• The difference between insight and regulation, and why affirmations and reasoning often fail when you’re activated
• Why you don’t train your nervous system during an emergency — you train for emergencies
• The four common nervous system states (freeze, rage, fawn, and flight) and what actually helps each one
• Simple, body-based practices that build internal safety and shorten recovery time when old patterns get activated

You’re not weak. You’re not broken. You’re human.
This work isn’t about never getting triggered — it’s about helping your body learn that now is different from then. When you train your nervous system ahead of time, you create more choice, more capacity, and a faster return to yourself when things get hard.

Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.

Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate, and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!

Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/

Feeling drained? Take my free Boundaries Drain Quiz to find out where your energy is leaking and how to reclaim it. Start your quiz here: https://higherpowercc.com/drain/

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In this week's episode 331 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m talking about the invisible, unspoken rules you absorbed growing up — the ones you never agreed to, yet have been shaping your entire emotional life. I break down how these hidden rules get installed in childhood, how they operate in adulthood, and how recovery gives you the clarity and safety to finally rewrite them.

Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:

• The unspoken “family rules” you learned through tone, punishment, silence, chaos, and inconsistency
• How perfectionism, control, all-or-nothing thinking, and the inner critic develop in dysfunctional homes
• The ways these old rules still dictate your choices, boundaries, and emotional reactions
• What happens when you finally recognize that these rules were never yours to begin with
• How recovery helps you create new internal rules rooted in truth, safety, and self-compassion
  
  
  

You don’t have to keep living by rules that were created in a dysfunctional system.
You get to unlearn perfectionism, control, fear, and judgment.
And you get to replace them with patterns that support freedom, safety, and emotional wholeness.

You don’t have to stay stuck in the old survival strategies. The moment you start seeing the rules clearly, you can choose new ones — rooted in truth, boundaries, and compassion for yourself. Are you ready to rewrite the rules you grew up with?

Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.

Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate, and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!

Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/

Feeling drained? Take my free Boundaries Drain Quiz to find out where your energy is leaking and how to reclaim it. Start your quiz here: https://higherpowercc.com/drain/

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