So many folks I see, and this was me too, attach goodness and morality to their health.

If something is wrong, THEY feel wrong.

They will spin into stories about how they're creating their own disease or this is going to turn into something far worse.

Can you make some space for the fact that not all of the contributing factors were in your hands?

Your genetics, adverse childhood experiences, your environment and day to day stressors that accumulate.

There are areas where we have choice and can learn to be empowered...and there are factors we don't have control over.

There are elements, like childhood trauma, that weren't our fault but that as adults we have quite a large degree of choice in how we address the effects.

Having a sense of humor, when possible, can bring some lightness to what can be a serious and heavy healing process.

Life is very short.

Literally no amount of it needs to be spent beating yourself up anymore.

That time would be better spent taking care of that part of you that so automatically goes into shame.

Then, just coming back to what you best know works for you. again and again and again.

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What does it actually mean to trust yourself, especially after years of trying to control every part of your life, your body, or your impulses?

In this episode, I share how years of shame, "self-improvement", and control kept me trapped in cycles of compulsion and self-judgment - and what it was like to finally build trust with myself.

Through personal story, trauma-informed insight, and a surprising experiment called Rat Park, this episode explores why compulsive urges aren’t failures or moral flaws - they’re messages. And when we start to listen with curiosity instead of control, trust becomes possible.

In This Episode, You’ll Hear:

• Why compulsive behaviors aren’t about willpower or weakness
• How childhood disconnection, shame, and unmet needs shape our coping patterns
• The surprising science of Rat Park - and what it reveals about safety and connection
• How I learned to shift from control to curiosity
• What self-trust looks like in real life

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For years, I thought the urges to binge eat were THE problem...the thing standing between me and finally being okay. But what I eventually learned is that those urges were never the enemy. They were messengers.

In this episode, I share what happened when I stopped trying to make my binge urges go away, and started listening to them instead.

You'll hear me talk about:

• Why compulsive urges are communication, not failure
• The nervous system roots of binge and numbing patterns
• How curiosity and self-compassion can begin to shift everything
• The first step to finding freedom that isn’t built on control

If you’ve ever wondered why you keep doing the thing you don’t want to do - this episode is for you.

🌿 Mentioned in this episode: → My upcoming mini course, What’s Under the Urge - coming soon to Free Spirit Academy

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