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Gay Men Going Deeper

Gay Men Going Deeper

Written by: Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood
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 Gay Men Going Deeper is a podcast about gay relationships, identity, sexuality, and personal growth for gay men navigating modern life. Hosted by Matt Landsiedel and Michael DiIorio, the show dives into topics like dating, shame, masculinity, confidence, emotional intimacy, and the pressures of modern gay culture. Expect raw conversations, psychological insight, and the kind of honest discussions that challenge assumptions and invite deeper reflection about what it means to live authentically as a gay man.© 2020 Gay Men's Brotherhood Hygiene & Healthy Living Relationships Self-Help Social Sciences Success
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  • Gay–Straight Bromance: Why We’re Drawn to Each Other

    Gay–Straight Bromance: Why We’re Drawn to Each Other
    May 14 2026
    There’s something unique about friendships between gay and straight men. They often feel easy, natural, and unexpectedly intimate. In this episode, we explore the unique reasons why gay and straight men are drawn towards each other. From male bonding and emotional intimacy to validation, and the freedom to drop the “rules” of being a man, these friendships often offer something both sides aren’t getting elsewhere. We unpack: Why gay men are drawn to straight men… and what they representWhy straight men feel safe, open, and even curious around gay menHow masculinity is shifting in 2026… and where these friendships fitWhat each side gives the other and how we balance each other out This isn’t about hookups or labels. It’s about what men are craving, and what that reveals about modern masculinity. Today's Hosts: Matt LandsiedelMichael DiIorio - Take the 360° Self-Review for Gay MenReno Johnston Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTubeJoin the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook communityGet on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others.Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report. Chapters (00:00:00) - Gaming Going Deeper(00:00:59) - Gay Men On Straight Men's Friendship(00:04:43) - Why Do Gay Men Are Attracted To Straight Men?(00:06:55) - Gay Hockey Players Play With Straight Guys(00:08:41) - Why Are You Attracted To Straight Male Friends?(00:13:32) - Straight Men On The Gay Men's Brotherhood(00:17:46) - Gay Men's Brotherhood Connection Circles(00:18:28) - Why Are Straight Men Drawn To Gay Men?(00:22:43) - Damon on Why Gay Men Are Drawn to Him(00:23:50) - Straight Men Are Desperate For Sex(00:26:45) - Broke Male Podcast: Permission To Be You(00:31:41) - "It's Okay to Hug Your Gay Father"(00:33:11) - Gay Men Going Deep(00:33:48) - Gay Men Want More Sexual Closeness(00:39:15) - Straight Men Talk About Gay Bars(00:41:46) - Set Free Your Gay Men!(00:43:12) - Going Deep: Gay Men's Brotherhood
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    44 mins
  • How To Deal With Haters (Without Getting Defensive)

    How To Deal With Haters (Without Getting Defensive)
    Apr 30 2026
    We’ve all dealt with them. And maybe we’ve probably been one too… In this episode, we unpack what’s really going on beneath hate. Not just online trolls or obvious critics, but the subtle ways judgment, resentment, and animosity show up in everyday life. We explore: Why people hate in the first place (and why it’s rarely about you)The difference between healthy disagreement and actual hateHow hate often masks insecurity, unmet expectations, or avoidanceWhat it actually costs you to be a haterAnd how to deal with haters without shrinking, proving, or losing yourself This isn’t about pretending to be positive or “above it.” It’s about understanding psychology so you don’t get pulled into it, or unconsciously become part of it. ️ Connection Circle: Your Coming Out Process If this episode resonates, join Matt for a live Connection Circle. This is an opportunity to share your story, be witnessed without judgment, and begin releasing the parts of you that learned it wasn’t safe to be fully authentic. You don’t have to carry it alone anymore. Today's Hosts: Matt LandsiedelMichael DiIorio - Take the 360° Self-Review for Gay Men Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTubeJoin the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook communityGet on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others.Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Chapters (00:00:00) - Gaiman Going Deeper: How To Deal With Haters(00:01:34) - Michael Jackson on Why People Hate Him(00:04:55) - How to Stop Criticizing Others(00:05:35) - Haters Need to Be Seen In Their Pain(00:09:00) - How to Disagree With a Hater(00:14:00) - "Disengagement Is a Powerful Tool"(00:15:51) - Michael on The Impact Of Hate On His Life(00:20:45) - The Influences of Social Media(00:21:12) - How to Handle Haters(00:21:43) - How To Stop Defensiveness(00:25:55) - Let the Haters Be Wrong(00:29:58) - Dropping Love For The Brothers(00:31:05) - A Connection Circle
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    32 mins
  • Busy, Stimulated, and Disconnected: Gay Men & Escapism

    Busy, Stimulated, and Disconnected: Gay Men & Escapism
    Apr 16 2026
    What if the things you turn to for fun, pleasure, and productivity are also the ways you avoid your life? In this episode, we explore escapism through a grounded, real-world lens. Not necessarily as a clinical issue, but as a pattern most of us fall into without realizing it. From constant busyness and social plans to sex, substances, and scrolling, it’s never been easier to stay stimulated- and disconnected at the same time. We break down: Why escapism is so common (and why it makes sense)The difference between enjoyment and avoidanceHow to recognize when it shifts from choice to compulsionThe hidden costs of always staying “on”Why a full life can still feel empty Join us for an eye-opening episode about understanding the spectrum of escapism… and what it might be helping you avoid. ️ Connection Circle: Slowing Down Without Falling Behind If this episode resonates, join Michael for a live Connection Circle where we explore how to slow down, be more intentional, and stay connected to your life… without feeling like you’re falling behind. www.gaymensbrotherhood.com/events Today's Hosts: Matt LandsiedelMichael DiIorio - Take the 360° Self-Review for Gay Men Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTubeJoin the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook communityGet on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom callsFollow us on Instagram | TikTokLearn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others.Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame.Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series.Take the Chapters (00:00:00) - Gay Man Going Deep: Escapism(00:03:34) - Have You Been In A Pattern of Avoidance?(00:07:30) - Have You Ever Been In A Compulsive Loop With Something?(00:10:49) - How To Cope After A Breakup(00:13:26) - Talking About Relationships(00:15:14) - What is the anxiety of working?(00:16:24) - Burnout and Escapism(00:20:05) - Gay Man's Brotherhood: Slowing Down Without Falling Behind(00:22:13) - How to Stop Distract Yourself With Your Phone(00:26:19) - What is the cost of constant numbing, avoidance of self?(00:28:35) - How to Slow Down Your Life(00:29:26) - A Gay Man's Four Fs(00:30:47) - Gay Men's Brotherhood
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    31 mins
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