️ Grab the 5-day INFP tutorial and join 5,000+ people getting rare weekly insights → http://geekpsychology.com/infp-5day

▶️ Ready to go deeper? Check out the Evolve Community at http://evolve.geekpsychology.com

Most people think they want deep connection—until old patterns show up. You chase, pull back, shut down. Sound familiar?

In this conversation with neuroscientist and author Dr. Dario Nardi, we break down the 9 attachment styles (not just the basic 4) and how your Myers-Briggs type secretly influences the way you love, trust, and sabotage relationships.

Whether you're an INFP stuck in the push-pull cycle, an INTJ lone wolf, or an ENFJ anxious pursuer, this video will help you finally understand why you keep repeating the same patterns—and what you can actually do about it.

We cover:

• The 4 classic attachment styles (and why they're incomplete)

• The expanded 9-style model with your personality type's "home base"

• Why gender socialization vs. type creates inner conflict

• Defense mechanisms that keep you blind to your own pattern

• The shocking stat about how many people struggle with this

• Real therapeutic tools that work (EMDR, somatic practices, and more)

If you've ever felt confused about why relationships feel so hard, this is your roadmap.

Resources mentioned:

• "Learning Love" by Thais Gibson (https://amzn.to/47mlBvx)

• Elena Wolf (therapeutic consultant) (https://www.ilenewolf.com/)

Chapters:

Let's figure this out together. Drop a comment with your type and attachment style—I read them all.

0:00 - Why Deep Connection Feels Impossible

3:55 - What Your Ex Sees That You Don't

4:51 - The One Question That Reveals Everything

6:07 - The 4 Styles Everyone Gets Wrong

6:25 - What Makes Someone 'Securely Attached'?

8:15 - The Attachment Style That Confuses Everyone

10:44 - Why You Can't See Your Own Pattern

26:09 - The Lone Wolf's Secret

28:31 - The Player's Secret Emotional Avoidance

30:05 - Why INFPs Feel Everything (And Run Away)

32:27 - When Stoic Becomes Your Survival Mode

32:59 - The Controller: The Style Nobody Mentions

34:40 - The Caretaker's Invisible Trap

39:19 - Gender vs. Personality: Which Controls You More?

41:55 - Your Type's Secret Relationship Weakness

1:04:18 - How to Actually Heal (Not Just Understand)

1:05:30 - The Childhood Wound You're Still Protecting

1:08:34 - Why Talk Therapy Isn't Enough

1:18:16 - The Stat That Changes How You Date

1:19:18 - The Relationship Hierarchy That Changes Everything

Tools Used (Affiliate Links):

Video and audio editing is easy with Descript: https://descript.cello.so/xEAztGmHclI

Ever feel like you know what someone's thinking—only to find out you were completely wrong? If you're an INFP (or any intuitive type), you've probably experienced this: the spiral of overthinking, the projections, the assumptions that lead to conflict.

In this video, I break down why INFPs (and similar types) tend to over-read situations, using cognitive functions (Fi, Ne, Si) to explain the psychology behind it. I also share a personal story about how miscalibration nearly ruined a close friendship—and the one shift that changed everything.

What you'll learn:

• Why your intuition can betray you (and when to trust it)

• The "miscalibration trap" that leads to wild assumptions

• How this natural language tendency messes with communication

• The one question that stops overthinking in its tracks

• Why assuming positive intent will change your relationships

If you've ever spiraled into "what did they really mean?"—this one's for you.

Drop a comment: What's your biggest overthinking moment? Let's talk about it.

INFP #MBTI #Overthinking #PersonalityTypes #SelfImprovement #Communication

00:00 Why INFPs Always Think They Know What You're Thinking

01:23 The 5 a.m. Fight That Changed How I See People

02:41 The Hidden Reason Your Intuition Betrays You

04:19 What 'Love' Means to You vs. What It Means to Me

05:34 The One Question That Stops Overthinking in Its Tracks

06:28 Why Assuming the Worst Makes You Miserable

07:21 How to Read People Without Projecting Your Past

INFP Personality Type Explained

️ Grab the 5-day INFP tutorial and join 5,000+ people getting rare weekly insights → http://geekpsychology.com/infp-5day

As an INFP and experienced INFP coach, I share insights on how to transform vague dreams into achievable goals. Learn how to leverage your introverted feeling and extraverted intuition to stay motivated, create meaningful habits, and implement gentle accountability systems.

00:00 – What If This Is Why You’re Still Stuck?

00:57 – The INFP Trap No One Talks About

02:20 – The Secret Ingredient INFPs Avoid

03:21 – Why Does Inspiration Always Slip Away?

04:35 – The Real Cost of Overthinking (Ouch)

05:25 – What Changes If You Do This First?

07:07 – The Steps You’re Skipping (And Don’t Realize)

08:15 – How Do You Make Motivation Last?

09:42 – The Truth About Tiny Wins