At some point, growth stops feeling empowering and starts feeling… quieter.

In this episode, we talk about what happens after you become self-aware when you can’t unsee patterns, can’t romanticize chaos anymore, and can’t go back to the version of you that felt easier to be.

We get into the strange loneliness that comes with emotional clarity, wanting things you know aren’t good for you, and why relationships , and even your personality start to change once you understand yourself more deeply.

This is about the in-between phase:

not who you used to be, but not fully comfortable with who you’re becoming either.

If you’ve ever thought

“I know better… so why do I still feel this?”

this episode is for you.

Welcome to girl, I’ve been thinking.

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Podcast Instagram: @girl_ive_been_thinking_podcast

Topics we touch on

• self-awareness & identity shifts

• outgrowing old versions of yourself

• emotional patterns in relationships

• why growth can feel lonely

• the difference between reacting and choosing

• overthinking, attachment & clarity

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What if the way people react to you… isn’t really about you?

In this raw and reflective episode, I invite you into the truth behind your light:

You are a mirror.

Some will feel seen in your presence—and love you for it.

Others will be triggered, afraid, even distant. And that has nothing to do with your worth.

We explore:

• Why your light activates both love and resistance in others
• The difference between projection and reflection
• How to stay rooted when your presence makes others uncomfortable
• The sacred power of being a mirror—and how to protect your peace while holding it

This is your reminder:

You’re not too much.You’re just a clear reflection.And you don’t need to dim your light to keep others comfortable.

If this episode stirred something in you… if your soul whispered “this is me”…

You’re not here to keep shrinking. You’re here to heal and expand.

My 1:1 coaching is for the ones ready to meet themselves fully, rewrite old patterns, and stand in their light …. unapologetically.

First 2 sessions are free so we can see if we match

💌 DM me the word “authenticity” on Instagram [@monica_cotolan or girlivebeenthinkingpodcast ] to begin your journey.

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📩 SEND me an email at cotolanmonica@yahoo.com

When you’re ready, I’ll be here. 🤍

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Are you tired of second-guessing your reality? Still picking up the pieces after a toxic relationship? This episode is your lifeline. Dive deep into the hidden world of narcissistic abuse as we expose the manipulative tactics—gaslighting, love-bombing, and emotional sabotage—that keep survivors trapped.

✔️ Decode the narcissist’s playbook (you’re NOT crazy).

✔️ Share jaw-dropping survivor stories of escape and empowerment.

✔️ Reveal actionable steps to break free, heal your self-worth, and THRIVE.

Whether you’re still in the chaos, freshly out, or rebuilding—this is your roadmap to turning pain into purpose. Hit play, and let’s start your glow up.

Subscribe now and reclaim the life they tried to steal.

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@monica_cotolan or @totallymyselfpodcast

I love you and I wish you the best onto your healing journey ✨

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