Send Me Questions on Attachment

A bigger crowd doesn’t mean a brighter lampstand. We dive into the seven churches in Revelation to uncover what faithfulness looks like right now: encouragement for the steady, warnings for the compromised, and hope for those who feel lukewarm or misled. With Dr. Paul Cook, we explore how ancient letters expose today’s soft doctrines, from antinomianism to the prosperity gospel, and why charisma without character so often seduces the modern church.

We share stories from real spiritual abuse and cult dynamics to show how small theological twists become deep wounds in people’s lives. Then we get practical. What marks a trustworthy church? Start with Scripture that centers Jesus and the substitutionary atonement, pastors who share authority rather than hoard it, and communities that practice discipleship across tables, not just from stages. Small groups, honest correction, and patient leadership form believers who can recognize flattery, resist hype, and stay grounded when trends shift.

We also talk about suffering as a surprising gift. Revelation praises churches that endure; Hebrews and 2 Corinthians remind us that affliction trains our loves and sharpens our hope. If your faith feels stale, this conversation aims to warm your heart again around the living Christ. Return to the Word daily, seek a shepherd who guards and guides, and lean into a community that tells you the truth with gentleness. If this resonates, share it with a friend, subscribe for more thoughtful conversations, and leave a review to help others find the show.

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I hope these episodes bring you closer to Christ and encourage you in your walk with Him. Meditating on Scripture, Being committed to prayer, and Seeking Christian community are all essential to helping us learn more of who He is and who He made us to be.

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I have been a Christ-follower for the last 20+ years of my life, and have seen the Lord's grace, strength, and faithfulness through it all. He led me to pursue a degree in higher education and has given me a gift for the field of counseling.

Send Me Questions on Attachment

What if your hunger for God is influenced by mistaking a bad shepherd for a good one, and you don't even realize it? That’s the tension Dr. Paul Cooke lived for nine years inside a communal Christian movement that slowly shifted from gospel language to leader loyalty. He walks us through the moments that felt noble, the verses that sounded convincing, and the tiny checks in his spirit that he kept pushing aside—until one letter after Jonestown shattered the spell and forced an honest look at what devotion had become.

We get specific about how spiritual manipulation works. Scripture gets sliced out of context—Acts 2 becomes a yardstick for “real” faith, family becomes the enemy via weaponized verses, and references to “David” or the “key of David” get recast to crown a modern prophet. Music tilts toward the man, not the Messiah. Isolation becomes proof of purity. Dr. Cooke explains how good desires—community, sacrifice, mission—can be co-opted when the cross fades and charisma fills the gap. His story shows why breakthroughs often hinge on a single undeniable moment that reveals the system behind the stories.

We then turn to healing and discernment. Recovery from brainwashing is possible; time, truth, and safe relationships help the mind reset. If someone you love is in a controlling church or movement, keep the lines open. Ask questions that invite reflection. Be a place to land, not a cliff to jump from. And for anyone searching for a faithful home, look for accountable leadership, plurality of elders, transparent practices, and preaching that consistently leads to the cross rather than the personality on stage. When leaders can be told “no,” when Scripture is taught in context, and when love outlasts hype, people grow.

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I hope these episodes bring you closer to Christ and encourage you in your walk with Him. Meditating on Scripture, Being committed to prayer, and Seeking Christian community are all essential to helping us learn more of who He is and who He made us to be.

ABOUT ME 👇
I have been a Christ-follower for the last 20+ years of my life, and have seen the Lord's grace, strength, and faithfulness through it all. He led me to pursue a degree in higher education and has given me a gift for the field of counseling.

Send Me Questions on Attachment

What if your relationship with God could actually change how your nervous system handles stress, grief, and trauma? We close the year by wrestling with two essential questions: does a secure attachment to God reduce distress, and how do we move toward that security in the real world of loss, pressure, and unanswered prayers. Drawing on research, lived experience, and Scripture, we chart a path that honors pain without papering it over.

We explore why some of us interpret suffering as punishment while others drift into self-reliance and numbness—and how both patterns often come from early attachment and church experiences. Then we get practical. You’ll hear how lament can coexist with trust, why “Abba” language matters for an embodied sense of belonging, and how community presence outperforms spiritual clichés. From John 15’s call to abide, to Hebrews 4’s invitation to draw near with confidence, to the Psalms’ raw honesty, we map out daily rhythms that create corrective experiences of safety, responsiveness, and meaning.

If you’ve ever wondered how to pray when you feel both hurt and hopeful, how to reauthor your inner story around grace instead of fear, or how serving others can soften your own anxiety, this conversation offers tools you can use right away. We talk prayer that holds two truths at once, Scripture meditation that centers God’s steadfast love, and community practices that make care tangible. Over time, these small, steady choices help transform divine struggle into resilient trust.

If this resonates, share it with someone who needs a gentle, grounded way back to God. Subscribe, leave a review, and tell us: where are you on the journey from anxious or avoidant to secure with God? Your voice helps others find their way too.

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I hope these episodes bring you closer to Christ and encourage you in your walk with Him. Meditating on Scripture, Being committed to prayer, and Seeking Christian community are all essential to helping us learn more of who He is and who He made us to be.

ABOUT ME 👇
I have been a Christ-follower for the last 20+ years of my life, and have seen the Lord's grace, strength, and faithfulness through it all. He led me to pursue a degree in higher education and has given me a gift for the field of counseling.

Send Me Questions on Attachment

Ever feel like you’re doing everything “right” and still can’t shake the sense that God is far away? We dig into three core questions many Christians carry in secret: why we can feel anxious or avoidant with a God we call our secure base, how early attachment wounds color our view of His heart, and what’s going on when faithful practices don’t translate into felt closeness.

We unpack the crucial difference between what we know about God (God concept) and how we experience Him (God image), and why both matter. Drawing from Scripture and attachment research, we trace how anxious faith tends to perform to avoid rejection while avoidant faith relies on self-sufficiency to dodge vulnerability. Along the way, we normalize lament as a faithful response, explore divine struggle without shame, and highlight rupture-and-repair as the slow engine of secure attachment with God—where repeated experiences of His presence re-train our bodies to expect safety, not abandonment.

You’ll hear practical pathways for integrating head and heart: treating Scripture as conversation instead of a checklist, approaching prayer as shared life rather than a wish list, and engaging church as a living conduit of God’s nearness. We also contrast correspondence and compensation—how our family stories either echo into faith or are healed by it—and challenge the myth that religious activity automatically equals intimacy. If you’ve wondered why closeness feels elusive, this conversation offers language, tools, and hope.

If this resonated, follow the show, share it with a friend, and leave a review so others can find it. What’s one small practice that helps you sense God’s nearness today?

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I hope these episodes bring you closer to Christ and encourage you in your walk with Him. Meditating on Scripture, Being committed to prayer, and Seeking Christian community are all essential to helping us learn more of who He is and who He made us to be.

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I have been a Christ-follower for the last 20+ years of my life, and have seen the Lord's grace, strength, and faithfulness through it all. He led me to pursue a degree in higher education and has given me a gift for the field of counseling.

Send Me Questions on Attachment

Fear knows how to sound reasonable. It hides inside “what if” spirals, budget math that never adds up, and prayers that feel stuck on repeat. We sat down with prophetic healing coach Heather O’Brien to ask a bold question: what if fear isn’t the root at all, but a symptom pointing to what we believe about God’s character and our worth?

We trace the crucial difference between facts and Truth, where painful experiences are honored without letting their lies set our future. Heather shares how people often carry faith in their fear—trusting isolation, control, or worst-case planning more than God’s steady love. We explore why perfect love expels fear, why the opposite of fear is love rather than effort, and how to move trust from outcomes to the process of walking with God. Along the way, Heather unpacks a practical “spiritual warfare kit” for panic moments and shows how daily Scripture declarations can retrain our minds, grounding us in peace when emotions surge.

Heather’s own story moves from years of hypervigilance and depression to freedom through hearing God’s voice, forgiving deeply, and naming the specific fears beneath the surface—rejection, abandonment, punishment, the unknown. We challenge common spiritual shortcuts, including overusing “thorn in the flesh” to justify staying stuck, and offer a gentler, truer path: let God reveal the root, invite wise help, and break agreement with fear by name. If you’ve ever wondered why anxiety returns after heartfelt prayers, this conversation gives you language, tools, and hope to keep going.

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I hope these episodes bring you closer to Christ and encourage you in your walk with Him. Meditating on Scripture, Being committed to prayer, and Seeking Christian community are all essential to helping us learn more of who He is and who He made us to be.

ABOUT ME 👇
I have been a Christ-follower for the last 20+ years of my life, and have seen the Lord's grace, strength, and faithfulness through it all. He led me to pursue a degree in higher education and has given me a gift for the field of counseling.

Send Me Questions on Attachment

Your anxiety isn’t random noise; it’s an alarm. The real question is what it’s warning you about. We explore the line between general anxiety and anxious attachment, showing how one spreads across life’s domains while the other flares when intimacy gets close enough to test old maps. With clear definitions of GAD, social anxiety, separation anxiety, and panic attacks, we lay out where these experiences overlap and where they diverge, so you can stop guessing and start noticing patterns.

From there, we dig into the heart of anxious attachment: a positive view of others paired with a shaky view of self, born from inconsistent caregiving and sustained by protest behaviors that seek closeness through urgency. You’ll learn how to read rupture and repair as the most reliable evidence of a relationship’s stability, and how to build a personal toolkit that actually works under stress—breath practices, grounding, prayer, and co‑regulation with secure people who help your body feel safe again.

We also bring faith into the conversation without shaming your story. Many of us project human patterns onto God, but security with God can transform how we handle triggers with people. When you treat God as a true secure base—returning in prayer, anchoring in Scripture, and seeking wise counsel—the alarm shifts from panic to guidance. By pairing nervous system skills with honest relationship audits, you can become more secure over time, even if anxiety still visits.

Ready to tell whether it’s anxiety in general or an attachment alarm? Press play, take notes on your own rupture‑repair history, and share this with someone who needs language for what they feel. If this helped, subscribe, leave a 5‑star review, and tell us: what evidence of repair do you look for?

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I hope these episodes bring you closer to Christ and encourage you in your walk with Him. Meditating on Scripture, Being committed to prayer, and Seeking Christian community are all essential to helping us learn more of who He is and who He made us to be.

ABOUT ME 👇
I have been a Christ-follower for the last 20+ years of my life, and have seen the Lord's grace, strength, and faithfulness through it all. He led me to pursue a degree in higher education and has given me a gift for the field of counseling.

Send Me Questions on Attachment

What if healing doesn’t happen in isolation, but in the friction and tenderness of a committed relationship? We take a clear-eyed look at why romantic commitment can catalyze growth in ways friendship and mentorship rarely reach, and how that truth fits with a robust, Christ-centered life. Starting in Genesis, we revisit the line “it is not good that man should be alone” and unpack why that’s not a critique of God’s sufficiency, but a gift of human design—formation through another person, modeled after Christ and the church.

We walk through a biopsychosocial-spiritual framework for change: how bonded pairs co-regulate the body, how intimacy surfaces hidden scripts and fears, how shared burdens build resilience, and how scripture, prayer, and community keep desire aligned with truth. You’ll hear a practical roadmap for rupture and repair—misunderstandings, pauses, returns, and reconciliations—that slowly nurture secure attachment and emotional regulation. We also name the cultural fatigue around dating, the temptation to retreat into self-protection, and the courage it takes to be fully known without shutting down under shame.

This conversation is not a sales pitch for marriage as a cure-all, nor does it dismiss singleness as a faithful calling. It’s an invitation to examine whether avoidance, not vocation, is steering your choices—and to see how forgiveness, grace, and redemption take on flesh inside a covenant. If you’ve wondered why vulnerability matters, how to pursue wisely, or where faith meets attachment science, this one will meet you with clarity and compassion.

If this resonates, follow the show, share it with a friend who needs hope, and leave a rating or review so more listeners can find these conversations. Have thoughts or questions? Email slconnect08@gmail.com or DM us on Instagram at godattachmenthealing.

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I hope these episodes bring you closer to Christ and encourage you in your walk with Him. Meditating on Scripture, Being committed to prayer, and Seeking Christian community are all essential to helping us learn more of who He is and who He made us to be.

ABOUT ME 👇
I have been a Christ-follower for the last 20+ years of my life, and have seen the Lord's grace, strength, and faithfulness through it all. He led me to pursue a degree in higher education and has given me a gift for the field of counseling.

Send Me Questions on Attachment

A milestone worth pausing for: 100 episodes into God Attachment Healing, we trace the journey from a simple idea—created to connect—to a grounded framework for healing shame, reshaping identity, and building secure attachment with God and others. I walk you through the show’s evolution, the theology that anchors it, and the clinical insights that keep it practical, with favorite clips that still spark conviction and hope.

Here are the episodes referenced for you to tune in to them:

Episode 1: My Heart Behind the Podcast

Episode 6: Insights on the Effects of Shame in Relationships

Episode 17: Should Christians Struggle with Mental Health?

Episode 20: How Our Thinking and Emotions Were Affected by the Fall

Episode 25: Welcome to the Genesis of Shame Podcast

We dig into why shame whispers I am not enough and how those messages sabotage closeness. You’ll hear how a few safe, consistent relationships can become a laboratory for trust, turning defense into wise pursuit. We talk candidly about mental health in the church—why anxiety or depression doesn’t mean you’re far from God, and how dependence, community, and good care can deepen your spiritual life. Along the way, I share the stats behind reaching 100 episodes, audience trends around attachment and shame, and why I’m doubling down on research, interviews, and video to serve you better.

If you’ve been part of this community from the start or you’re just finding it now, the heart remains the same: stay faithful to Scripture, honor the gospel, and offer tools that help you love God and people with courage. Season five will highlight attachment styles, identity in Christ, and the small steps that make vulnerability sustainable. Press play, share this with someone who needs a nudge toward safe connection, and subscribe so you don’t miss what’s next. Your questions shape the show—send them my way, leave a review, and let’s keep growing together.

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I hope these episodes bring you closer to Christ and encourage you in your walk with Him. Meditating on Scripture, Being committed to prayer, and Seeking Christian community are all essential to helping us learn more of who He is and who He made us to be.

ABOUT ME 👇
I have been a Christ-follower for the last 20+ years of my life, and have seen the Lord's grace, strength, and faithfulness through it all. He led me to pursue a degree in higher education and has given me a gift for the field of counseling.