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How Do We Deal?! Coping With the Confounding

How Do We Deal?! Coping With the Confounding

Written by: Dara and Amber
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 We're all struggling with the unbearable weight of issues that society just can't seem to solve—while paying endless bills, making infinity dinners, and replying to inane work emails. So how do we deal? With some colorful and transparent commentary from hosts Dara and Amber, and helpful insights from occasional guestsperts.​ Trump's second term has only made the theme more relevant since the podcast began.

Friends of different backgrounds from the same Boston suburb, Dara and Amber inevitably dive deep into meaningful conversation, whether they're shooting around on the basketball court or sipping Sauvignon Blanc. In each episode of "How Do We Deal: Coping with the Confounding," they attempt to make sense of simply existing in the world today, at the nexus of massive conundrums (from the rise of fascism, to deeply rooted racism to the mental health to climate change crises) and everyday responsibilities and challenges (maintaining faith in humanity while in rush hour traffic with kids, for example).

Sometimes talking it all through is enough to help find some hope, calm, and clarity. With honesty and openness about their own experiences with everything from race and neurodivergence to parenting and balling, they want to share the conversation with you. The goal is simply to make each day a little better.Copyright 2025 Hygiene & Healthy Living Psychology Psychology & Mental Health Self-Help Social Sciences Success
Episodes
  • Holiday Confessions and a Look Back at 2025

    Holiday Confessions and a Look Back at 2025
    Dec 19 2025
    A new elf arrived in town (Dara caved), belief is on the line (is Santa real?), and there's a lot of decor that may not be necessary (why is Amber doing all this?). Join Dara and Amber as they reflect on holiday magic, madness, wonder, and consumerism, and look back at how we survived and even thrived in the insanity of 2025.

    Side notes: Amber apologizes for talking too much in this episode and will calm down in 2026. Dara is still developing her "No Social Media Until 18" group and will update us as campaign progress unfolds.

    Thanks so, so much to all our listeners (Dealers) for coming along for the ride this year!

    Music by the talented Amanda Zorzi. Find her on Spotify:
    https://open.spotify.com/artist/4W7xuppzxE0ntRhDNncNtU
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    34 mins
  • No Room For Error

    No Room For Error
    Nov 21 2025
    Dara and Amber stumbled on a new theory: Everyone is going insane because there's no room for error in today's world. Get sick? You could go bankrupt. Kid won't go to bed? Experts say they're doomed to fail in life. Not on top of work emails? You're on thin ice with your boss.

    Amber points out that with neurodivergent kids, getting to a pricy therapy appointment on time can be almost impossible because the usual parenting strategies are useless. And in workplaces like Dara's, people's lives are on the line and a mistake could be deadly. No big deal! Listen in as they explore all the ways we need to give ourselves a break (or at least a little grace). Also: Maybe don't allow robots in your home (build a village to help carry the load instead).

    Music by the talented Amanda Zorzi. Find her on Spotify:
    https://open.spotify.com/artist/4W7xuppzxE0ntRhDNncNtU
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    42 mins
  • No Social Media Until 18!

    No Social Media Until 18!
    Nov 21 2025
    Dara and Amber talk about their POVs and experiences related to protecting kids from social media, at least until they turn 18. Dara has started a local movement by forming an alliance of parents who are supporting each other in delaying social media. Amber talks about her own battle to secure her teen's phone and what she learned at a recent school seminar about how phones shape kids' and teens' daily existence.

    We don't put our kids in the ocean when there's a riptide, yet so many children experience the digital equivalent: algorhythms that pull kids into dangerous online waters. Listen in to hear how Dara and Amber are dealing with this issue, trying to stay sane while keeping their girls safe.

    Music by the talented Amanda Zorzi. Find her on Spotify:
    https://open.spotify.com/artist/4W7xuppzxE0ntRhDNncNtU
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    36 mins
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