Discipline can shape a child’s character—or crush their spirit. In this episode of Raising Rebels, Joel and Tech break down how to give consequences that teach, not punish, and how to discipline in a way that builds a bridge, not a wall. We talk about the danger of correcting in anger, practical ways to downregulate (yes—breathe), why discipline is really training, and how to make consequences predictable, proportional, and age-appropriate. You’ll also hear a helpful framework from law enforcement (a “use of force continuum” applied to parenting), plus a powerful approach to creating a family discipline charter so everyone knows the expectations ahead of time.

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Chapters

00:00 - Cold Open: Discipline can shape or crush

00:18 - Welcome: Consequences that teach, not break trust

01:22 - React vs Respond: Never discipline in anger

03:19 - Resource Spotlight: “Standing on the Promises”

04:17 - Biblical Lens: Slow to speak, slow to anger (James 1)

04:44 - Redefining Discipline: Training, not punishment

06:56 - Real Dad Moment: The mower incident & asking forgiveness

08:31 - Quick Reset: Walk away + deep breathing

10:32 - Downregulation: “The hack” before you walk in the door

10:41 - Breathwork Example: Deep End Fitness + staying calm under stress

12:27 - A Hard Line: Don’t discipline with your hand

13:49 - Spanking Talk: When it’s appropriate—and how not to do it

15:00 - Use-of-Force Parenting: Verbal first, escalation last

16:32 - “Spare the rod?” Shepherd context + guiding/protecting

17:35 - The Process: Teaching, consequence, restoration, prayer

23:04 - Age-Appropriate Wisdom: Public tantrums & private correction

24:31 - Family Discipline Charter: Kids help set consequences

31:54 - Takeaways: Training ground, reconnection, breathe

32:35 - Closing Scripture: Proverbs 3:11–12 + sendoff

Links

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