Judgment has a way of sneaking into even the most loving relationships—especially with our adult children. And during the holidays, when you’re spending more time together, it can show up even faster. In this grounding episode of Midlife with Brooke, Brooke Oniki explains why judging your kids feels so automatic, why it doesn’t mean you’re a bad parent, and how to gently shift from judgment to curiosity.

Brooke breaks down the brain science behind judgment and shows how our protective, survival-driven brain often mistakes difference for danger. When your kids live, believe, or choose differently than you would, judgment can feel like concern—but it often lands as criticism and distance.

Through real stories, faith-based insight, and practical tools, Brooke teaches how to slow judgment down so you can respond from your wiser, spirit-led self. This episode is an invitation to soften, stay connected, and lead with trust instead of fear.

• Why judgment is a natural brain response—not a moral failure
• How judgment often comes from fear, not lack of love
• Why our kids’ choices can feel personal even when they aren’t
• Common judgment triggers with adult children (faith, motivation, relationships, direction)
• How judgment shuts down connection—even when intentions are good
• Simple ways to move from judgment to curiosity
• How your thoughts about your child shape the way you show up with them
• Why prayer and compassion can soften even the hardest edges

Brooke reminds us that judgment may be the brain’s default—but love is our divine invitation.

• Where do I notice judgment showing up most with my child?
• What might I be afraid of underneath that judgment?
• How would my relationship change if I led with curiosity instead of control?
• What thought about my child would create more love and peace right now?

Brooke created 18 short videos (2–8 minutes each) to help you not just plan the holidays—but feel better during them. The bundle includes three supportive sections:

Planning: gift giving, routines, and letting go of expectations

Thought Work: managing your emotions, letting others own theirs, working through disappointment

Nervous System Support: tools to help your body and mind stay regulated when emotions run high

There’s no class to attend and no long commitment—just practical, calming support you can listen to anytime, anywhere.

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