“Control driven by fear doesn’t create safety. It creates vigilance.”

• The subtle ways control hides inside responsibility and maturity

• Why most women do not experience control as force, but as protection

• How subconscious control patterns keep the nervous system tense

• The generational imprint of women holding everything together

• The difference between true safety and low level vigilance

• Why doing all the right fertility things can still feel exhausting

• Noticing control without fixing, changing, or judging

Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be…

This episode is a quiet one. Not flashy. Not dramatic. And honestly, the most important place to start. We are talking about control, not the loud obvious kind, but the kind that feels responsible. Helpful. Protective. The kind most women were praised for growing up.

I share how control once felt like safety in my own body and how that same pattern followed me into fertility and motherhood. Not because I was rigid or difficult, but because my nervous system thought staying on top of everything was the only way to relax later. Spoiler alert. Later never comes.

This week is not about fixing control or doing something differently. It is about noticing the moment your body tightens and asking one simple question. Is this safety or is this tension? That awareness alone is more powerful than any checklist. And next week, we go deeper into how this shows up in the most mundane moments of your day.

“Control doesn’t feel aggressive. It feels responsible. Mature. Protective.”

01:07 When control feels like safety instead of stress

02:34 Generational patterns and the emotional labor women carry

04:49 Why control actually makes motherhood and fertility heavier

06:13 The nervous system difference between safety and vigilance

07:42 Becoming the ultimate observer in everyday moments

Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/week-2-fertility-burnout-nobody-talks-about-the-cost-of-quiet-control

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Monica

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Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.