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In this episode of Off-Limits, I share 20 questions I now ask myself quietly and internally before letting someone into my life. These are not first-date questions, and they’re not meant to interrogate anyone. They’re meant to help you stay aligned with yourself.

While I share these reflections through the lens of dating and singlehood, these questions truly apply to everyone. Whether you’re single, dating, married, partnered, divorced, or simply in relationship with yourself, alignment matters.

I’ve grouped the questions into themes including intention, boundaries, emotional availability, identity, growth, and solitude. Together, they offer a grounded framework for reflecting on how you show up in relationships and whether you’re choosing from peace or pressure.

I also share why I value singlehood as a season of alignment rather than avoidance, and how clarity can often be kinder than chemistry.

A downloadable version of all 20 questions is available in the show notes for reflection or journaling. You can revisit them monthly or quarterly as a personal check-in.

I also give a preview of the next episode, where I’ll be interviewing fitness expert Joey Atlas about body confidence, strength, and navigating physical changes in your 40s and beyond.

This episode is an invitation to slow down, reflect honestly, and choose alignment over rushing.

Find the reflective ?'s here: https://ellenroers.com/f/aligned-or-misaligned-in-love-20-questions-to-ask-yourself

Lots of Love,

Ellen Roers

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