“If you don’t own anything in this life, own your integrity.”

What does it actually take to raise a good man?

In this deeply personal episode, Hamza Idris sits down with his mum, Stella Idris, for an honest, reflective conversation about motherhood, values, discipline, faith, and responsibility.

This is not a polished parenting manual.

It’s a real conversation about sacrifice.

Character.

Integrity.

And what mothers hope their sons carry into the world.

From growing up in Nigeria to sending her only son abroad at 16, Stella shares the principles she believes shape boys into grounded, responsible men — and where modern parenting often loses its way.

This episode is for sons.

For parents.

And for anyone reflecting on who helped shape the man they are today.

🔑 What you’ll take from this episode:

• The values that matter most when raising boys

• Why integrity outlives talent and success

• The danger of over-protecting male children

• Responsibility, discipline, and emotional maturity

• Cultural expectations of men and their hidden cost

• When sons must stop blaming parents and grow

⏱️ Episode Chapters

00:00 A conversation worth having

01:18 Introducing my mum, Stella Idris

03:00 Sending a 16-year-old abroad

05:56 Fear, prayer, and letting go

07:35 Responsibility, discipline, and chores

10:45 Integrity as a core value

14:20 Leadership, urgency, and character

15:22 When children are ready to leave home

18:05 Parenting wins, struggles, and lessons

20:34 Raising sons vs daughters today

23:02 Healthy boundaries between mothers and sons

25:40 Preparing boys for relationships

29:10 Why male children are often neglected

32:20 When adults must take responsibility

35:18 Pressure, provision, and masculinity

39:00 Discipline, values, and integrity

45:00 Being present as a parent

46:17 What she’s most proud of

49:20 Final reflections and gratitude

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🎙️ About The Modern Man Podcast

Honest conversations about masculinity, mental health, work, faith, and the human experience.

Less noise. More truth.

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