They were earning ₹5 Lakhs a month. Two IIT degrees. Big corporate jobs. Everything society told them to want. Then they walked away — and built something most Indian couples never even try: a truly equal marriage.
In this episode of The xMonks Drive, host Gaurav Arora sits down with Bibhuti Bhushan and Vipin Yadav — the IITian couple with 224K followers — for the most honest conversation we've ever had about modern Indian marriage, feminism, and what it actually takes to break free from patriarchy.
This is not theory. This is two people living it every single day.

What We Talk About:
Why they quit ₹5 Lakh/month corporate careers and never looked back
What equal marriage actually looks like inside a real Indian home — who cooks, who earns, who does the laundry
How patriarchy hurts men just as much as women — and why men won't admit it
The pressure of the "bahoo" identity and how Bibhuti navigated it after marriage
Why they have chosen not to have kids — and how they handle family pressure about it
How women themselves unknowingly keep patriarchy alive
The emotional cost of living differently from what society expects
What every young Indian man and woman should know before getting married

Timestamps:
00:00 Feminism and Marriage Qs
02:02 Facing Gender Norms
05:18 Building Equal Partners
08:10 Chores and Child Lessons
09:03 How We Split Work
14:19 Why Men Avoid Feminism
17:14 Myths and Labels
18:59 What Went Wrong India
20:32 Cracks After Marriage
24:27 State of the Bahu
26:01 Wedding Patriarchy Reality
28:10 Men Under Pressure
29:54 Women And Patriarchy
32:15 Setting Family Boundaries
36:51 Fatherhood And Equality
38:35 Love Is Not Shielding
40:22 How We Chose Each Other
41:44 Kids Decision And Boundaries
48:11 Advice For Equal Marriage
50:36 Final Thoughts And Thanks

About Bibhuti and Vipin: Bibhuti Bhushan and Vipin Yadav are IIT graduates, former corporate professionals and content creators known for their refreshingly honest take on equal marriage, feminism and modern relationships in India. Bihari married to UPite — and making it work on their own terms.
Follow them on Instagram: @the_iitian_couple | @bibhuti_vipin Business enquiries: bibhuti.vipin@gmail.com

About The xMonks Drive: The xMonks Drive is hosted by Gaurav Arora — real, unfiltered conversations with people who are living life on their own terms. Careers, relationships, identity, purpose — nothing is off limits.
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