In this episode, Sandra explores the deep roots of shame, inadequacy, and the ultimate betrayal of self when we abandon our true identity. She shares personal stories and insights on how these feelings impact our lives and how reconnecting with our true self can lead to healing and fulfillment.

The opinions shared on this podcast are solely those of the hosts, Sandra and Kena. If you are in crisis or feel you may be in danger, please seek professional help. Additional support resources can be found on the Call Me Courage blog page. https://www.callmecouragepodcast.com/blog

SANDRA’S KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Inadequacy whispers “I can’t,” and shame twists it into “I’m not enough.”
• Avoidance isn’t failure — it’s protection from pain that feels too heavy to face.
• The real wound is the disconnection from our True Self — the part of us that knows our worth.
• Healing begins when we stop abandoning ourselves and return to alignment with who we truly are.

KENA’S NEW MANTRA FROM THIS EPISODE

“Can’t skip steps.”

This can from Sandra explaining that you need to do the work in order to uncover feelings especially the underlying feelings. There are no shortcuts, you cannot skip any of the steps.

KEYWORDS

shame, inadequacy, true self, emotional healing, self-trust, personal growth, vulnerability, self-awareness

KEY TOPICS

• The roots of shame and inadequacy
• The concept of the true self and alignment
• The impact of shame on self-trust and confidence
• The betrayal of self through shame and avoidance
• Strategies for reconnecting with the true self

TAKEAWAYS

• Inadequacy whispers, 'I can't,' and shame twists it into 'I'm not enough.'
• Avoidance isn't failure, it's protection from pain that feels too heavy to face.
• The real wound is the disconnection from our true self.
• Healing begins when we stop abandoning ourselves and return to alignment with who we truly are.

SOUND BITES

• "When shame and inadequacy pull us away from our true self, we abandon ourselves."
• "People will forget what you did, but never how you made them feel."
• "The ultimate betrayal is when we do it to ourselves."

CHAPTERS

00:00 Introduction to Shame and Inadequacy

03:28 The Personal Weight Struggle and Shame

12:10 Understanding the Ultimate Betrayal

14:03 Connecting with the True Self

23:43 Conclusion and Next Steps

27:12 NEWCHAPTER

RESOURCES

The Secret Language of Feelings by Calvin D. Banyan - https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01N6V7V7Q

Maya Angelou's quote on feelings - https://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/maya_angelou_121993

The Valid Method for emotional healing - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D4hk6F3LbSQ&list=PLnX06q4KztMpozh8lBxBV2xZJy3gZDAUv&index=5

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