“You do not need to control your way into safety. You need to notice where control is running the show.”

Topics Discussed

• Fertility burnout and why over-efforting feels safe but keeps you stuck

• IVF trauma and how control becomes a subconscious coping strategy

• The illusion of control as protection for the nervous system

• Subconscious healing through awareness, not fixing

• Why frequency behind action matters more than the action itself

• Gut health, mindset, emotional healing, and nervous system regulation as lived experiences

• Slowing down without losing momentum or responsibility

Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be.

This episode kicks off a gentle but powerful series that is not about learning more or doing more. It is about noticing what is already happening beneath the surface. Especially the places where control has quietly become your safety net. If you are navigating fertility burnout, IVF trauma, or that constant feeling of having to stay on top of everything just to survive, this conversation is for you.

We talk about the mundane moments no one glamorizes. Your to do list. The way you plan your day. The subtle micromanaging that feels responsible but actually keeps your nervous system on edge. I am not here to tell you to stop controlling your life. I am here to help you see where control is driving, and where it might be costing you more than it gives.

This is not about judgment or immediate change. It is about radical honesty, awareness, and compassion. The kind that opens the door to real subconscious healing. By the end of this episode, you may realize that the slow, seemingly pointless noticing is exactly where the deepest shifts in fertility, mindset, emotional healing, and frequency actually begin. And next week, we go even deeper into why control feels safe, and how to gently unwind it.

“If slowing down feels pointless, that is usually where the real work is.”

Timestamps

01:05: Week one begins, why the slow, mundane work is where true shifts happen

02:03: The fertility to do list and how control hides in plain sight

02:57: Control, obligation, and asking whether it actually lights you up

03:54: Frequency behind action, inspired movement versus pushing from fear

05:47: Why the old fast ways did not work, and the invitation to slow down with grace

Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/week-one-infertility-ivf-burnout-control-the-slow-shifts-that-actually-change-everything

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Monica

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Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.