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It's All Relative with Dr Eliza Filby

It's All Relative with Dr Eliza Filby

Written by: Dr Eliza Filby
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'Different generations, same family.' Join writer and historian Dr Eliza Filby as she sits down with relatives from different generations to explore life through a generational lens, discussing how things have changed from jobs to dating, music to money, asking how different are we really? Teasing out quirky family traditions and hilarious anecdotes, It's All Relative is like eavesdropping on a Sunday family roast.

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Dr Eliza Filby
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  • Why Rich Kids are Miserable (Prof. Daniel Markovits)
    Jan 5 2026

    This episode of 'It's Relative' explores the concept of meritocracy and argues why it has become a trap. Featuring Daniel Markovitz, Yale professor and author of 'The Meritocracy Trap,' the discussion dissects the rise of elite parenting, the collapse of the middle class, and how current labor markets are exacerbating inequalities. The conversation includes insights into the social and economic pressures faced by both privileged elites and middle-class professionals, along with the impact on future generations.


    Additionally, it addresses how asset wealth and labor income contribute to this meritocratic disparity, shedding light on the paradoxical nature of today’s elite society.


    Chapters:


    00:00 Introduction: The Illusion of Meritocracy

    00:27 The Reality of Social Mobility

    01:15 Welcome to the Show

    01:38 The Meritocracy Trap Explained

    02:09 The Rise of the New Elite

    03:41 Middle Class Stagnation

    05:58 The Disappearing Mid-Skill Jobs

    08:10 The Cost of Elite Success

    09:16 The Burden of Expectations

    16:15 Economic Justice and Inequality

    16:43 The Changing Class Map

    17:22 Challenges for Today's Young Generation

    19:40 The Rise of Meritocracy: A Historical Perspective

    20:42 Winners and Losers in the Meritocratic System

    22:11 The Middle Class Squeeze

    23:00 The Dualism of Labor and Asset Wealth

    24:44 The Impact of AI on the Job Market

    26:27 Meritocracy and Immigrant Success Stories

    29:39 Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion in Meritocracy

    33:00 Gender Dynamics in the Meritocratic System

    40:01 Advice for the Next Generation

    41:21 Conclusion: The Future of Meritocracy


    About It’s All Relative

    Ever wondered why the world works the way it does? It's All Relative unravels the unspoken rules and hidden connections that shape our lives. We dig into the origins of privilege, power, and social structures, offering candid conversations that challenge assumptions and provide fresh insights into the intricate tapestry of modern society. Tune in to gain a deeper understanding of the forces that truly matter.


    About Eliza

    Dr. Eliza Filby is an award-winning speaker, bestselling author, broadcaster, and one of the world’s leading experts on generational change. Specialising in the shifts that define how we live, work, and connect across generations, Eliza delivers sharp insights, no-nonsense truths, and fresh takes on our parents' world, our present, and what’s next for our kids.


    Her latest book, Inheritocracy: It’s Time to Talk About the Bank of Mum and Dad (Biteback, 2024), became a Sunday Times Top 10 Bestseller, sparking global conversations about the future of wealth, family, and opportunity.


    Buy Inheritocracy: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Inheritocracy-Should-Talk-about-Bank/dp/1785908588


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    42 mins
  • Inheritocracy: Is Meritocracy a Myth? (Polly Toynbee)
    Dec 22 2025

    Are we living in a world where hard work isn't enough? In this episode of It’s All Relative, join Dr Eliza Filby with guest Polly Toynbee as they dissect the societal implications of the profound shift away from meritocracy, discuss the impact on social mobility and examine what this means for the future of opportunity and economic justice.


    This crucial discussion challenges the very foundations of how we understand success, exploring the undeniable rise of "Inheritocracy" – a system where inherited wealth, connections, and privilege increasingly dictate outcomes, replacing the long-cherished ideal of meritocracy.


    Take a deep dive into

    * The breakdown of traditional meritocratic pathways

    * How intergenerational wealth perpetuates inequality

    * The role of privilege in career and life success

    * The challenge of achieving true social mobility


    About It’s All Relative

    Ever wondered why the world works the way it does? It's All Relative unravels the unspoken rules and hidden connections that shape our lives. We dig into the origins of privilege, power, and social structures, offering candid conversations that challenge assumptions and provide fresh insights into the intricate tapestry of modern society. Tune in to gain a deeper understanding of the forces that truly matter.


    About Eliza

    Dr. Eliza Filby is an award-winning speaker, bestselling author, broadcaster, and one of the world’s leading experts on generational change. Specialising in the shifts that define how we live, work, and connect across generations, Eliza delivers sharp insights, no-nonsense truths, and fresh takes on our parents' world, our present, and what’s next for our kids.


    Her latest book, Inheritocracy: It’s Time to Talk About the Bank of Mum and Dad (Biteback, 2024), became a Sunday Times Top 10 Bestseller, sparking global conversations about the future of wealth, family, and opportunity.


    Buy Inheritocracy: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Inheritocracy-Should-Talk-about-Bank/dp/1785908588


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    44 mins
  • Jaded The Must Read Novel of 2024 (with Author Ela Lee)
    Feb 5 2024

    'Jade isn't even my real name. Jade began as my Starbucks name, because all children of immigrants have a Starbucks name.' Jaded is the must read novel of 2024, a debut from former City lawyer, Ela Lee. It's an interrogating exploration of race, class, work and sexual assault, not to mention what we tell ourselves (and others) in order to fit in at any cost. Ela sits down with Eliza and talks us through how she wrote Jaded in lockdown, millennial novels and heroines and the complexities and contortions involved in intersectional identity in the 21st century.


    You can follow Ela Lee and purchase her book Jaded here. For all things Dr. Eliza Filby follow here.

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    31 mins
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