Stop Trying So Damn Hard: Try Different (Self-Love, Parenting, and Busting Beauty Standards)

Sisters Michelle and Kimberly argue that “try harder” is BS, and that lasting change comes from trying differently. They do this by identifying root causes of terrible habits and by reframing goals. As an example, at the heart of Kimberly's chronic lateness was self-dislike and massive avoidance issues. Perhaps you find yourself stuck with overpacked schedules and overachieving flights of fancy. To truly build a life you want, you have to change your mindset and your behaviors.

They take a dip into kiddom, confessing unintended modeling for kids and fish-flopping homework struggles. A shift in mindset prompted by a creative teacher made all the difference as they offered accommodations mom never thought of. They complain that schools today are too cookie-cutter. They wish individualized education plans were available for every student, not just the ones displaying delays or behaviors.

The conversation sharply critiques beauty standards and laments the lifelong weight-loss narrative that has shaped too many young girls and women. They wonder whether new GLP-1 drugs will only shift the focus of weight shame. Michelle shares her experience living with type 1 diabetes, including how better technology has helped make sugar highs the exception, not the norm.

How do you find intrinsic motivation to make a life change? You might save more money by clarifying your “why.” Considering barriers such as tics, menopause, and trauma, weight-loss as a primary goal seems futile. You might attain better health and happiness by resisting the temptation to make weight-loss a primary goal. Instead, focus on manageable habits like walking.