Questions and Sexgestions Part 1 - Painful Sex and a Religious Upbringing

In this episode of Keeping It Up with the Joneses, hosts welcome Marliett, a social worker and therapist, to answer listeners' questions.The discussion focuses on a listener's dilemma involving painful intercourse and low libido despite attempts through various therapies. The hosts provide professional insights suggesting potential approaches including individual exploration, communicating sexual needs with a partner, and considering the impacts of a religious upbringing. They emphasize the importance of removing pressure, broadening the definition of sex, and introducing mindfulness and somatic techniques. The conversation highlights the necessity of mutual understanding and the role of personalized sexual experiences in relationship satisfaction.

00:00 Welcome and Guest Introduction
00:53 Marliett's Background and Fun Facts
04:55 Listener Question: Painful Sex and Vaginismus
07:25 Exploring Solutions and Therapy
11:42 Religious Context and Navigating Religious Messages About Sex
28:00 Addressing Sexual Conversations and Education
30:44 The Importance of Sexual Knowledge and Therapy
32:32 Final Thoughts and Sexgestions

When Sex Sucks: Understanding Mutual Sexual Dissatisfaction in Relationships

***TRIGGER WARNING*** This episode discusses the topic of sexual coercion at time point 12:41 and the hosts make some follow up comments later in the episode.

In this episode of 'Keeping it Up with the Joneses,' hosts Adam Jones and Rebecca Lucero Jones discuss the issues of mutual dissatisfaction in sexual relationships among couples. The hosts dive into the challenges couples face when both partners are unhappy with their sex life. Key points include the prevalence of complaining, disengagement, and manipulation in these relationships, as well as the occurrence of coercion. The hosts discuss strategies for improving sexual communication and increasing shared decision-making. They also provide practical advice on how couples can take responsibility for improving their sexual relationship, offering a list of questions that individuals can ask themselves as the self-reflect on their own contribution to the sexual relationship.

00:00 When Sex Sucks
01:41 Communication Behaviors in Dissatisfied Couples
04:26 Complaining
05:36 Disengagement
07:41 Compromise
09:03 Manipulation
12:41 Coercion
17:51 Gatekeeping
22:06 Outcomes for Dissatisfied Couples
23:23 Arguments
26:36 Sexggestions
40:32 Questions to Ask Yourself