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In this episode, I’m sharing the 12 powerful reflection questions I’m personally using to make sure that 2026 is not another year on repeat.

If you’ve ever reached the end of a year thinking “Nothing really changed”, despite good intentions, this episode is for you.

I talk honestly about why 2025 felt like a Groundhog Day year for me, why internal change always comes before external results, and how clarity, self-honesty, and nervous-system-led reflection are the foundations for real transformation.

✨ The 12 Questions to Reflect On for 2026

1️⃣ What went well in 2025?

What were your wins? What brought you joy, growth, or insight?

2️⃣ What didn’t work?

What felt heavy, draining, misaligned, or simply didn’t move the needle?

3️⃣ What patterns repeated in 2025?

In work, relationships, or behaviours, and what part did you play in keeping them alive?

4️⃣ What gave you energy and what drained it?

Who and what lit you up? Who and what left you depleted?

5️⃣ Who truly supported you?

And who couldn’t meet you where you were?

6️⃣ What did 2025 teach you about who you are becoming?

What identity shifts happened beneath the surface?

7️⃣ What do you want to be celebrating at the end of 2026?

Be specific. What does “success” actually look like for you?

8️⃣ What are your top 3 priorities for 2026 and why?

The why is everything when motivation dips.

9️⃣ What habits, behaviours, or beliefs need to be released?

What’s quietly keeping you stuck or playing small?

🔟 What daily or weekly practices will support you?

Especially practices that regulate your nervous system and keep you grounded.

1️⃣1️⃣ Where did you experience the most joy or peace last year?

And how can you consciously create more of that?

1️⃣2️⃣ If you met your future self at the end of 2026…

What would they thank you for starting now?

💫 Want to Go Deeper?

I’m hosting a New Year Reflection & Intention Setting Workshop where we'll:

- Break unconscious patterns
- Shift limiting beliefs
- Ground intentions into your nervous system
- Journey to meet your future self

📅 Wednesday 7th January
🕖 7pm UK | 9pm South Africa I 2pm EST I 11am PST
🎥 Replay available
💷 £22

👉 All details and the booking link are HERE

Thank you, as always, for being here and sharing this space with me.
I’ll see you in the next episode 💛

If you’re done playing small and ready to lead yourself — you’re in the right place.

I’m Emma O’Brien — Martha Beck trained and certified life coach, HeartMath practitioner, and shamanic healer helping high-achieving women stop second-guessing themselves and finally trust their own voice.

Through nervous system re-calibration, strategic coaching, and deep energetic work, I help you move from self-doubt to self-trust so you can create a life you actually want to be in — no external approval required.

🌀 Want to work together?

Explore the 6-week Nervous System Reset, 1:1 coaching, or Shamanic Soul Retrieval sessions here: emmaobriencoach.com

Questions or ready to chat?

DM me on Instagram @emmaobriencoach
or book a free connection call HERE.

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Have you reached the end of this year and realised… nothing has really changed?

In this episode of Lemons & Pineapples, I’m speaking directly to you if you promised yourself last year would be different — and you’re now finding yourself in the same relationship, the same financial loop, the same job, or the same patterns that have followed you for years.

If 2025 is coming to a close and you’re feeling frustrated, disappointed, or quietly asking yourself “How am I still here?” — this episode is for you.

I share honestly about why real change doesn’t happen just because we want it to, and what actually needs to shift so that 2026 doesn’t become another repeat of the past. We often know what actions we should take, but still don’t take them — and the reason for that lives much deeper than motivation or willpower.

In this episode, I invite you to slow down and reflect on:

• Why familiarity keeps us stuck more than fear
• How unconscious beliefs drive our choices around relationships, money, and career
• Why we avoid difficult conversations and big decisions
• How self-worth sits at the centre of lasting change
• The real cost of staying exactly where you are for another year

I walk you through three powerful questions that will help you identify what hasn’t changed, why it hasn’t changed, and what needs to shift internally for your external reality to finally move.

This episode is also a personal declaration. I share my own commitment to doing things differently — and I invite you to make that commitment with me.

I also share details of my New Year Reflection & Intention Setting Workshop, where I’ll guide you through reflecting on 2025, releasing what hasn’t worked, and consciously stepping into the version of you who finishes 2026 in a very different place.

Sign up to the New Year Workshop HERE.

If you’re tired of telling yourself “next year will be different” and you’re ready to understand what actually creates change — this episode will meet you exactly where you are.

If you’re done playing small and ready to lead yourself — you’re in the right place.

I’m Emma O’Brien — Martha Beck trained and certified life coach, HeartMath practitioner, and shamanic healer helping high-achieving women stop second-guessing themselves and finally trust their own voice.

Through nervous system re-calibration, strategic coaching, and deep energetic work, I help you move from self-doubt to self-trust so you can create a life you actually want to be in — no external approval required.

🌀 Want to work together?

Explore the 6-week Nervous System Reset, 1:1 coaching, or Shamanic Soul Retrieval sessions here: emmaobriencoach.com

Questions or ready to chat?

DM me on Instagram @emmaobriencoach
or book a free connection call HERE.

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In this powerful and deeply honest conversation, I'm joined by clinical psychologist, relationship coach, and bestselling author Dr. Ray Doktor to explore why so many capable, self-aware women keep finding themselves drawn to emotionally unavailable men and, more importantly, how to change that pattern at the root.

Together, we unpack the hidden beliefs, childhood conditioning, attachment dynamics, and unspoken fears that keep women over-functioning, people-pleasing, and waiting for men to meet their potential rather than their reality.

This episode goes beyond surface-level dating advice and dives into the belief shifts, communication skills, and self-worth work required to create relationships rooted in mutual availability, safety, and growth.

If you’ve ever thought:

• “If I ask for what I need, he’ll leave”
• “I just need to be more understanding”
• “Why do I always attract the same kind of man?”

…this conversation will land deeply.

✨ In this episode, we explore:

• The core hidden belief that pulls powerful women toward unavailable partners
• Why over-functioning and “being the strong one” can repel emotionally available men
• The danger of falling in love with potential instead of reality
• How early family dynamics shape adult relationship patterns
• Why poor communication isn’t cruelty — it’s often immaturity and lack of modeling
• The fear many women carry: “If I speak my truth, I’ll be abandoned”
• How to tell the difference between healthy compromise and self-betrayal
• Why relationships don’t complete us — they reveal us
• What emotionally mature dating actually looks like in practice

Dr. Ray also shares the key beliefs that quietly sabotage relationships and explains why healing your inner world is the most reliable way to change who you attract.

📘 Recommended Resource

Dr. Ray’s book:

All It Takes Is One; Drop Your One BIG Hidden Belief and Master Your Life

A powerful blend of insight and practical exercises to help you identify and release the one belief holding you back — in love and life. Buy the book HERE.

🔗 Connect with Dr. Ray

Visit his website for workshops, coaching, and resources:
raydoktor.com

If you’re done playing small and ready to lead yourself — you’re in the right place.

I’m Emma O’Brien — Martha Beck trained and certified life coach, HeartMath practitioner, and shamanic healer helping high-achieving women stop second-guessing themselves and finally trust their own voice.

Through nervous system re-calibration, strategic coaching, and deep energetic work, I help you move from self-doubt to self-trust so you can create a life you actually want to be in — no external approval required.

🌀 Want to work together?

Explore the 6-week Nervous System Reset, 1:1 coaching, or Shamanic Soul Retrieval sessions here: emmaobriencoach.com

Questions or ready to chat?

DM me on Instagram @emmaobriencoach
or book a free connection call HERE.