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Tune in for an emotionally honest episode where Desiree, Michelle, and Doree unpack what self-esteem really is - and what it isn’t. They explore how childhood, family expectations, body image, bullying, and societal standards shape the way we see ourselves, often tying our worth to productivity, perfectionism, and people-pleasing.​

They dive into the difference between genuine confidence and arrogance, how self-talk quietly erodes (or supports) self-esteem, and why low self-esteem can make life feel exhausting. Doree brings in manifestation and explains why you can’t call in what you don’t believe you deserve, while Desiree shares powerful stories that influenced her understanding of self-esteem & worthiness from her journey.​

What You’ll Learn in This Episode

• A practical definition of self-esteem and how it shows up in real life​
• How childhood, caregivers, and early experiences quietly program your self-worth​
• Why self-esteem issues affect both women and men, just in different ways​
• The difference between confidence and arrogance + how to spot each in yourself and others​
• How your body posture and somatic habits can shift how confident you feel
• Why low self-esteem can block manifestation and keep you repeating the same patterns​
• How to “borrow belief” from others when your own self-belief is at rock bottom​
• Why learning to say “no” is a powerful self-esteem move, not selfishness​

Episode Resources

• “What is Self-Esteem?” by Kelly Machan, M.A. and Karin S. Ryan, M.A (article).​
• Book: "Your Body Is Your Brain” by Amanda Blake (on leveraging somatic intelligence).​
• Amy Cuddy’s TEDx Talk on power posing / “Superman pose” for confidence.​

If this episode on self-esteem, confidence, and manifestation resonated with you, share it with a friend who needs a reminder that they matter. Subscribe to Life Coaches Unfiltered so you don’t miss upcoming conversations that connect self-esteem with boundaries, relationships, and creating a life that actually feels like yours.

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If overthinking burned calories, half of us would already be in our goal jeans. Instead, it’s burning us out. It’s impacting our sleep, time, and sanity. In this episode of Life Coaches Unfiltered, Desiree, Michelle, and Doree get honest about what happens when your brain won’t shut off, you’re "catastrophizing" every scenario, and you’re replaying past conversations on a loop.​

They unpack what overthinking actually is, how it shows up as rumination about the past and worry about the future, and why your nervous system believes worst-case scenarios are keeping you safe.

Along the way, they share real-life stories - from ice-storm prep with contingency plans all the way to Z, to lying awake worrying about insurance claims, to imagining you’ve ruined a relationship just because someone hasn’t texted back.

You’ll also hear how perfectionism, people-pleasing, grief, and busyness all feed overthinking, and where the line is between healthy reflection and mental torture. Most importantly, the coaches offer simple, practical tools you can use right away: how to notice when you’re looping, how to get thoughts out of your head and onto paper, and how to gently question your own stories with “Is this true?” and “Where is the evidence?”.

In this episode, we cover:

• What overthinking is and how it differs from problem-solving
• Rumination about the past vs. anxiety about the future
• Real-life examples of catastrophizing (storms, insurance, step-parenting, texts)
• How grief and constant busyness can delay emotions until you finally slow down
• The perfectionism trap and analysis paralysis at work and at home
• When overthinking becomes a problem (sleep, looping, stalled decisions, relationships)
• List-making, brain dumps, and time-limited “thinking windows”
• Becoming your own inner coach with evidence checks and kinder self-talk
• How to approach conversations when you’re afraid you hurt someone
  
  
  

You’ll walk away with:

• Language to spot when you’ve crossed from planning into overthinking
• Practical tools to interrupt 3 AM spirals and fall asleep more easily
• A way to question your stories without gaslighting yourself

Permission to take one small imperfect action instead of waiting for things to feel perfect

Desiree, compassionate Grief Mentor & Coach. Helping midlife humans learn and grow from grief & loss.

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When life finally calms down, does your brain immediately ask, “Okay, but what’s about to go wrong?”

In this episode of Life Coaches Unfiltered, Desiree and Michelle dive into hypervigilance and what it feels like.

Living on constant high alert, always waiting for the other shoe to drop and how it shows up for stressed, burned-out women in midlife.​

​From obsessing over germs after COVID to mentally rehearsing every worst‑case scenario in your business, relationships, and health, they talk about how hypervigilance is often a learned survival response from grief, illness, trauma, caregiving, and years of chronic stress, not a personal flaw.

You’ll hear real stories about how COVID impacted Desiree and her fear of germs, backseat driving with a fear of car accidents, and always choosing the restaurant seat that faces the door.

The coaches unpack the difference between healthy intuition and hypervigilance, why your nervous system may still act as if the emergency is happening long after the crisis is over, and how mirror neurons mean your dysregulated state can spread. The good news? Calm is also contagious.

They also share practical tools to gently work with hypervigilance instead of shaming yourself for it.

​In this episode, we talk about:

• What hypervigilance actually is (and why it’s more than “just anxiety”)
• How hypervigilance develops after grief, illness, caregiving, chaotic childhoods, or repeated life disruptions
• Signs you’re living on high alert: can’t relax when it’s quiet, always scanning for danger, exhausted but unable to shut your brain off
• The difference between intuition (calm, grounded, clear) and hypervigilance (urgent, loud, repetitive)
• How hypervigilance strains sleep, health, and relationships—and why partners can feel criticized or micromanaged
• Small, nervous‑system‑friendly practices to start feeling safer in your own body

If you're a midlife woman, who's tired of being "on all the time", sleeping with one eye open (figuratively & literally), this episode is for you.

Desiree, compassionate Grief Mentor & Coach. Helping midlife humans learn and grow from grief & loss.

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Michelle Hibbert

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