We did the thing you’re never quite sure you’re ready for—we read the comments. The thoughtful ones, the confusing ones, the ones that made us pause, nod or quietly rethink things. If you’ve ever hesitated before opening a comment thread, or wondered what happens on the other side of the mic, come sit with us.

Notes/additional info:

• At 3:07, the individual Melody is referring to is Roxane Gay, not Rosamund Gay.

Related links:

• Episode 010: "Who's helping who? When support feels like an accusation"
• Episode 001: "Are you a failure? When proven methods don't work for you"
• Episode 002: "Are you judging me? Or is it my trauma?"
• Episode 004: "Is my body wrong? Unlearning the lies about our bodies"
• Episode 009: "Is it me? Rewiring relationships without gaslighting myself"
• Article "Four guiding questions for discerning what's yours to carry—and what you need to lovingly set down"

✨ Ready to be a little kinder to yourself? Download our free 5-day self-compassion challenge—with daily prompts, gentle exercises and tools to help you stop the spiral of self-criticism and start speaking to yourself like a friend.

In this episode, we’re looking back at the moments from past conversations that stuck with us. The ones that shifted something inside us weeks or even months later. As we celebrate a whole year of Life in the Grey (what?!), we’re revisiting the episode that changed the way we see relationships and unpacking why some dynamics feel so complicated once we’re a little older, wiser and more healed.

Related links:

• Episode 009: “Is it me? Rewiring relationships without gaslighting myself”
• Episode 001: “Are you a failure? When proven methods don't work for you”

✨ Ready to be a little kinder to yourself? Download our free 5-day self-compassion challenge—with daily prompts, gentle exercises and tools to help you stop the spiral of self-criticism and start speaking to yourself like a friend.

Ever feel guilty for getting annoyed at the people you love most? You’re not alone. In this episode of Life in the Grey, we explore that tricky space where love and irritation collide. From fleeting frustrations with your partner, child or friend to the guilt that sneaks in afterward, we talk through why these feelings happen, what they really mean and why having them doesn’t make you a “bad person.”

Related links:

• Article: “What to do when my child is out-of-control” (about emotional regulation)

✨ Ready to be a little kinder to yourself? Download our free 5-day self-compassion challenge—with daily prompts, gentle exercises and tools to help you stop the spiral of self-criticism and start speaking to yourself like a friend.

Ever had someone’s well-meaning advice leave you feeling more judged than helped? Or maybe you’ve been on the other side—tried to help someone and ended up feeling like your “support” wasn’t received the way you meant it? In this episode of Life in the Grey, we explore something we call “presumptuous care”, when help comes with assumptions, expectations or even unintended guilt.

Related links:

• Article: “The quiet power of helping less”

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This isn’t a “how-to” episode. It’s more of a “come sit with us while we wrestle” kind of conversation, even with a phrase as cringe as, “It’s not you, it’s me”. We talk about friendships that both give life and drive us up the wall, kids who push every button and the uncomfortable truth that sometimes the problem isn’t them—it’s us. But not in the shame-filled, “I’m the worst” kind of way. More in the, “Wait . . . maybe my expectations are the real trigger here” kind of way. If you’ve ever asked yourself whether your reaction says more about your past than the person in front of you, you’ll feel right at home in this one.

Related links:

• Article "Four guiding questions for discerning what's yours to carry—and what you need to lovingly set down"

✨ Ready to be a little kinder to yourself? Download our free 5-day self-compassion challenge—with daily prompts, gentle exercises and tools to help you stop the spiral of self-criticism and start speaking to yourself like a friend.

Ever felt cornered by someone’s absolute certainty—about parenting, health or even quinoa—and found yourself scrambling to defend your every thought? In this episode of Life in the Grey, we unpack the magic of two little words: “It depends.” Not as a cop-out, but as a way to hold space for nuance, curiosity and compassion—without caving to the pressure to agree or advise—saving you from quinoa-induced stomach cramps.

Related links:

• Article "Parenting without the guilt"
• Article "4 simple ways to manage screen time for kids"

✨ Ready to be a little kinder to yourself? Download our free 5-day self-compassion challenge—with daily prompts, gentle exercises and tools to help you stop the spiral of self-criticism and start speaking to yourself like a friend.

In this episode of Life in the Grey, we dive into the messy and uncomfortable relatable territory of apologies, blame and that sneaky little voice that tells us everything is somehow our fault. From saying sorry to our kids (even when our ego protests), to navigating guilt, expectations and the fine line between accountability and over-apologising—we’re talking about all of it.

Is saying sorry always the right thing? What if you don’t agree with the other person’s version of events? And how do you know if you’re standing in integrity or just gaslighting yourself?

Related links:

• Article "Why we should say sorry to our kids"
• ABC News article “Why women say sorry too much and what to say—and do—instead”

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You know how everyone’s a psychologist these days? Throwing around words like “narcissist” or “trauma” like they’re personality types on a BuzzFeed quiz? In this episode, we chat about what happens when labels get tossed around too quickly—especially the big ones. Where’s the line between naming something helpful and just slapping on a diagnosis that doesn’t fit? And what does it mean for our relationships when we get it wrong?

Related links:

• Article: “Is your child a bully? Here’s what to do”

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