Love begins as chemistry, but it lasts through curiosity. This episode, we share the famous "36 Questions" that may have played an integral part in securing our relationship's foundation. Grab some wine, sit down with someone you want to love, and let's get started!
"There may be a better way to spark a connection that could lead to two strangers falling in love—and it all it takes is 36 questions.
Thank psychologist Arthur Aron for this potential shortcut to romance. As part of his scientific research into relationships in 1997, Dr. Aron and his team conducted a study that explored whether two strangers could accelerate closeness and intimacy by asking a series of questions that become increasingly more personal and revealing. Basically, the goal is to fast-track your date past Awkward Alley straight into Lasting Love Lane.
It's been 25 years since the study was first published, and the 36 questions have become more than just a tool to help individuals fall in love. In fact, they can help long-term couples—who think they already know everything about each other—discover new facets of their partner and fall in love again, says Tracy K. Ross, LCSW, a couples and family therapist in NYC, who employs the technique with clients.
The key is that "the questions build on each other and get progressively more intense, personal, revealing, vulnerable," says Ross. "So I think it's a way to see, can we still do this together? Can you still show up for me in that way? And can I reveal myself to you and be vulnerable with you?"
Still, there's no guarantee bringing a set of 36 questions to your first date will catapult you and your partner to everlasting love. Rather, Balestrieri considers the questions a way to lead into a deeper conversation that creates the opportunity for love to develop. "Having this conversation, you get to get a better sense of where do you feel defensive or guarded or unsure about some aspect of yourself and where does your partner," she explains. "That can also tell you things about your compatibility and whether or not you're a good fit beyond the initial spark of luster limerence that might exist initially.""
-Women's Health
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Feb 16 202621 mins