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Man Alive

Man Alive

Written by: Shana James
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If you're not satisfied with your love or sex-life, and could use some insights into what makes women want more of you, tell me more about yourself here and we'll schedule a time to talk: shanajamescoaching.com/consult Don't forget to check out my new podcast, Practicing Love! -- Even men at the top of their game find themselves wanting more from life. Whether it's more meaning, a bigger impact, unshakable confidence, a hotter sex life, more money, deeper love, solid friendships or a powerful legacy… What is true success? How can a man actually reach the end of his life and look back without regret -- having lived and loved fully, rather than having been stuck in fear or a life he was "supposed to" lead? Man Alive is a series of bold, raw and gritty conversations with experts on success, power, sex, love and legacy for men who...are clear they want amazing lives?! For the past 15 years Shana James, a dating and relationship expert, has worked with thousands of men and women around the world and collaborated with hundreds of teachers and coaches. She has led workshops for dating companies like Table for Six and Match.com and been matchmaker for an MTV reality show. Shana doesn't buy into the need for rules, games or limitations. She works with men individually to find their unique power, confidence and leadership abilities, breaking open the boxes that keep them stuck, dissatisfied, or settling for less than amazing in any area of life.2023 Shana James Hygiene & Healthy Living Philosophy Social Sciences
Episodes
  • #314: What Women Wish Men Knew About Sex, Desire, and Connection
    Jun 4 2026
    Most men were never taught how to navigate a woman's desires. In fact, many were taught to fear them.

    In this candid and sometimes provocative conversation, intimacy expert Susan Bratton and I explore what becomes possible when women stop hiding what they want and men stop seeing desire as something they have to control, manage, or perform around.

    Susan has spent decades helping people create what she calls "heart-connected, conscious, passionate lovemaking." Together we explore why great sex isn't about performance, techniques, or getting it right. It's about presence, self-expression, emotional safety, and the courage to tell the truth.

    We talk about:

    • The difference between conscious lovemaking and performative sex

    • Why many women struggle to express what they truly want

    • How a woman's desires can become a roadmap rather than something to fear

    • What happens when partners stop trying to control each other and start co-creating

    • How heart connection creates deeper intimacy and better sex

    • Why asking for what you want is one of the greatest gifts you can give a partner

    • The surprising ways long-term relationships stay alive, erotic, and connected

    Susan shares stories from her own life, relationships, and decades of teaching that challenge conventional ideas about sex, intimacy, and partnership.

    While some parts of this conversation are refreshingly direct and adult in nature, the deeper invitation is one we all need: to stop performing, start telling the truth, and create relationships where we can be fully known and fully loved.

    If you've ever wondered how to create deeper connection, more satisfying intimacy, or a relationship where desire can be spoken openly, this conversation is for you.

    Get Susan's twice weekly tips for great sex at:

    https://betterlover.com/

    https://www.youtube.com/c/BetterLover

    Take Shana's quiz to see what's keeping you from the best love and sex of your life:

    https://bestlove.scoreapp.com/

    Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!):
    https://uppbeat.io/t/prigida/burble
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    30 mins
  • #313: Better, Longer, Stronger: How to Have Great, Connected Sex in Real Life
    May 21 2026

    It's becoming clearer and clearer that great sex isn't about performance. So what makes sex great?

    In this episode of Practicing Love, I'm joined by sex and relationship coach and author of Harder, Better, Longer, Stronger, Caitlin V, for a powerful and refreshingly honest conversation about what actually creates satisfying, connected sex.

    We go beyond the usual tips and techniques and explore what's really happening underneath performance pressure, mismatched expectations, and the cultural messages that shape how we show up in bed.

    Caitlin shares insights from a decade of working with men and couples—from early ejaculation and arousal challenges to the deeper emotional and relational patterns that impact intimacy.

    And we talk about what it actually takes to create a sex life that feels alive, connected, and sustainable over time.

    In this episode, we explore:

    • Why performance pressure is one of the biggest blockers to real pleasure and connection
    • What's actually behind common sexual challenges (and why it's not just physical)
    • How cultural expectations shape men's and women's experiences of sex
    • Why unlearning can be more powerful than learning new techniques
    • How presence, containment, and emotional safety unlock deeper arousal and intimacy
    • The surprising skill that most impacts long-term satisfaction

    This conversation is honest, nuanced, and deeply human.

    If you've ever felt pressure to "get it right," struggled to feel truly connected during sex, or wondered what actually creates great sex over time, this episode will open up a new way of understanding intimacy.

    Find out how to have the best love and sex of your life!

    Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!):
    https://uppbeat.io/t/prigida/burble
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    45 mins
  • What Men Miss About What Women Need for Great Sex
    Mar 12 2026

    Most men want to please the women they love. But many don't understand what actually helps a woman open, relax, and experience truly satisfying sex.

    In this episode, I talk with Certified Sexologist Kevin Anthony, host of the Love Lab Podcast, about what men often miss about what women need to make sex great for them.

    For many women, great sex doesn't start in the bedroom. It begins with safety, trust, connection, and presence. When a woman feels emotionally safe and deeply connected, her body can relax and open to pleasure. Without that foundation, sex can feel tense, pressured, or disconnected — even when both partners have good intentions.

    Kevin and I explore:

    • Why safety and trust are essential for women's sexual pleasure
    • How connection starts long before the bedroom
    • The role of emotional intelligence in great sex
    • How presence creates much better sex than performance
    • The physical things many men misunderstand about foreplay
    • Why women's arousal is more fluid and responsive than many men realize
    • How you can create more harmony, connection, and passion

    This conversation will give you powerful new perspectives to create deeper intimacy, better sex, and a more connected relationship.

    Find out how to have the best love and sex of your life! Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!):
    https://uppbeat.io/t/prigida/burble
    License code: IHVPCN3F5C1BO2Q0
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    48 mins
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