In this week’s episode of the Money Magic podcast episode, Vangile talks about explore the transformative journey of evolving from the Fixer Money Archetype to the Sovereign One.

She delves into the origins of the Fixer archetype and explains how unresolved trauma often manifests as a need to control our environment, particularly within family dynamics.

Vangile explains how the need to control is deeply rooted in trauma responses, including feelings of powerlessness, fear, and a desire to avoid vulnerability. She discusses how control may initially create a sense of safety but can have unintended consequences—from fostering dependency and resentment to reinforcing dysfunctional family patterns. These dynamics can block authentic connection, erode boundaries, and perpetuate cycles of over-responsibility and burnout.

This episode also examines how the Fixer archetype impacts family relationships, preventing others from developing self-reliance and stifling mutual growth.

She also explores the Sovereign archetype as the evolved state of the Fixer. The Sovereign One leads with confidence, trusts themselves and others, sets clear boundaries, and creates relationships built on trust and mutual respect.

This is another insightful episode.

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[02:08] - Introduction to the podcast

[05:42] - Introduction to the Fixer Archetype

[09:30] - The role of a Fixer in the family

[15:50] - The Fixer’s role and life lessons

[18:29] - How Fixer’s behave as children

[25:45] - The parentified child who is an adult at a young age

[31:10] The difference between the Destroyer and Fixer Archetypes

[38:37] - How Fixer’s respond to family’s financial problems

[43:11] - The Fixer’s feelings of guilt around money

[50:38] - Why it’s essential for a Fixer to heal

[57:00] - Healing the God Wound as a Fixer

[01:02:28] - How the Sovereign One behaves compared to The Fixer

[01:09:35} - The Destroyer - Fixer relationship

[01:19:10] - Where to get the “What’s Your Money Personality?” book

[01:20:33] - Coaching services

Notable Quotes

1. “A strong Fixer archetype can move an entire family from abject poverty to true wealth or financial freedom in a single generation.”
2. “The Fixer is determined to keep the family together even if it means doing so on a shaky foundation.”
3. “Fixers don’t mind spending money on things like shares, investing, buying property, art, if art is an investment. If they have a hobby that’s fun, that hobby is making money for them.”
4. “One of the things a Fixer has to do is heal their God Wound because they have a God complex.”
5. “A true Fixer will work on finding a solution to their income problems and work to make it happen, no matter what.”

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In this podcast episode, Vangile talks about the "RunAway archetype" and its transformation into the "Grounded Seeker."

Vangile explains the behavioral patterns, core wounds, and healing journey of the RunAway, which involves avoiding uncomfortable financial situations and feelings due to learned trauma responses.

The RunAway archetype often manifests through avoidance, escapism, and impulsive spending, leading to cycles of debt and financial instability.

The RunAway’s transformation involves acknowledging the need for change, practicing self-awareness, and learning to feel safe in the body.

The Grounded Seeker archetype embodies stability, presence, and financial awareness, enabling individuals to build generational wealth and improve family dynamics.

Vangile emphasizes how the RunAway thrives by developing routines, coming into their bodies and regulating their nervous system.

This is another insightful episode.

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[02:08] - Introduction to the podcast

[03:59] - Discussion on the runaway archetype and its transformation

[08:15] - Characteristics and behaviors of the RunAway archetype

[14:03] - Effects of trauma on the runaway archetype and family dynamics

[18:14] - Dissociation and externalizing security

[25:10] - Discussion on busyness and financial habits of runaways

[29:07] - Differences between runaway and sweet one archetypes in conflict avoidance

[33:08] - Short-term solutions and the allure of quick fixes

[37:29] - Physical manifestations of trauma and its impact on the body

[40:38] - Cycles of debt and financial avoidance

[44:35] - Impulsive spending and its consequences

[51:50] - Addiction tendencies and family relationships

[54:34] - Beginning the healing journey and physical symptoms

[57:34] - Importance of somatic work and mind-body connection

[01:04:21] - Characteristics of the grounded seeker archetype

[01:07:08] - Developing self-trust and financial responsibility

[01:10:59] - Key practices for the grounded seeker

[01:13:36] - Practicing neutrality with money

[01:16:10] - Building financial trust and empowerment

[01:18:48] - Closing remarks and reflection prompts

[01:25:45] - Information on where to find the book and how to work with Vangile

[01:32:46] - Details on one-on-one coaching

[01:34:03] - Final comments and participant interaction

Notable Quotes

1. "The runaway archetype has learned to respond to trauma predominantly by going into the flight response."

1. "Some of us who are the runaway archetype learn to deal with money by avoiding responsibility."
2. "The runaway's role is to metabolize the unseen and unprocessed trauma in the family."
3. "The grounded seeker's role is to teach every family member to acknowledge their own feelings."
4. "The grounded seeker is all about being in the body and setting boundaries."

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In this podcast episode, Vangile talks about the Destroyer Archetype which is known for rebellion and bringing family secrets to light, often seen as difficult or an outcast.

The Destroyer archetype is someone who often rebels against family norms and is seen as a "black sheep." Destroyers carry a strong sense of independence, yet this can lead to feelings of isolation.

The Destroyer’s journey is often marked by deep wounds, including feelings of abandonment, rejection, and self-doubt. Growing up in chaotic environments can lead to difficulties managing finances.

Vangile explains that Destroyers, though often misunderstood, play a crucial role in family dynamics. They bring hidden truths and secrets to light, often disrupting the status quo. This role can be painful but ultimately leads to healing and growth within the family.

The Destroyer’s wounds of not belonging can create an overwhelming fear of failure, particularly regarding money. This can result in stagnation, where this archetype remains stuck in unsatisfying financial situations.

In an effort to feel a sense of belonging or acceptance, Destroyers may overcompensate by spending excessively on material goods or experiences.

This is another insightful episode.

Tune in!

[02:08] - Introduction to the podcast

[04:00] - Discussion on the destroyer archetype

[08:27] – The Destroyer’s role in the family

[17:32] - Challenges faced by destroyers in following traditional financial advice

[20:37] - Introduction to the destroyer archetype's characteristics

[24:59] - Importance of the destroyer archetype

[30:32] - The independence of destroyers and their challenges in adulthood

[35:00] - Importance of healthy conflict initiated by destroyers

[39:39] - Core wounds of the destroyer archetype and their financial impact

[45:41] - Impact of fear of being too much

[49:39] - How fear of rejection affects destroyers' finances

[54:02] - The healing journey of the destroyer archetype

[58:17] - Releasing thoughts and emotions in the body

[01:01:16] - Transition from destroyer to renovator archetype

[01:02:39] - Explanation of the renovator's role in the family

[01:06:57] - How healing affects destroyers' financial behavior

[01:11:18] - The Destroyers' financial transformation after healing

[01:19:30] - Information on purchasing the book and accessing resources

[01:23:47] - Introduction to one-on-one coaching and its benefits

[01:33:47] – Closing remarks

Notable Quotes

1. "The destroyer reveals and may actually display all the hidden toxic behaviour in the family, often in a violent and unpleasant manner."
2. "The fixer archetype is the strongest energetically in the family. The second strongest is the destroyer."
3. "Once you understand your archetype and you start to understand your main way of interacting with money, you can start to see when you are being triggered by money.”
4. "We all have different reasons for not being able to make money."
5. "For change to happen, you have to have some chaos. You have to have some friction."
6. “A destroyer that conforms impacts their income because it goes against their soul-patterning around how they are here to make money."

One on One Coaching: https://www.wealthy-money.com/coaching

Money Magic course: https://www.wealthy-money.com/moneymagic

7 Day Tapping into Ancestral Money Wisdom Training: https://wealthy-money.com/training

Let’s connect on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vangilemakwakwa/