Do you say yes when you want to say no, then wonder why you feel exhausted?

In this episode I talk with Dr. Alana Greco about why people-pleasing forms, how it quietly erodes self-worth, and how to stop the cycle.

We trace the pattern back to childhood survival, discuss the four types of boundaries most people miss, and walk through the self-compassion shift that helps change behaviour.

This episode will change your life by changing how you deal with people pleasing.

Dr. Alana Greco is a clinical psychologist helping people build self-worth, set boundaries, and overcome people-pleasing and perfectionism.

Timestamps:

(00:00) Introduction

(02:15) Why people-pleasing starts

(05:40) Childhood roots and survival patterns

(09:10) Recognizing the cycle

(12:45) Setting and understanding boundaries

(16:30) The four types of boundaries

(20:05) Self-compassion and the BRAVE framework

(25:20) Rebuilding self-worth

(30:10) How to handle negative reactions when you change

(35:40) Linking self-worth to purpose

(41:00) Comparison, validation and social media

(47:25) Living in alignment with your values

(53:00) Instant gratification and dopamine

(58:15) Redefining success

(01:04:40) Purpose and growth

(01:10:50) Self-care as self-respect

(01:15:30) Final reflections and closing questions

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Website: https://inspiringgrowthpsychology.com.au

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If you’ve been trying to outthink your anxiety - replaying the same thoughts, searching for the perfect solution, telling yourself “once I figure this out, I’ll be fine” - this episode will land.

Because anxiety doesn’t just live in your mind. It lives in your body. And when you try to solve a body experience with logic, you often end up feeding the spiral instead of calming it.

I’m joined by Dr Jenn Rapkin (naturopathic doctor + somatic practitioner) to unpack the difference between sitting with the story (rumination, what-ifs, worst-case scenarios) and sitting with the sensation (the actual physical feeling that rises, peaks, and passes). We talk about why your thoughts don’t always have your back, why “fixing” can keep anxiety alive, and the simplest way to start working with your body instead of against it.

Dr Jenn Rapkin is a naturopathic doctor and somatic practitioner, and the author of The Feeling Muscle: How Felt Emotion Can Help You Sit With and Outlast Hard Feelings.

(00:00) Introduction

(00:59) Anxiety Lives in the Body

(03:22) Sitting With Sensations

(07:53) Culture Trains Emotional Avoidance

(10:09) Why Feelings Set You Free

(14:23) Life Is Meant to Be Hard

(17:32) Acceptance Without Giving Up

(18:56) Midlife Timeline Panic

(21:50) Reframing Time and Possibility

(26:32) Detachment Brings Ease and Joy

(29:49) Social Media Fuels Comparison

(31:00) Presence Over Distraction

(32:58) Kids and Screen Culture

(35:15) Connection Beats Tech

(37:24) Why She Does This Work

(40:52) OCD and Mental Health Talk

(45:47) The Feeling Muscle Book

(48:53) First Steps to Feelings

(51:55) Exposure and Doing Hard Things

(54:36) Advice and Happiness

(56:40) Wrap Up and Support

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Website: https://drjennrapkin.com/

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If you’re exhausted from replaying conversations, second-guessing your choices, and filtering your personality through “what will they think?” - this episode will help.

I’m joined by Jordanna Bornensztajn (comedian, communication expert, keynote speaker) to unpack the real reason so many high-functioning people feel stuck: fear of judgment.

We talk about why judgment is the #1 fear she sees in workshops, why most of the “pressure” you feel is actually self-generated, and the mindset shift that instantly loosens its grip: stop making it about you. We also get into how confidence is built through messy action (not certainty), why your brain treats social risk like physical danger, and how to use embarrassment and failure as fuel instead of proof that you’re “behind.”

This episode will change your life by changing your relationship with judgment.

Jordanna is a comedian, communication expert, keynote speaker, and public speaking coach. She’s the author of The Little Book of Influence: 8 Keys to Transformative Communication.

(00:00) Introduction

(00:51) Public Speaking Fears: The ‘It’s Not About You’ Reframe

(03:50) Perfectionism Kills Presence: Spontaneity & Real Connection

(05:47) Authenticity as a Buzzword vs the Real Thing

(07:15) Breaking Habits: Pushing Through the ‘This Feels Weird’ Threshold

(09:39) Real Confidence = Taking Messy Action Anyway

(13:06) The Two Voices in Your Head: Accept Fear, Choose Courage

(14:50) Your Body Thinks You’re in Danger: Getting Perspective on Nerves

(16:40) Storytelling & Speaking Your Fears Out Loud (Plus a Quick Resource Break)

(20:34) Turning Vulnerabilities into Strengths (Comedy, Honesty, and Why People Want You to Win)

(23:50) Nobody’s Watching That Closely: Reframing Stage & Social Media Anxiety

(25:39) Jordana’s Career Journey: Journalism, New York, Radio & Comedy

(28:31) Nerves as Fuel: Finding the Sweet Spot Between Prep and Spontaneity

(31:49) Why Everyone Should Try Stand-Up: Vulnerability, Healing & Resilience

(33:24) The Bad Date That Sparked Comedy (and a New Mindset)

(36:47) Modern Mental Health: Tall Poppy Syndrome, Owning Strengths & Authenticity

(42:32) Rapid-Fire Closing Questions + Where to Find Jordana & Her Book

(47:48) Final Wrap: Thanks, Links, Subscribe & Listener Call-to-Action

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Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jordanaborensztajn/

Website: https://jordanab.com.au/

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