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Natural Born Red Head

Natural Born Red Head

Written by: Joanne Secky
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 Um...your Natural Born Red Head, a perineum in a taint world, celebrates the voices in her head that are either deep, rich, and profound or swell genitalia jokes - short, long, major, and minor.

Through a series of interviews and her own thoughts - she shares a desire to make masculine and feminine energies more cohesive. Red Head addresses spirituality, psychology, neurology, philosophy, and comedy.

Like, subscribe, and reach out to naturalborn.redhead23@gmail.com via www.naturalbornredhead.com with a question/quandary. She wants to spare you grief and incite joy. Heal thyself, heal the world. Jai Ma.Copyright Joanne Secky Hygiene & Healthy Living Psychology Psychology & Mental Health
Episodes
  • The Relationship Trap: Confidence, Arrogance, and Emotional Maturity

    The Relationship Trap: Confidence, Arrogance, and Emotional Maturity
    Mar 6 2026
    Dr. Kerry McAvoy and Joanne close the week by dissecting why emotionally immature or narcissistic people can appear magnetic at first. They explore the difference between confidence and arrogance — and why confidence does not automatically equal competence.

    They talk about “future faking,” control disguised as transparency, and early boundary tests that often get dismissed as harmless immaturity. Kerry also references Jennie Young and her book, Burn the Haystack: Decode Dating and dating app red flags that too many people overlook.

    The episode includes moments that are absurd - like a wig-demand power play — but the underlying message is serious: dangerous patterns are more common than we want to admit. The goal isn’t revenge. It’s indifference, clarity, and freedom from doing unpaid emotional labor for someone else’s identity.
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    38 mins
  • Decoding Respect and Reciprocity in Relationships

    Decoding Respect and Reciprocity in Relationships
    Mar 5 2026
    Dr. Kerry McAvoy returns for a grounded, practical conversation about disordered relationship dynamics and the confusion paradox. Kerry shares how she’s evolved her work — from therapy to coaching, to podcasting, weekly livestreams, a tiered membership model, and now an upcoming AI coach app called Reclaim You.

    Together, they unpack why survivors of disordered relationships assume everything is their fault, why some partners actively prefer chaos, and how shame (especially shame tied to perceived status loss) fuels denial, projection, and entitlement.

    They draw a clear line between therapy and coaching, explaining the licensing constraints that complicate online therapy. But they land on something refreshingly simple: two markers that cut through the fog — respect and reciprocity. If you’re doing all the apologizing and all the emotional labor, it’s not a “communication” issue. It’s imbalance.
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    33 mins
  • The Confusion Paradox: Making Sense of Disordered Ties

    The Confusion Paradox: Making Sense of Disordered Ties
    Mar 4 2026
    Joanne sets the stage for her upcoming conversation with Dr. Kerry McAvoy about what she calls the “confusion paradox” — that disorienting experience of being drawn to emotionally immature or disordered partners and then blaming yourself when everything falls apart.

    She quickly recaps recent topics — deep brain reorienting, coercive control laws, dissociation, trauma bonding, antisocial vs narcissism distinctions, women’s rage — and introduces Tim’s background in psychology and sports psychology. Tim shares parts of his own story, including childhood trauma and caregiving for his grandmother, and reflects on how younger generations are pushing harder for accountability.

    The episode blends insight with humor, especially when Joanne riffs on parenting, comedy as emotional release, and a few red flags she can’t believe she once ignored.
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    33 mins
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