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Why do we know exactly what needs to change and still feel completely stuck?

If you’ve ever had that thought of “if nothing changes, nothing changes” sitting in the back of your mind, but still can’t quite take the step forward, this episode will meet you right there. I talk through why change isn’t just about willpower. It’s about capacity. And when you’re already stretched thin on the farm, at home, or mentally, change can feel almost impossible.

I walk you through what’s happening in your brain when you’re under stress, and why you might keep falling back into the same patterns even when you know they’re not helping. I also share a practical framework, the Stages of Change model, to help you understand where you’re at and what your next small step could look like.

This episode isn’t about pushing harder. It’s about making sense of why things feel stuck and finding a way forward that fits your life right now.

What’s one change you’ve been thinking about but haven’t quite made yet?


I’d love to hear what came up for you in this episode. Come and share it with me over on Instagram @stephschmidt.farmlifepsych

What we cover in this episode

• The phrase “if nothing changes, nothing changes” and why it can feel frustrating
• Why knowing what to do doesn’t mean we’ll do it
• How habits form in the brain and why change feels effortful
• The impact of stress and low capacity on behaviour change
• “Limp mode” and how stress shuts down higher thinking
• Why we default to autopilot under pressure
• Giving yourself permission and grace when change feels hard
• Introduction to the Stages of Change model
• Pre-contemplation stage and lack of awareness
• Contemplation stage and feeling stuck in indecision
• Why many people sit in contemplation for long periods
• Practical tools for the contemplation stage
• Moving into preparation and setting realistic plans
• Common mistake of skipping preparation
• Action stage and maintaining behaviour change
• Importance of reviewing what gets in the way

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• Steph on Instagram
• Steph's upcoming events

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