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NeuroDADverse

NeuroDADverse

Written by: Danny Eycott - Ben Wisdom-Quieros
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The NeuroDADverse is more than just a podcast, it’s a weekly therapy session between two long-time friends reconnecting through the shared highs and lows of neurodivergent parenthood.


Danny is raising a six-year-old, while Ben is navigating life with two teenagers. Between them, their lived experiences span early years and adolescence, offering valuable perspective for any parent on the neurodivergent journey. Their conversations blend lived wisdom, raw honesty, and light-hearted reflection, often with Danny just entering stages that Ben has already faced. This dynamic brings warmth, curiosity, and relatable storytelling that resonates across all ages and stages of parenting.


At its heart, The NeuroDADverse exists because parenting neurodivergent children can feel incredibly isolating. Many of society’s norms simply don’t apply and it’s rare to find someone who truly hears you. This podcast was born from the need to find and grow that tribe. A space where parents can feel seen, heard, and appreciated.


Whether you’re in the thick of meltdowns, laughing uncontrollably with them or even just wondering about diagnoses you’re not alone.


Here, we speak with love, lead though our understanding and share with honesty. This is a space for ideas, laughter, and connection.


Please remember:

You are doing better than you think.

You are enough.

You are not alone.


Welcome to the NeuroDADverse.“

Real talk from two dads raising neurodivergent kids with love, laughter, and plenty of chaos.



Connect with us on Instagram, TikTok and watch us on Youtube @NeuroDadversepodcast


Theme music by Hands Up! https://www.instagram.com/handsuppunk/?hl=en


Show produced by Squid Shack Studios https://www.instagram.com/squidshackstudios/

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Episodes
  • When nothing goes 'wrong' and why that matters & ND parenting reflections | NeuroDADverse Ep 33

    When nothing goes 'wrong' and why that matters & ND parenting reflections | NeuroDADverse Ep 33
    Jan 30 2026

    In Episode 33 of The NeuroDADverse, Ben and Dan reflect on a week that felt unfamiliar in the best possible way, with no major crises, fewer challenges, and small signs of optimism beginning to return.


    This episode explores what it’s like when neurodivergent family life settles temporarily and how hard it can be to trust calm when you’ve spent years braced for the next difficulty.


    In this episode, we talk about:

    •What it means when challenges don’t dominate the week

    •Continued school absence — handled with kindness and patience

    •Processing time, delayed progress, and realistic expectations

    •Seeing optimism re-emerge after long periods of low self-esteem

    •Hearing your child say “I’m good at this” — and why that matters

    •Table dinners, shared conversations, and emotional safety

    •Respectful disagreement and confidence at home

    •When optimism returns quietly, not dramatically

    •Parenting without forcing positivity

    •Why progress often shows up as calm, not celebration

    •Reflecting on how far your child has come — without tempting fate

    •Adult neurodivergence, diagnosis curiosity, and workplace adjustments

    •The emotional weight of exploring your own neurodivergence as a parent


    🎙️ NeuroDADverse Podcast

    Real conversations about raising neurodivergent children in a neurotypical world.


    Hosted by two UK dads, NeuroDADverse explores autism, ADHD, SEND parenting, mental load, masking, school systems, identity, and the everyday wins and struggles of neurodivergent family life.


    If you’re a parent of an autistic child, an ADHD dad, part of a SEND family, or simply looking for honest, relatable parenting conversations, you’re not alone here.


    🔔 New episodes weekly

    📢 Share, rate, or comment to help more families discover the show

    📧 neurodadverse@gmail.com


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    👉 linktr.ee/NeuroDADverse


    🎧 Listen on: Apple Podcasts • Spotify • Amazon Music • Audible

    📺 Watch full episodes & short clips on YouTube

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    #NeurodivergentParenting #SENDLife #AutismParenting

    #ADHDDads #ParentingPodcast #NeuroDadverse

    #DifferentNotLess #NeurodiversityUK



    Chapter Breakdown (≈53 minutes)

    00:00 – Intro & Welcome to Episode 33

    00:43 – Birthday Energy & Setting the Tone

    02:20 – What This Podcast Is (and Why Calm Weeks Matter)

    03:55 – Deciding Whether There Even Is a Challenge This Week

    04:32 – Three Words of the Week: Happy, Joyful, Calm

    06:13 – Continued School Absence & Kind Communication

    07:49 – When “Nothing Going Wrong” Feels Unfamiliar

    08:49 – Finding a Win in the Absence of Crisis

    09:44 – Optimism Returning After Low Self-Esteem

    10:42 – Hearing “I’m Good at This” From Your Child

    11:32 – Why That Moment Hits So Hard

    12:48 – Table Dinners & Safe Family Conversations

    13:31 – Respectful Disagreement as a Confidence Marker

    14:47 – Reflecting Without Over-Analysing

    15:46 – Small Wins That Signal Big Emotional Shifts

    17:09 – Literacy, Subtitles & Motivation to Read

    18:52 – Letting Curiosity Lead Learning

    20:13 – Birthday Surprise & Lightness in the Pod

    22:32 – Looking Ahead to the Week

    24:06 – Medication Check-Ins & Ongoing Adjustments

    26:22 – Youth Clubs, Identity & Social Safety

    29:18 – When Leaving the House Takes Emotional Maths

    31:08 – Gratitude for Things Feeling Lighter

    32:43 – Chronicling Progress Over Time

    33:56 – Bath-Time Scores & Regulation Wins

    35:22 – Progress Isn’t Linear (Jellyfish Parenting Analogy)

    37:21 – Incoming Assessments & Mixed Feelings

    39:19 – Adult Neurodivergence & Emotional Readiness

    42:34 – Diagnosis, Identity & Reframing the Past

    45:05 – Neurodiversity in the Workplace

    48:04 – Reasonable Adjustments Without Labels

    50:41 – Society, Systems & Where We Still Need Change

    52:06 – Final Reflections & Sign-Off

    52:48 – You’re Doing Great. You Are Enough.


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    53 mins
  • Starting ADHD medication, School attendance and Frankie not knowing | NeuroDADverse Ep 32

    Starting ADHD medication, School attendance and Frankie not knowing | NeuroDADverse Ep 32
    Jan 23 2026


    In Episode 33 of The NeuroDADverse, Ben and Dan have one of their most honest conversations yet, navigating the early days of ADHD medication, school attendance challenges, emotional overwhelm, and the quiet work of protecting a child’s self-esteem.


    This episode explores what happens when support does help… but also brings unexpected side effects, emotional floodgates, and difficult parental decisions. It’s about staying steady when everything feels fragile.

    We talk about:

    • Beginning ADHD medication and managing side effects
    • Lethargy, overstimulation, sleep disruption, and emotional release
    • When medication removes masking — and everything spills out
    • School attendance struggles and shifting support needs
    • The fear of repeating past damage to self-esteem
    • How delayed processing can look like “regression”
    • Supporting two ND children with very different needs at the same time
    • Avoiding shame while still holding boundaries
    • Communication that builds trust with ND teenagers
    • Why safe relationships matter more than perfect solutions
    • Sitting in joy without over-analysing it
    • Wins that don’t look impressive — but change everything




    Chapter Breakdown (≈50 minutes)


    00:00 – Intro & Welcome to Episode 33

    01:05 – What This Podcast Is Really About

    02:20 – Three Words of the Week: Medicate, Educate, Floodgate

    03:55 – ADHD Diagnosis Recap & Medication Trial Begins

    05:30 – Side Effects: Lethargy, Dry Mouth & Sleep Issues

    07:40 – When Medication Lowers the Mask

    09:10 – Overstimulation After School & Emotional Release

    11:05 – Understanding Floodgates vs Regression

    13:10 – Protecting Self-Esteem After Past School Trauma

    15:45 – The Fear of “Going Back There”

    18:10 – School Attendance Challenges Shift Between Siblings

    20:35 – Supporting Two ND Kids With Different Needs

    23:00 – Sleep Disruption & Night-Time Regulation

    25:15 – Holding Boundaries Without Shame

    28:05 – Break

    28:30 – Wins: Delayed Communication & Joyful Language

    31:10 – Why Function Matters More Than Milestones

    33:20 – Sitting in Joy Without Over-Analysing It

    35:05 – Teen Communication, Trust & Timing

    38:00 – Creating a Safe Space for Hard Conversations

    40:25 – Why Kids Talk When They Feel Secure

    42:30 – Parenting ND Teens Without Comparison

    45:00 – Looking Ahead: School, Work & Energy Management

    47:30 – Final Reflections: Kindness, Patience & Perspective

    49:00 – You’re Doing Great. You Are Enough.


    🎙️ Two dads. One mission.

    Raising neurodivergent kids in a neurotypical world.


    If this episode resonates — whether you’re autistic, ADHD, a SEND parent, or still figuring it all out — you belong in the NeuroDADverse.


    🔔 Subscribe for weekly, honest conversations about neurodivergent parenting

    📢 Like, share, or comment to help other families find us

    📧 Contact: neurodadverse@gmail.com


    🌐 Links, episodes & socials:

    👉 linktr.ee/NeuroDADverse


    🎧 Listen on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Amazon Music & Audible

    📺 Watch full episodes & clips on YouTube


    #NeurodivergentParenting #SENDFamily #AutismParenting

    #ADHDDads #NeuroDadverse #DifferentNotLess

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    50 mins
  • ADHD Diagnosis, Identity Realisation & Letting Kids Process at Their Own Pace | NeuroDADverse Ep.31

    ADHD Diagnosis, Identity Realisation & Letting Kids Process at Their Own Pace | NeuroDADverse Ep.31
    Jan 16 2026
    Welcome to Episode 31 of The NeuroDADverse, Ben and Dan talk openly about what happens after a diagnosis, when clarity arrives, but emotions are still catching up.This week includes a major family milestone for Ben: a formal ADHD diagnosis, and the complex feelings that follow. Relief. Validation. Grief. Confusion. Pride. And the quiet work of helping a child rebuild their sense of self after years of being told they were “too much” or “not enough.”In this episode, we discuss:What an ADHD diagnosis gives (and what it doesn’t)Why clarity doesn’t instantly equal confidenceHow identity is shaped by years of misunderstandingThe emotional impact of clinician questions about self-esteemMasking, unmasking, and delayed processingTemperature regulation, sensory overload, and emotional releaseWhy behaviour is communicationAdvocating in clinical settings without taking overLetting children grieve past experiences in their own timeMedication as a tool — not a cure or a verdictCelebrating wins gently, without pressureSibling connection, shared joy, and thoughtful gift-givingCinema trips as safe spaces and regulation anchorsThis episode is about holding space rather than rushing solutions, and remembering that diagnosis is not an ending — it’s context.As always, we want to remind you:You’re doing great.You are enough.And you are definitely not alone.Chapter Breakdown00:00 – Welcome to Episode 3100:44 – What This Podcast Is (and Why We Keep Doing It)01:47 – Three Words of the Week03:36 – A Big Medical Update in Our Household04:36 – ADHD Diagnosis: Why Clarity Matters06:12 – Advocating in the Clinician Appointment08:10 – When Kids Can’t Name Their Strengths10:00 – Self-Esteem, Identity & Being “Too Much”12:40 – Masking, Unmasking & Emotional Processing14:55 – Grief After Diagnosis (For Kids and Parents)17:20 – Giving Space Instead of Explanations19:35 – Temperature Regulation & Sensory Overload22:10 – Behaviour as Communication24:56 – Medication: Cautious Hope, Not Pressure26:42 – Why This Is a Step, Not a Solution29:08 – Oscar’s Birthday & Putting Kids First31:20 – Sibling Thoughtfulness & Unexpected Empathy33:26 – Cinema Trips as Safe Spaces35:01 – Regulation Wins in Busy Environments36:52 – Pain, Perception & ND Bodies38:32 – Missing the Bus & Learning Consequences Safely40:13 – Social Stories, Visual Supports & Transitions42:42 – Supermarkets, Sensory Load & Progress Over Time45:09 – Small Wins That Change Family Life46:40 – Looking Ahead Without Overloading48:23 – Attendance, Energy & Realistic Weeks50:41 – Why We Don’t Force Traditions52:25 – Closing Reflections53:47 – You’re Doing Great. You Are Enough🎙️ Two dads. One mission. Raising ND kids in a very NT world.💡 If this episode resonates, whether you’re a zebra, a stripy horse, or still figuring it all out. There’s space for you in the NeuroDADverse.🔔 Subscribe for weekly real-talk on neurodivergent parenting📢 Like, share, or leave a comment to help more families find us📧 Get in touch: neurodadverse@gmail.com🌐 Find us in all the usual places:linktr.ee/NeuroDADverse🎧 Listen on:•Apple Podcasts: bit.ly/NeuroDADverseApple•Spotify: bit.ly/NeuroDADverseSpotify📺 Watch full episodes + clips:Spotify: bit.ly/NeuroDADverseSpotifyYouTube: youtube.com/@NeuroDADversePodcast📲 Follow & connect:•TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@neurodadverse•Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/neurodadverse/•Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61582530685142•LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/neurodadverse-podcast/?viewAsMember=true 🔗 Hashtags:#NeurodiverseParenting #SENDLife #AutismAdvocacy #ParentingPodcast#NeuroDadverse #DifferentNotLess #ADHDDads #AutismFamily Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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