Navy veteran and father of three Charles Lyle shares his deeply personal story of resilience, faith, and rebuilding life after trauma, loss, and military service. From growing up in the aftermath of Hurricane Katrina to serving as a Navy airman, Charles reveals how adversity shaped both the man and the father he has become.Charles describes how Katrina destroyed his childhood in Bay St. Louis, Mississippi, forcing his family to evacuate and permanently uprooting his life. The storm didn’t just destroy homes — it fractured friendships, routines, and stability. That early trauma later fueled his drive to compete in football, eventually leading him to play college football at Pearl River Community College and East Mississippi Community College, where he played under Coach Buddy Stevens just before the Netflix series Last Chance U began.After leaving football, Charles chose a harder path: military service. He joined the U.S. Navy, becoming an aviation loadmaster flying missions across the globe on C-130 aircraft, transporting cargo and people to places like Japan, South Korea, Guam, and Papua New Guinea. While the Navy gave him discipline and purpose, Charles reveals the harsh truth about what happens when veterans leave the service. Despite years of service, he faced financial collapse, and job rejection while trying to support his growing family.At the same time, Charles was navigating unimaginable grief. His father spent 47 days in the hospital before passing away after complications from diabetes and amputation. While grieving, Charles was also betrayed by a business partner, losing his ownership stake in a construction company he helped build — a moment that nearly broke him emotionally and financially.Today, Charles has rebuilt his life working in construction and roofing, helping families recover after hurricanes and disasters — a fitting mission for someone who once lost everything to one. As a husband and father of three, he now channels his past pain into purpose, raising his children with discipline, love, and unwavering faith in God.Get in Touch with Charles:TikTok-Charles_RoofsFacebook-@charleslyleFacebook-@choicevineroofingWebsite-Choicevineroofing.com ✦ About Ernie Burns & Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsPresident & CEO: Ernie M. Burns, Jr.Master Certified Estate Planner (MCEP®)Forbes Top Financial Security Professional in Louisiana – 2022 & 2023Author: Total Retirement: A Step-By-Step Educational GuideHost: Total Retirement with Ernie Burns – airing weekly across Louisiana, Florida & Alabama✦ Contact InformationToll-Free: 800-308-4416Louisiana: 985-345-7114Florida: 850-855-4890Alabama: 251-378-9822Fax: 985-345-7124Email: marketing@burnsestateplanning.comWebsite: burnsestateplanning.comOffice Locations: Hammond (HQ), Mandeville, Metairie, Baton Rouge (LA); Destin, Panama City Beach, Pensacola, Tallahassee, West Palm Beach, Jacksonville (FL); Spanish Fort (AL).Social Media:Facebook: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsLinkedIn: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsYouTube: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth Advisors#NewDadOrder #Podcast 📩 Reach Out:Jerrard:📧 Email: jmparfait@gmail.com📱 Instagram: @itsparfaitRay:📧 Email: rbelvin91@gmail.com💤 Sleep & Recovery:Melatonin-Free Sleep & Recovery for Peak Fitness👉 Hit this link and use promo code: NDOZZZ🔗 https://thirdzy.com/⚡ Energy Boost:Need a new energy drink? Try Dubby Energy!👉 Use this link and discount code automatically applies🔗 https://www.dubby.gg/discount/NEWDADORDER?ref=fhfcqotb🌐 Find Us Online:Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/newdadorderpodcast1Spotify:🎧 https://open.spotify.com/show/4Zi2b2lmVbAr1m8mhHhjOK?si=l6HluKZ8Rs2Fxt6WJAVy9QTikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@newdadorderApple broadcast:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/new-dad-order/id1849310124Amazon Music:https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/ba418c03-7313-46c7-ae75-8dc55122a082/new-dad-order

New Dad Order – Episode 37 is a thoughtful, wide-ranging conversation about modern fatherhood, youth sports, resilience, and intentional parenting, featuring the real-life experiences of a former Division I athlete, attorney, coach, and dads. The episode explores how early life lessons, career pressure, natural disasters, and sports culture shape the way men show up as fathers today. The discussion begins with youth sports and the complicated decision many fathers face about whether to coach their own children. Drawing from firsthand experience in competitive football environments, the episode highlights the importance of fundamentals, safety, fairness, and emotional maturity in coaching kids. It directly addresses common problems like favoritism and “daddy ball,” emphasizing that youth sports should prioritize character development, teamwork, and confidence over winning or parental ego. From there, the conversation expands into the long-term impact of athletics on personal growth. Lessons learned through high-level football—discipline, accountability, leadership, and time management—are reframed through the lens of parenting. The episode connects sports culture to fatherhood, showing how habits formed on the field often influence how dads approach structure, expectations, and communication at home. A major theme of the episode is resilience, particularly parenting through instability and crisis. The family’s experience surviving Hurricane Katrina, losing their home, living displaced for months, and later enduring Hurricane Ida provides a powerful backdrop for discussing emotional safety, adaptability, and how children process trauma. The episode explores how disruption affects kids differently at various ages and why parents must balance honesty, reassurance, and emotional presence during uncertain times. Rather than advocating rigid parenting rules, the episode promotes a philosophy centered on guidance, course correction, and respect. Parenting is framed as an evolving process—one that requires awareness of developmental stages, empathy, and accountability without authoritarianism. Contact Attorney Tony Maska:Email him at Anthonymaska@gmail.com✦ About Ernie Burns & Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsPresident & CEO: Ernie M. Burns, Jr.Master Certified Estate Planner (MCEP®)Forbes Top Financial Security Professional in Louisiana – 2022 & 2023Author: Total Retirement: A Step-By-Step Educational GuideHost: Total Retirement with Ernie Burns – airing weekly across Louisiana, Florida & Alabama✦ Contact InformationToll-Free: 800-308-4416Louisiana: 985-345-7114Florida: 850-855-4890Alabama: 251-378-9822Fax: 985-345-7124Email: marketing@burnsestateplanning.comWebsite: burnsestateplanning.comOffice Locations: Hammond (HQ), Mandeville, Metairie, Baton Rouge (LA); Destin, Panama City Beach, Pensacola, Tallahassee, West Palm Beach, Jacksonville (FL); Spanish Fort (AL).Social Media:Facebook: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsLinkedIn: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsYouTube: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth Advisors#NewDadOrder #Podcast 📩 Reach Out:Jerrard:📧 Email: jmparfait@gmail.com📱 Instagram: @itsparfaitRay:📧 Email: rbelvin91@gmail.com💤 Sleep & Recovery:Melatonin-Free Sleep & Recovery for Peak Fitness👉 Hit this link and use promo code: NDOZZZ🔗 https://thirdzy.com/⚡ Energy Boost:Need a new energy drink? Try Dubby Energy!👉 Use this link and discount code automatically applies🔗 https://www.dubby.gg/discount/NEWDADORDER?ref=fhfcqotb🌐 Find Us Online:Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/newdadorderpodcast1TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@newdadorderApple broadcast:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/new-dad-order/id1849310124Amazon Music:https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/ba418c03-7313-46c7-ae75-8dc55122a082/new-dad-order

In this episode of New Dad Order, Ray and Parfait dive deep into the college football coaching carousel, reacting to Lane Kiffin leaving Ole Miss for LSU and the ripple effects it creates across the SEC and the national landscape. This conversation tackles the complicated intersection of NIL, the transfer portal, early signing day, and the evolving expectations placed on modern college coaches. Whether you’re a fan of Ole Miss, LSU, or simply fascinated with high-stakes college football drama, this episode breaks down why Kiffin’s move is bigger than one program—it’s a symptom of how the sport has changed.Ray argues from the player-first, culture-building perspective: college coaches play a crucial role in shaping athletes’ lives through development, mentorship, character building, and academic support. When a high-profile coach like Lane Kiffin leaves during a pivotal moment—right as the expanded College Football Playoff era begins and during the most sensitive part of the recruiting calendar—it raises questions about loyalty, leadership, and the promises made to players and their families. Ray emphasizes the emotional and relational cost when coaches sell stability and then walk away at the height of a program’s trajectory.Parfait counters with a business-reality take: college football has always been transactional. Coaches move for better jobs, players transfer for better opportunities, universities chase revenue, and fans are the only ones who get emotionally attached. With the rise of NIL money and the transfer portal, players now have as much freedom as coaches, making it inconsistent to criticize coaches for doing what players do every offseason. From his lens, Lane Kiffin going to LSU isn’t betrayal—it’s normal.The transfer portal introduces constant roster turnover, raising questions about continuity, culture, and long-term development.Throughout the episode, the conversation stays grounded in the show’s core mission—fatherhood, faith, and navigating manhood today. Ray and Parfait remind listeners that sports are ultimately a “man’s soap opera,” something we enjoy and invest in emotionally, but not something that defines us.✦ About Ernie Burns & Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsPresident & CEO: Ernie M. Burns, Jr.Master Certified Estate Planner (MCEP®)Forbes Top Financial Security Professional in Louisiana – 2022 & 2023Author: Total Retirement: A Step-By-Step Educational GuideHost: Total Retirement with Ernie Burns – airing weekly across Louisiana, Florida & Alabama✦ Contact InformationToll-Free: 800-308-4416Louisiana: 985-345-7114Florida: 850-855-4890Alabama: 251-378-9822Fax: 985-345-7124Email: marketing@burnsestateplanning.comWebsite: burnsestateplanning.comOffice Locations: Hammond (HQ), Mandeville, Metairie, Baton Rouge (LA); Destin, Panama City Beach, Pensacola, Tallahassee, West Palm Beach, Jacksonville (FL); Spanish Fort (AL).Social Media:Facebook: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsLinkedIn: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsYouTube: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth Advisors#NewDadOrder #Podcast 📩 Reach Out:Jerrard:📧 Email: jmparfait@gmail.com📱 Instagram: @itsparfaitRay:📧 Email: rbelvin91@gmail.com💤 Sleep & Recovery:Melatonin-Free Sleep & Recovery for Peak Fitness👉 Hit this link and use promo code: NDOZZZ🔗 https://thirdzy.com/⚡ Energy Boost:Need a new energy drink? Try Dubby Energy!👉 Use this link and discount code automatically applies🔗 https://www.dubby.gg/discount/NEWDADORDER?ref=fhfcqotb🌐 Find Us Online:Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/newdadorderpodcast1Spotify:🎧 https://open.spotify.com/show/4Zi2b2lmVbAr1m8mhHhjOK?si=l6HluKZ8Rs2Fxt6WJAVy9QTikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@newdadorderApple broadcast:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/new-dad-order/id1849310124Amazon Music:https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/ba418c03-7313-46c7-ae75-8dc55122a082/new-dad-order