In this vulnerable and empowering episode of Openly Spoken, I'm joined by somatic relationship coach and trauma-informed guide Darla Radilla for a conversation on healing after heartbreak — including short but intense relationships, friend breakups, and the grief that lingers long after love ends.

Darla shares her personal experience navigating a relationship that ended quickly but left a lasting emotional impact. Together, we explore how trauma, grief, and nervous system awareness shape our healing journeys, and why choosing yourself can be the most powerful act of love.

We also discuss:

• The emotional complexity of short-term vs. long-term heartbreak
• Why friend breakups hit just as hard as romantic ones
• How to honor your nervous system in love and leadership
• The healing power of self-dating and reclaiming your joy

If you’re moving through grief, heartbreak, or rebuilding after toxic love — this conversation is here to remind you: healing doesn’t mean you’re broken. It means you're becoming more whole.

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Book mentioned in this episode: Single on Purpose by John Kim

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What if the way you relate to your partner… the way you speak to your body… and even the way you interact with technology… is all part of the same relational pattern?

In this episode, I share a conversation I had with ChatGBT about how it learns and found out it's learning through our relationships, emotional tone and that it's basically a digital nervous system. So when we have better self love and relationships, that "input" of data has an affect on AI... I think this is a HUGE responsibility that our society is overlooking and it shows why self love and cultivating healthy relationships is important now more than ever. What do you think?

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Ever felt like you had to perform or prove yourself to be worthy of love? If you’re an ambitious woman who’s tired of shrinking, over-giving, or trying to “earn” love, this episode will speak directly to your soul!

My guest this week is Seonaid Lee, a multi-passionate writer and teacher who is deeply interested in how we find agency in systems that are too large for us to understand. She believes that our intimate relationships are a space in which we can practice vulnerability, desire, and speaking up, so that we can bring those skills out into the rest of our interactions in the world. In this soul-stirring conversation about energetic consent, Seonaid and I explore the themes of radical self-love, discipline, and the complexities of relationships.

I hope the concept of energetic consent will help you change the way relate to yourself, your body, your partners, and the world around you.

Connect with Seonaid on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@SeonaidLee

Connect with Seonaid on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/seonaid-lee/

Seonaid’s website: https://seonaidlee.com/

And if you’re on a journey of self love, check out my free sensual self love guide here: https://selfexpressedbabe.myflodesk.com/selfloveguide