This episode was recorded from a place I didn’t expect to be.

It’s a quiet conversation for men — especially those over 40 — who find themselves alone, starting over, or living a life that doesn’t match the blueprint they were handed.

We explore a sentence many men are afraid to say out loud:

“If this is the rest of my life… I’m okay with that.”

Not as resignation.
Not as giving up.
But as acceptance — and why acceptance is often the starting point for real change.

In this episode, we talk about:

• Why men struggle when life slows down

• The difference between acceptance and resignation

• What it means to make peace with where you are without giving up on what could still be ahead

• Why it’s okay to not be okay — but not to stay there

• How a quieter, more honest future can still be deeply fulfilling

There’s no advice here.
No quick fixes.
Just space to reflect.

Where in your life are you still arguing with reality instead of working with it?

One sentence is enough — or none at all.

Website: https://tomsview.ca
Instagram: https://instagram.com/tomslifeafter50

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Listening quietly counts too.

Our stories .. yours, and mine.. aren't finished yet. NOT BY A LONG SHOT!

In this deeply personal and unmistakably honest episode, Tom returns to the porch—fire crackling, waves rolling in the background—to unpack the heavy questions weighing on many of us today. From political violence and free speech to media manipulation and the rising tension in North American culture, Tom reflects on how these shifts affect our ability to live freely, especially after 50.

Drawing on lessons from mentors, hard-earned life experience, and books like Man’s Search for Meaning and The Miracle Morning, Tom explores how to separate what’s truly within our control from the noise that steals our peace. He also shares stories from a soul-recharging solo camping trip along Lake Superior, reminding us why nature, solitude, and intentional living are more essential now than ever.

This episode is an invitation—to unplug, to think for yourself, to focus on what really matters, and to build a meaningful life on your own terms. No preaching. No politics. Just raw truth, self-reflection, and the quiet wisdom that comes from a man living simply, solo, and rural after 50.

If you're a 50-something man navigating a noisy world, this is your campfire moment.

Website: https://www.tomsview.ca

Instagram: https://instagram.com/tomslifeafter50

Title: Not Today: Bullying After 50, Boundaries & Your Next Chapter

Summary:
Recorded on a warm mid-August night in Northern Ontario, Tom shares a formative high-school story about facing a bully—and what it taught him about boundaries, dignity, and dealing with adult bullying in your 50s. He answers a listener’s Campfire Question on how to respond when someone tries to push you around, then opens up about life changes, winter prep in the north, and a new truck-camper setup for future “Out Here” adventures.

Highlights

• A grade-nine gym-class moment that flipped the power dynamic

• Adult bullying: how to recognize it, why there’s no shame in being targeted, and how not to stay a victim

• Practical responses: call it out, document it, escalate appropriately (supervisor, legal counsel, police)

• Talking to our kids about being upstanders

• Life update: long commute, reconsidering the coaching side-hustle, winter readiness in Northern Ontario

• Adventure plans: Ford Super Duty + truck-bed camper, photography, hiking, kayaking, snowshoeing

• Campfire wisdom: shifting from 1:1 “hand-holding” to broader “hand-ups” and helping the next generation

• The Four Agreements as a north star

Chapters

• Welcome & summer check-in

• Why talk about bullying now

• The high-school story that changed everything

• Campfire Question: “I’m in my 50s and still shrink from bullies—what do I do?”

• Boundaries, consequences, and safe escalation

• Parenting note: raising witnesses and upstanders

• Life update: work, commute, coaching decision

• Winter prep & the truck-camper adventure rig

• Campfire Wisdom: making your mark in your 50s

• Closing & how to send your questions

Links & Mentions

• Podcast site: tomsview.ca

• Instagram: @tomslifeafter50

• Email: tom@revolutionize.me

• Book mentioned: The Four Agreements (Don Miguel Ruiz)

Listener Prompt
How will you help the next generation—without carrying dead weight—this year? Tell me on Spotify or YouTube comments.

Note
In the intro I joke about the episode number—this is Episode 5.

Disclaimer
Personal stories and general information only; not professional, legal, or medical advice.