Your standards aren’t failing because you lack clarity or discipline. You struggle to uphold them because you haven’t built the internal capacity to live by them when it actually counts.

In this final episode of the Living By Your Standards series, host Chris Oh reveals how everything she shared in the series, defining your values, releasing unconscious expectations, cultivating discernment, building self-assurance, practicing clarity, and taking accountability create the internal capacity to live by your standards consistently.

You’ll see how these skills aren’t isolated concepts, but an integrated internal system, one that allows you to stay aligned with who you are becoming, even when old patterns, emotional pull, or conditioning resurface.

If you’ve followed this series and felt clear about your standards but still found certain moments challenging, this episode will help you understand why, and how everything you’ve learned fits together to support real, lived alignment.

In this episode, you’ll explore:
➡️ Why living by your standards is about capacity, not willpower.
➡️ How values, discernment, clarity, self-assurance, boundaries, and accountability work together to live by your standards.
➡️ What it actually means to stay aligned with your standards in everyday decisions.
➡️ How this series equips you to lead yourself with consistency and self-trust

✨ Coming Soon
The Living By Your Standards Workbook launches the first week of the new year. t’s a complementary, in-depth workbook for women who felt seen and shifted by this series — and are ready to move from insight into lived practice by strengthening the internal skills that support a standards-led life.

💡 ▶ DOWNLOAD my free Standards vs. Expectations Self-Reflection Worksheet here: https://stan.store/psyoungerself

Learn more about P.S. Younger Self here.
And, you can connect with host Chris Oh on Instagram here.

Why You Know Your Standards — But Still React the Old Way

You know your standards. You’ve done the inner work.
So why do you still find yourself reacting in ways that don’t match who you’re becoming?

In Part 11 of the Living By Your Standards series, host Chris Oh breaks down why knowing your standards is just the beginning. The real transformative change actually happens in the moment, not in theory.

This episode is for the woman who understands her values, boundaries, and is beginning to raise her standards — yet still notices old reactions and patterns surface under emotional activation.

This episode explores:

✅ Why insight alone doesn’t change behavior
✅ How our decision making happens from two "Systems" according to Daniel Kahneman’s System 1 vs. System 2 Theory.
✅ Why self-blame keeps women stuck — and why it’s scientifically inaccurate
✅ The gap between awareness and action
✅ The micro-moment framework by Chris Oh, which is the split-second identity choice where real change happens
✅ How identity, not willpower, drives lasting change
✅ How self-trust is built through repeated moments of alignment
✅ What it really means to live by your standards in real time

Chris shares how this micro-moment shows up for her like a brief internal movie scene where two versions of herself appear:

➡️ the old self, driven by familiarity and reassurance
➡️ the self I’m becoming, grounded in self-loyalty and standards

And in that moment, the real question isn’t “What should I do?”
It’s “Which version of me am I choosing to lead right now?”

💡 ▶ DOWNLOAD my free Standards vs. Expectations Self-Reflection Worksheet here: https://stan.store/psyoungerself

Learn more about P.S. Younger Self here.
And, you can connect with host Chris Oh on Instagram here.

Most women think having high standards means expecting someone else to meet them.

But the real test of your standards isn’t how someone treats you —
it’s whether you abandon yourself to keep the connection.

In Episode 10 of the Living By Your Standards series, host Chris Oh breaks down the psychology of unconscious self-abandonment, emotional safety, and what high standards actually look like in real relationships.

This episode goes deeper than dating tips.
You’ll learn how early conditioning, nervous system responses, and invisible emotional habits shape the ways women shrink, silence themselves, or override their intuition — all while believing they’re being “easy,” “understanding,” or “low-maintenance.”

In this episode, you’ll learn:
➡️ Expectations vs. standards — why “they should…” beliefs create emotional instability and what standards look like in action.
➡️ The subtle ways women self-abandon
➡️ The psychology behind self-abandonment
➡️ Why your nervous system resists self-loyalty
➡️ How to shift from self-sacrificing to self-loyal
➡️ Practical relational standards — using intuition, clarity, and values-based decisions to stay grounded in who you are.


💡 ▶ DOWNLOAD my free Standards vs. Expectations Self-Reflection Worksheet here: https://stan.store/psyoungerself

💡 ▶ DOWNLOAD my free Standards vs. Expectations Self-Reflection Worksheet here: https://stan.store/psyoungerself

Learn more about P.S. Younger Self here.
And, you can connect with host Chris Oh on Instagram here.