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Perfection Hangover

Perfection Hangover

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You know that feeling the morning after—when the high of achievement wears off and you're left wondering why it never feels like enough? That's the perfection hangover.

We're a community of recovering perfectionists who've realized that the pursuit of flawless is a rigged game. The goalposts always move. The to-do list never ends. And somewhere along the way, we forgot that we're human beings, not human doings.

Hosted by writer and creator, Melissa Blevins, Perfection Hangover isn't about lowering your standards or abandoning your ambitions. It's about redirecting all that energy you've been pouring into impossible standards toward something that actually matters: building a life you don't need to escape from.

We tackle the messy middle ground between "crushing it" and burnout. Between ambition and anxiety. Between growth and grace. This is for the high-achievers, the overthinkers, the chronic self-improvers who are ready to stop optimizing and start living.

No toxic positivity. No quick fixes. Just honest conversations about what it takes to achieve without destroying yourself in the process.

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Episodes
  • The First 15: build momentum with small daily habits

    The First 15: build momentum with small daily habits
    Jan 18 2026

    What if 15 minutes a day could change your life? In this episode, I share how intentional habits — small, consistent actions — create massive momentum over time. I break down my own morning routine, reveal the surprising power of daily streaks, and give you the First 15™ listener challenge to start your day strong, stay consistent, and finally take control of the habits that actually matter.

    Spoiler: You don’t need another planner. You need a better plan. It starts with small habits.
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    9 mins
  • Breaking the Cycle: why your choices matter more than your past

    Breaking the Cycle: why your choices matter more than your past
    Jan 3 2026
    What if the life you grew up in doesn’t have to be the life you end up living? In this episode, I’m sharing a deeply personal story about growing up in a large blended family shaped by divorce, remarriage, instability, and survival mode — and how seven siblings raised in the same environment ended up with very different outcomes. This is not an episode about blaming parents or trauma dumping. It’s about choice. I talk openly about: Growing up in a blended family with multiple divorces
 How family patterns, codependency, and instability get passed down
 Watching siblings take different paths — some breaking the cycle, others repeating it
 My own journey through divorce, unhealthy relationships, and learning to set boundaries
 Starting a career as a bank teller making $7.93/hour with no college degree
 How consistency, faith, and uncomfortable choices led to a six-figure career
 Why healing looks different for everyone — and why that’s okay
 This episode is for women who: Feel stuck or behind in life
 Are afraid they’re repeating generational patterns
 Are navigating divorce, single motherhood, or starting over
 Struggle with codependency or people-pleasing
 Want proof that circumstances don’t define their future
 At any point in your story, you can decide to stop surviving and start choosing differently.
Your past doesn’t define you — your next decision does. If you’re ready to break generational cycles, heal from family patterns, and believe that change is still possible for you, this episode is for you.
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    18 mins
  • Finding Rock Bottom: thinking a man could save me from myself

    Finding Rock Bottom: thinking a man could save me from myself
    Dec 3 2025

    In this episode of Perfection Hangover, I’m sharing the raw truth about the moment my life completely fell apart—the breaking point I didn’t see coming, and the painful patterns I kept repeating without even realizing it.

    ⚠️ CONTENT WARNING: This episode contains discussions of childhood physical abuse, sexual assault of a minor, domestic violence, substance abuse, suicidal ideation, and a suicide attempt. Please prioritize your mental health and listen when you feel emotionally prepared.

    Resources:

    • National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 988
    • RAINN Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-4673
    • National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233

    I open up about the crisis that pushed me into my first marriage, how my attempt to end my life became the catalyst for a relationship built on survival, and how divorce sent me into a season of chaos I pretended was freedom. From a wild six week rule that caused lots of dating the wrong men to marrying a man who cheated on me, I was chasing the dream of being saved… but I didn’t realize they couldn't save me.

    If you’ve ever rushed into a relationship hoping it would fix the pain you didn’t want to face… If you’ve ever felt empty, unworthy, or desperate for someone to choose you… If you’ve ever hit rock bottom and wondered how you’d rebuild your life…

    This episode is for you.

    We’re talking about trauma patterns, codependency, survival mode, and the moment God revealed the real wound beneath it all. This was rock bottom for me—and the beginning of true healing.

    Inside this episode:

    • How crisis led me into marriage before I was ready

    • Why childhood wounds often shape our adult relationships

    • The link between validation-seeking and self-worth

    • Divorce, chaos, and trying to numb pain with “freedom”

    • Loving someone who cheats and what it forces you to confront

    • How rock bottom became the catalyst for transformation

    • Learning to choose yourself when you never felt like enough

    If you’re starting over, rebuilding, or trying to break lifelong patterns, you’re not alone. This is where we stop pretending, surrender the perfection, and finally start healing from the inside out.
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    14 mins
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