In this episode of In Real Time, we are breaking down Pillar 4 of the nervous system framework, The Open Wound.

This is the layer most people skip.

You’ve identified the behavior. You’ve questioned the why. You’ve uncovered the belief.

But if the wound underneath it never got closure, your nervous system will keep protecting it.

And that protection will look like your personality.

In this episode, we talk about how emotional wounds form, how they stay active in the nervous system, and why your reactions are not random. They are patterned protection.

We also break down attachment styles and how they show up as defense mechanisms in real life.

Why some people chase.

Why some people shut down.

Why some people run when things get real.

And why none of it makes you broken.

It makes you patterned.

Tori shares a personal story about repeating relationship cycles and what it actually took to stop the loop, not just understand it.

This episode will help you stop taking everything personally, see your patterns clearly, and begin to separate who you are from what you’ve been protecting.

Because once you see the wound, you can stop calling it your personality.

If you’ve ever said

“I don’t know why I keep doing this”

or

“Why does this still affect me”

this episode is for you.

We are not fixing ourselves.

We are retraining our nervous systems.

And that requires honesty, awareness, and a willingness to see what’s really underneath.

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Because healing is not something you think about.

It’s something you practice.

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