What if the parts of you that feel most shameful, rejected, or unworthy are not obstacles — but gatekeepers?

In this final episode of Season 1 of Question Yourself, we conclude our exploration of The Tools with the work that challenged us the most: The Shadow.

After nearly giving up on this practice altogether, a breakthrough conversation leads us to psychotherapist and coach Kristan Sargeant, who helps us understand why every human develops a hidden, protective part — and how that part can quietly shape our beliefs, relationships, and sense of self long after the original wounds have passed.

Together, we explore:

• Why everyone learns to hide parts of themselves, regardless of childhood or background

• How old survival strategies continue running out adult lives

• What happens when we stop rejecting the part of us that learned to hide

• How to integrate these parts without self-indulgence or overwhelm

Kristan also shares a bonus practice not found in the book or on the Tools website — a powerful framework she calls the Three-Fold Path, offering a grounded way to continue this work in daily life.

This conversation marks the closing chapter of Season 1 — and an opening into a deeper, more compassionate relationship with yourself.

*To learn more about Kristan Sargeant's work and offerings, visit kristansargeant.com. You can also follow her on Instagram @kristansargeant for insights into Shadow work and The Tools, along with updates on her online Shadow support groups.*

How facing your most rejected self can free your most authentic one.

What if the part of you you've spent your whole life hiding — the one you feel ashamed of, embarrassed by, or unworthy of — was actually the key to your confidence and freedom?

In this moving episode of Question Yourself, Bethany and Diane explore The Shadow — one of the most personal and confronting Tools from Phil Stutz's groundbreaking framework. Joined by professional coach Patrick Kelley, they unpack what the Shadow really is, how it quietly shapes our choices and relationships, and how to begin bringing it into the light.

With Patrick's guidance, Bethany meets her own Shadow — an eight-year-old version of herself in a dress, hurting and unseen — and discovers what it means to bring compassion to the parts of ourselves we've long rejected. Together, the trio discuss how to recognize when your Shadow is running the show, how projection reveals the parts of ourselves we disown, and what it looks like to start integrating these forgotten parts into everyday life.

You'll learn a practical, profound way to meet the parts of yourself you've hidden — and discover what becomes possible when you stop running from them.

Resources:

• The Tools by Phil Stutz

• Coaching with Patrick Kelley: repscoaching.co

Learn how to recognize and push back against "Part X"—the self-destructive force inside you—with Phil Stutz's powerful tool, Cosmic Rage.

In this episode of Question Yourself, Diane Leja and Bethany Meloche introduce you to Part X—Phil Stutz's name for the negative force inside us that whispers "you're not good enough" and tries to sabotage our growth.

You'll discover how to spot your own Part X and why you can't simply think it away or negotiate with it. For Bethany, it takes the form of a grumpy old man named Stefan—always sighing, muttering, and insisting she can't do it. But with Cosmic Rage, she's learned how to stop listening, stand up to him, and take back control.

Diane and Bethany teach you how to do the same—using this strikingly effective tool to confront your inner saboteur, reclaim your space, and begin living from your higher self.

If you're new to The Tools, start with Episode 1 for an overview of Phil Stutz's method—then join us here to learn how to fight back when negativity strikes.

Resources:
https://www.thetoolsbook.com/