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Quit playing games in my head

Quit playing games in my head

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  Good morning, Miracle Commuters. Today, I want to talk a little bit about head games. Head games are what we do to fuel negative emotions in our heads. As a result, we get more of what we don't want, distort things, exaggerate things, or amplify things that we don't necessarily need in our lives. We could focus on being more positive or mindful with how we analyze or even think about situations in our heads. A lot of time as we are. Catastrophizing things in our head that have even happened. So I think it's essential to. Sit down and think about some of the thoughts that we may have, whether they're positive or negative and use them to identify and weed out some of the awful thoughts that we might have. So you can move away from it. The bad ideas and focus on more of the good things or the ideas and thoughts that can bring you joy. And your situation. This is a little bit of a long list. So, bear with me here, but amplifiers are first things first. A lot of times, we have. Emotions that magnify unpleasant situations. And that looks at extreme words, like always or never, or no one or every time. Virtually. Nothing in life falls to an extreme, and nothing is almost always that black and white. So when we start to think about. Amplifiers mean to start a stop and say, I bet you, no matter what it was, or some type of other scenario that could happen, that could be positive. And. Delay or fix the situation at hand. So be careful with amplifiers and especially extreme words. Like always, never, no one, and every time. Another bad head game is feelers or the attempt to accept a negative feeling as accurate or without questioning it. Sometimes, our negative emotions reveal a sort of deficiency in ourselves or someone else. And sometimes, they don't. So often, you may feel a simple distortion. Sometimes, an objective reflects the quality of your thinking more than the quality of your actual life experience. Dark feelings are important, but they are no substitute for the truth. So just remember, when you have a thought, it's not always the truth, and it's good to make sure that you stop yourself and say, Hey, is this reality, or am I exaggerating this? Or am I? I am getting a feeling out of this, and that's not the case. Guessers guesser thought, pretending what other people are thinking and then assume that they are thinking the worst. This is the one that I sometimes have to correct myself on, and quite often, This is like a trigger or an emotional response that we get from thinking about what other people are thinking, covering ourselves. This sometimes puts us on the defensive, which can kick off a cycle that is not very helpful or joyful and maybe even puts you mentally. It's a state of hate for someone who doesn't even deserve it. The definitely avoid guessers are trying to guess what someone else is thinking of you at any given time. And I think this leads to the next one, which is exaggerators. You're exaggerating your thoughts, transforming molehills in the mountains and triggering words like horrible or worse, ruin, shock, devastating, stunned, and outraged. These are all exaggerators that we put in our minds. And sometimes we do not need to use them. When we're thinking about scenarios or situations that have happened in the past or, unfortunately, things that haven't even happened yet. And I think it's essential to think of them as awful or like drama queen syndrome. Don't exaggerate something that hasn't happened or a situation that maybe wasn't as bad as it would be. The next one's identifiers inject harmless events with personal meetings. They have overestimated how the event is related to them. They take things too personally and interpret adverse events as personal attacks. So, for example, you get cut off in traffic and spill your coffee in your lap. Perfect for this, right? I might respond with the other driver who is out in front of me momentarily. I actively think that the other driver had carefully plotted to be in just a spot to do this on the interstate. But the truth is, they didn't. A lot of times, we all make mistakes when we're driving and commuting. And I think that you, if you give people grace, knowing that easily could have been you. You can realize that no one is really out to get you. And that we all have been irritated in situations like this. And we just have to number is a small moment sent something to derail you. For the rest of the day, change how you think or create more negative habits in your mind. Forecasting. It's another one. So, particularly predicting a worst-case scenario—sometimes even allowed before it even happens—and participating in an activity, solving a problem, or engaging in an important conversation. Forecasting is not necessarily a good thing to do. I think it's good to plan. It's good to have foresight into whatever you're going into or whatever you're going to say, but you don't want to doom forecast and come up with things that are not ...
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