We talk a lot about getting sober — but far less about what happens after the substances are gone.

In this episode, I break down emotional sobriety: what it really means, why so many people struggle emotionally even years into recovery, and how emotional overload often comes before relapse.

This isn’t about being calm all the time or “positive thinking.”
It’s about learning how to feel emotions without being controlled by them.

You’ll hear:

• The difference between physical sobriety and emotional sobriety

• Why emotional relapse often comes before physical relapse

• Common emotional patterns in recovery that don’t get talked about

• What emotional sobriety actually looks like in real life

• Practical tools to help regulate emotions without numbing or escaping

If you’re sober but still feel overwhelmed, reactive, or emotionally exhausted — this conversation is for you.

Recovery isn’t just about not drinking.
It’s about learning how to live inside your own head and body — safely.

Relapse doesn’t usually happen because someone “stops caring.”
It happens when the mind becomes unsafe — when fear, shame, isolation, and obsession quietly take over.

In this episode, we have an honest, unfiltered conversation about what the final days before recovery really feel like — the desperation, the mental chaos, and the moment when surrender finally becomes possible.

We talk about why coming back to recovery can feel harder than getting sober the first time, how shame compounds after relapse, and why willpower alone is never enough. From spirituality and service to connection, honesty, and daily practice, this episode breaks down what actually helps when your brain is working against you.

This conversation is for:
• Anyone returning to recovery after relapse
• People struggling with shame, fear, or mental obsession
• Those questioning spirituality or a “higher power”
• Anyone who feels disconnected, overwhelmed, or stuck

Recovery isn’t about perfection.
It’s about safety, connection, and learning how to live in the present moment again.

If you’re struggling, you’re not broken — you’re human.

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Today i sat down with my good friend Ray.

Relapse doesn’t usually start with picking up a substance.
It starts quietly — with secrecy, self-deception, and the belief that “I’ll handle this on my own.”

In this episode, we have a brutally honest conversation about what relapse actually looks like after time in recovery — when you’re no longer in crisis, no longer desperate, and no longer asking for help.

We talk about being sober for years and still escaping. About how addiction becomes a chemical eject button for discomfort, fear, shame, resentment, money stress, and feeling out of control. About why some of us don’t ask for help — we have to get caught. And why, for many addicts, getting caught can feel like relief.

This conversation goes far beyond substances. We unpack lying “for no reason,” people-pleasing, emotional reactivity, comparison, resentment, food addiction, control, and the everyday behaviors that keep addict thinking alive long after drugs are gone.

We also talk honestly about the difference between alcohol and cocaine addiction, why willpower isn’t what keeps people sober, and what early recovery actually feels like when cravings are loud and honesty feels impossible.

Most importantly, we talk about what recovery looks like today — not the highlight reel, not the inspirational version, but the real work: learning to sit with discomfort, slowing down reactions, and making sure at least one person in the world knows everything.

This episode is for anyone who:

• Has relapsed after time sober

• Feels like they should be further along

• Is sober but still struggling

• Or is quietly carrying things they haven’t told anyone yet

If you’ve ever thought, “I don’t know if I have another recovery left in me,” this conversation is for you.

You’re not alone — and you don’t have to carry it by yourself.