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Relationships With A Soul

Relationships With A Soul

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 Relationships With a Soul helps you build deeper, more authentic connections — starting with the one you have with yourself. Learn to heal, set boundaries, and create relationships that feel real, safe, and soul-aligned.

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  • Why You Can't Set Boundaries (And How It's Destroying Your Sense of Self)

    Why You Can't Set Boundaries (And How It's Destroying Your Sense of Self)
    Jan 7 2026
    In this empowering episode, we explore:Why setting boundaries feels so difficult for so many people, how childhood dynamics shape our ability to say no, and how reclaiming responsibility for your emotions, time, and energy is the foundation of self-respect, identity, and healthy relationships.In this value-packed episode, we cover:* Why “boundaries” became a buzzword — and what people still misunderstand about them (01:48)* Reframing boundaries as self-regulation instead of walls or punishment (03:36)* Why boundaries are meant to protect your nervous system and inner peace (03:56)* How flexible boundaries create healthier relationships over time (04:28)* Why people with poor boundaries often grew up without a voice (06:50)* How childhood silencing leads to adult guilt and people-pleasing (07:54)* Enmeshment: when children become emotional regulators for parents (13:35)* Why guilt and shame surface when you finally try to set boundaries (18:25)* The fawn response: people-pleasing as a trauma response (28:36)* How sacrificing yourself destroys self-trust and identity over time (36:32)* Why disappointing others is unavoidable — and necessary (33:25)* How boundaries teach others how to treat you (23:29)* Why over-explaining weakens boundaries instead of strengthening them (48:50)* The moment boundaries stop being scary and start feeling empowering (47:12)* How self-respect grows every time you choose yourself (53:34)📙Follow Nick and Lily on Substack🪷 Explore The Relationships With A Soul Brand💻Visit Nick’s Website💻Visit Lily’s WebsiteKey Lessons From This EpisodeLesson 1: Boundaries Are About Regulating Yourself — Not Controlling OthersBoundaries exist to protect your peace, not to punish or manipulate people.“A boundary isn’t a wall — it’s how you keep your nervous system intact.”Lesson 2: Most Boundary Issues Start in ChildhoodWhen children aren’t allowed to have opinions or say no, they grow into adults who fear disappointing others.“If you were never allowed to say no as a child, it makes sense that it feels dangerous now.”Lesson 3: Enmeshment Destroys IdentityWhen a child becomes responsible for a parent’s emotions, the child never gets to become themselves.“You can’t build a sense of self if you’re busy regulating someone else.”Lesson 4: Guilt Is Not a Moral CompassGuilt often keeps people stuck — looping instead of healing.“Guilt isn’t growth. It’s a burden you were taught to carry.”Lesson 5: People-Pleasing Is a Trauma ResponseFawning isn’t kindness — it’s survival.“If I keep you happy, I’ll be safe.”That belief keeps people trapped for decades.Lesson 6: You Are Not Responsible for Other People’s EmotionsAllowing others to feel discomfort is not abandonment — it’s respect.“You don’t need to rescue people from their feelings.”Lesson 7: Over-Explaining Weakens BoundariesYou don’t owe anyone a courtroom defense for protecting your peace.“Clarity is stronger than justification.”Lesson 8: Boundaries Teach Others How to Treat YouSelf-respect creates external respect — not the other way around.“When you respect yourself, the line becomes visible.”Lesson 9: You Can Care and Still Set LimitsBoundaries do not mean you don’t care — they mean you do.“Caring doesn’t require self-abandonment.”Lesson 10: A Strong Relationship With Yourself Comes FirstYou live with yourself your entire life.That relationship determines every other one.“Disappointing others is sometimes the price of self-respect.”Enjoyed This Episode? You May Also EnjoyHelp Grow The Podcast:Since this is a new podcast, I’d really appreciate your support. Here are three ways you can help grow the podcast:* Follow the Relationships With A Soul podcast on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favorite podcasting platform* Share this episode with a friend who you think will find it valuable Get full access to Relationships With A Soul at newsletter.nickneve.com/subscribe
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    57 mins
  • Why We're Becoming Weaker As A Society (And How To Fix It)

    Why We're Becoming Weaker As A Society (And How To Fix It)
    Dec 30 2025
    In this empowering episode, we explore:How to use technology as a tool instead of a crutch, why unchecked device use quietly steals your agency, and how reclaiming responsibility for your time reconnects you with your innate power to consciously direct your life.In this value-packed episode, we cover:* Using technology to support your life instead of controlling it (01:10)* The difference between conscious tech use and unconscious dependency (01:22)* How devices subtly numb you from the changes you know you need to make (01:36)* Why distraction often replaces fulfillment without you noticing (01:50)* Asking the hard question: who is really directing your life? (02:05)* Why no one else can manage your life or your time for you (02:18)* Taking full responsibility for your choices as a turning point (02:32)* The moment empowerment clicks when you reclaim agency (02:47)* Reconnecting with your innate power to influence your future (03:02)* Choosing to consciously direct your life instead of handing that power away (03:18)Connect with Nick:📙Follow Nick on Substack🪷 Explore The Relationships With A Soul Brand💻Visit Nick’s WebsiteKey Lessons From This EpisodeLesson 1: Technology Should Support Your Life — Not Run ItDevices are tools, not decision-makers.When they start dictating your behavior, your agency quietly disappears.“Technology should serve you — not replace you.”“Support is different than control.”Lesson 2: Distraction Often Masks AvoidanceExcessive screen time can numb you from the changes you know you need to make.“Distraction feels harmless until you realize what it’s costing you.”“What you avoid today becomes what controls you tomorrow.”Lesson 3: No One Else Is Coming to Manage Your LifeResponsibility can feel heavy — but it’s also where your power lives.“No one can direct your life for you.”“Responsibility isn’t a burden — it’s access to freedom.”Lesson 4: Ownership Creates EmpowermentThe moment you accept full responsibility for how you use your time, something shifts internally.“Power returns the moment excuses leave.”“Your life responds when you take ownership.”Lesson 5: Your Time Reveals Your PrioritiesHow you spend your attention is how you shape your future.“Your calendar tells the truth before your words do.”“Time is where intention becomes reality.”Lesson 6: Awareness Is the Gateway to ChangeYou can’t adjust what you refuse to look at.“Awareness turns unconscious habits into conscious choice.”Lesson 7: Fulfillment Requires Conscious DirectionA fulfilling life doesn’t happen by accident — it’s designed through choice.“Fulfillment begins where autopilot ends.”Lesson 8: Reclaiming Power Feels Like Remembering SomethingWhen you reconnect with your agency, it feels familiar — because it’s always been there.“Power isn’t gained — it’s remembered.”Lesson 9: Preparing for the Future Requires HonestyBeing honest about where the world is headed allows you to adapt intentionally.“Clarity about the future creates confidence in the present.”Lesson 10: You Are Meant to Direct Your Own LifeYour life experience should be shaped by your values — not external forces.“The most important decision is who gets to steer your life.”“Choose to direct your life instead of handing that power away.”Enjoyed This Episode? You May Also EnjoyHelp Grow The Podcast:Since this is a new podcast, I’d really appreciate your support. Here are three ways you can help grow the podcast:* Follow the Relationships With A Soul podcast on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favorite podcasting platform* Share this episode with a friend who you think will find it valuable Get full access to Relationships With A Soul at newsletter.nickneve.com/subscribe
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    13 mins
  • The Procrastination Trap and Why Your Mind Doesn't Allow you To Take Action

    The Procrastination Trap and Why Your Mind Doesn't Allow you To Take Action
    Dec 23 2025
    In this empowering episode, we explore:Why fear feels overwhelming before you start but fades once you take action, how building a new business mirrors everyday skills you already trust yourself to do, and how a simple framework can help you break free from feeling stuck and finally move toward the life you want.In this value-packed episode, we cover:* Why complex tasks feel effortless once they become familiar (01:10)* How driving is a perfect example of fear turning into automatic confidence (01:22)* Why building a business follows the same learning curve as everyday skills (01:35)* The importance of simply getting started instead of waiting to feel ready (01:48)* How research replaces fear with clarity and direction (02:01)* Why fear feels intense but is never actually fatal (02:14)* How the mind exaggerates risk and discomfort to keep you safe — and stuck (02:28)* Recognizing the “heavy weight” feeling as a signal that something needs to change (02:44)* Introducing a simple framework for identifying what’s really holding you back (03:02)* Why honoring your gifts and chasing your dreams matters more than ever (03:20)Connect with Nick:📙Follow Nick on Substack🪷 Explore The Relationships With A Soul Brand💻Visit Nick’s WebsiteKey Lessons From This EpisodeLesson 1: Fear Shrinks Once You Start MovingFear feels overwhelming before action, but it loses its power the moment you engage.“Fear thrives on hesitation — not action.”“Nothing changes until you take the first step.”Lesson 2: Confidence Is Built Through RepetitionWhat once felt terrifying becomes automatic through practice and exposure.“Confidence is just familiarity over time.”“You weren’t born knowing — you learned.”Lesson 3: Building a Business Isn’t Special — It’s LearnableEntrepreneurship follows the same process as any other skill you’ve mastered.“Every expert was once a beginner.”“You already know how to learn hard things.”Lesson 4: Your Mind Exaggerates Danger to Keep You ComfortableFear often sounds urgent, dramatic, and catastrophic — but it’s rarely accurate.“Fear feels fatal, but it never is.”“Your mind is loudest when you’re about to grow.”Lesson 5: Getting Started Is More Important Than Getting It RightMomentum comes from movement, not perfection.“Clarity follows action — not the other way around.”Lesson 6: Feeling Stuck Is a Signal, Not a FailureThat heavy weight you feel isn’t weakness — it’s information.“Stuck doesn’t mean broken — it means misaligned.”Lesson 7: You Don’t Need the Full Picture to BeginYou can start changing your life before you fully understand what’s holding you back.“You don’t need certainty — you need direction.”Lesson 8: Simple Frameworks Create Massive ChangeStructure gives your mind something solid to stand on when everything feels unclear.“Simplicity creates momentum.”Lesson 9: You Can Pull Yourself Out of Long RutsEven a decade of stagnation can be reversed with the right tools and commitment.“It’s never too late to start choosing yourself.”Lesson 10: The World Needs You Living Your PurposeWhen you honor your gifts, you don’t just change your life — you impact others.“Your dreams matter more than your fear.”“The world needs more people who choose courage.”Enjoyed This Episode? You May Also EnjoyHelp Grow The Podcast:Since this is a new podcast, I’d really appreciate your support. Here are three ways you can help grow the podcast:* Follow the Relationships With A Soul podcast on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favorite podcasting platform* Share this episode with a friend who you think will find it valuable Get full access to Relationships With A Soul at newsletter.nickneve.com/subscribe
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    15 mins
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