🎯 Going to meetups every week, showing up to events over and over again, hitting nerd conventions annually, and still single? You're not alone. George is a 47-year-old Marvel and Star Wars fan who attends events regularly, has female friends, and can dance without drinking. So why hasn't he found his Player 2? 🤔

🔒 The problem isn't the meetups. It's staying stuck in the container. George would meet women he liked, exchange Instagrams, but never unlock his social tree. He'd only connect 1-on-1 with women he was attracted to, then disappear if they wanted to be "just friends." Why? He believed women decide whether you're dateable within 30 seconds, so friendship = game over 👾

📊 According to my surveys, 70% of nerd couples who didn't meet on dating apps started as friends (usually for 6 months to a year!). Even 20% of the couples who met on dating apps started as friends first! That "women decide in 30 seconds" rule? Debunked. The friend zone fear? Actually blocking him from the exact path most nerds take to find their Player 2 🎲

🧩 So what's the missing piece? How do you turn meetup connections into actual dating opportunities? 🍷

🎧 Press Start to find out how to unlock 2-player mode! 🎮 🎮

👾 FREE GUIDE: WHERE NERDS REALLY MEET THEIR PLAYER 2 🕹️

Based on real-world nerd data. Download it at https://datelikeanerd.com/reality

📱 Have questions? Join me on Discord! https://www.datelikeanerd.com/discord

Related Episodes:

• 'I'm Cooked' (Where to Find Dates After College), with Single Player Brandon
• "You're Nice But I'm Not Interested" After Every First Date, Aaron's Nerd Dating Transformation
• Cold Approaches Failed. One Night With New Friends Worked, Mrinal’s Nerd Dating Transformation
• Rejected, Friendzoned, and Not Reading the Signals: the Nerd Love Story of Vir and Diego
• Physical Escalation from Friends to Lovers: the Nerd Love Story of Jose and Julian
• The Tolkien Association: Where to Meet Nerds, with Vir
• Find Your Nerd Community: Where to Meet Nerds, with Jose
• Find Love Through Online Games, with Kaylee Lopez
• The Twitch Streamer on Discord, the Nerd Love Story of Luna and Jason

Timestamps for lazy nerds:

• 00:00:00 Intro
• 00:00:38 What Makes George A Nerd
• 00:01:10 Going to Meetups
• 00:04:16 Starting Out As Friends
• 00:07:42 The Friends Next Door
• 00:10:39 How Many Relationships Start As Friendships
• 00:12:55 The Benefits of Friendships
• 00:17:33 Meeting People At Meetups
• 00:20:33 Scheduling Problems
• 00:23:41 Choosing The Right Friends
• 00:29:14 Being Vulnerable
• 00:37:17 The Awkward Friend
• 00:46:18 Final Thoughts

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🤔 What if months of cold approaching strangers kept you single and frustrated, but making new friends got you numbers? That's exactly what happened to Mrinal, a past client of mine 🤓 He's a nerd who plays D&D, learned Japanese to watch anime without subtitles, and spent months following mainstream dating advice that made him feel uncomfortable and inauthentic 💀

🌐 When we started working together, the first breakthrough was realizing that "real life is NOT a subreddit." While online spaces amplified his fears and made him think everyone would judge him, the real world was completely different. He joined an improv group's WhatsApp chat (terrified his first message would be ignored), went contra dancing, and discovered board game nights just minutes from his home. Places he'd convinced himself didn't exist or weren't for him 🎲

But here's the real transformation: Mrinal went from isolated and desperate to getting invited to 4 Halloween parties within only a couple of months of us working together 🎃 He's no longer afraid to left-swipe on dating apps for fear of missing out on a match. He's not desperately trying to get "whatever he can get." And most importantly? He stopped waiting for the "perfect fit" and just started showing up. Because those "imperfect" activities led him to the right people 🎯

💤 If you're tired of feeling like dating advice is keeping you single, or if you've been brave enough to try everything but nothing feels right, listen to Mrinal's story. Because sometimes the world is so much bigger than you think! 🌍

🎧 Press Start and learn what's possible when you Date Like A Nerd! 🤓

👾 WONDERING IF COACHING IS RIGHT FOR YOU?🕹️

Book a FREE Discovery Call!

https://www.datelikeanerd.com/player2/

📱 Have questions? Join me on Discord! https://www.datelikeanerd.com/discord

Related:

• How to Find Groups and Socialize as a Shy, Introverted Nerd (Step-By-Step Guide)
• I Surveyed 273 Nerds in Canada: Here's The Dating Strategy That Worked
• "You're Nice But I'm Not Interested" After Every First Date, Aaron's Nerd Dating Transformation
• The Hidden Cost of Finding Love With Red Pill Dating: John’s Nerd Love Story
• 'I'm Cooked' (Where to Find Dates After College), with Single Player Brandon

Timestamps for lazy nerds:

• 00:00:00 Intro
• 00:35:12 What Makes Him a Nerd
• 00:01:34 Life Before Coaching
• 00:06:04 Ashamed of Being a Nerd
• 00:08:34 Why Coaching
• 00:12:17 What Coaching Was Like
• 00:16:34 Starting to Socialize
• 00:20:40 Real Life Isn't a Subreddit
• 00:25:40 Dating Achievements
• 00:30:46 Socializing as an Introvert
• 00:37:28 Having Dating Standards
• 00:43:08 Stop Waiting For Perfection

#datelikeanerd #datingtips #datingadvice #dating #nerdlife #nerd #gamer #single #socialskills #podcast

Contact:
dm@datelikeanerd.com or
@datelikeanerd on social media

🫣 Meeting new people can be scary. That's why online gaming communities are a great way to start if you have Level 1 Social Skills and want to farm some XP! 👾

In this episode, I bring back Kaylee Lopez, an anthropologist who writes about gaming and game communities. We discussed why communities are important and how you can use them to level up your social skills IRL 💬

🏰 From self-esteem to safety, communities can serve many different purposes. Fortunately, whether they're online or in-person doesn't dramatically change the impact they can have on you. Having a group of people who want to be with you and support you can help you become more secure in yourself and with others 😎

🖥️ You can use online social spaces to try new social skills that you're too afraid to test in the real world. By giving your avatar the behaviours you'd like to have yourself, you can safely test what it would feel like to be someone different 🦸 Someone you want to be 🫅

You'll even get to see how people react, and how you can react to those reactions (and so on) 🤩 After rinsing and repeating, you'll start incorporating those characteristics into your real life. There are forms of therapy (including TTRPGs) that are based on this model. The fact that it's not "the real you" is irrelevant. You'll still grow and develop into the person you want to become 🙌

As time goes by and you start feeling more confident both in your skills and with the people in your community, you can go from text-based interactions to audio, video, and maybe even in-person meetings! 🤗

🫡 So what are you waiting for? Are you going to accept this new Quest? 🙂‍↕️

🎧 Listen now and start leveling up your social skills online! 🦾

👾 FREE GUIDE: WHERE NERDS REALLY MEET THEIR PLAYER 2 🕹️

Based on hundreds of surveys of nerd couples and singles. Download it at https://datelikeanerd.com/reality

📱 Have questions? Join me on Discord! https://www.datelikeanerd.com/discord

Related Episodes:

• Find Love Through Online Games, with Kaylee Lopez
• The Tolkien Association: Where to Meet Nerds, with Vir
• Gamify Your Dating Anxiety, with Michael Berger
• Find Your Nerd Community: Where to Meet Nerds, with Jose
• The Twitch Streamer on Discord, the Nerd Love Story of Luna and Jason
• Beat the Fear of Rejection Through Your Gamer’s Journey, with Dr. Daniel Kaufmann
• IRL Lessons from Video Games, with Dr. Daniel Kaufmann
• Dating In The Tolkien Association, with Jose
• How to Make Nerd Friends, with Pete “Belmont”

Timestamps for lazy nerds:

• 00:00:00 Intro
• 00:01:19 The Value Of Communities
• 00:03:46 Becoming Secure Through Communities
• 00:06:09 IRL vs Online Communities
• 00:08:09 How to Meet People in Online Games
• 00:10:35 Developing Social Skills
• 00:13:19 Who You Want To Be
• 00:15:00 Staying Safe
• 00:21:05 Contact

Contact:
dm@datelikeanerd.com or
@datelikeanerd on social media