In this episode of the Midlife Mavens podcast, hosts Marci Burroughs and Carol O’Saben discuss the topic of mismatched libidos, a common issue many couples face but rarely talk about openly. Marci, a certified sex therapist, shares her expertise on the nature of mismatched sexual desire, comparing it to differences in appetite and sleep. The conversation addresses common myths surrounding sexual desire, particularly the difference between spontaneous and responsive desire. They discuss the importance of communication, intimacy beyond sex, and strategies to manage this dynamic, including taking breaks from sex, understanding personal boundaries, and the concept of a ’desire dial.’ The episode also touches on the impact of hormonal changes, the role of masturbation, and the significance of changing how one thinks about the role of sex in a relationship. This candid discussion aims to provide listeners, especially women in midlife, with insights and tools to improve their sexual relationships and overall intimacy. 00:00 Introduction and Podcast Overview 01:35 Understanding Mismatched Libidos 06:39 Common Myths About Sexual Desire 12:57 Spontaneous vs. Responsive Desire 28:23 Strategies for Managing Mismatched Libidos 32:02 Special Considerations for LGBTQ Couples 35:53 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

Books Mentioned by Marci:

Awaken your Body Awaken Your Desire by Danielle Armour, PhD Come as You Are by Emily Nagoski

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If you are looking for a therapist and would like to reach out to Marci or Carol, take a look at their websites:

Marci: https://www.marciburroughsphdcst.com

Carol: https://www.drosaben.com

Other therapist directories you can use to help you find therapy include:

Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/th...

Mental Health Match: https://mentalhealthmatch.com/

American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists: https://aasect.org

iTherapy: https://itherapy.com