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Helping that preserves dependence will eventually turn into resentment.

What This Episode Does

This episode exposes the helper role as a structure, not a virtue.

It names the immediate rewards that keep rescue alive.

It shows how relief moves while responsibility doesn’t.

It makes clear why resentment forms quietly inside competence.

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Website: https://seconddad.com/

Book: https://amzn.eu/d/01PFUl5f

Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0ixmOqlkfssOSxMtrqE5vt?si=260b21dcc4254bfa

Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/second-dad/id1870344356

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Second-Dad

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Most people don’t refuse responsibility.

They avoid the small friction that would build capacity.

This episode looks at how adulthood is quietly postponed, not through chaos or rebellion, but through explanation, softening, and protection from discomfort.

When adjustment is replaced with tone, something subtle happens: expectations drop, trust recalibrates, and weight gets deferred rather than carried.

Nothing disappears.

You still meet the cost, just later and heavier.

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For a long time, people came to me with their problems.

I was good at seeing patterns.
Good at offering clean ways through things.

I thought that was connection.
I thought that was contribution.

What I didn’t see at first was what fixing was giving me:
intensity, stimulation, and a role to stay in.

This episode is about venting, rescuing, and the quiet cost of being needed.
About how relief can move without responsibility ever changing.

And about what you’re left with when you stop mistaking intensity for connection, and take responsibility for the distance that follows.

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This is the orientation episode for Second Dad.

This podcast is not about motivation, advice, or therapy. It exists for adults who already understand a lot, but keep noticing the same patterns repeating anyway, in work, relationships, decisions, and boundaries.

Second Dad starts from personal responsibility, not from persuading you into it. There is no on-ramp, no reassurance, and no promise of progress.

Episodes are released weekly on Thursdays. Each episode applies the same core posture, responsibility without rescue, to lived experience: pressure, conflict, leadership, and the moments where insight collapses, and behaviour takes over.

You don’t need to agree with what’s said here. But if you listen, you’re expected to listen as an adult, someone willing to notice where responsibility has been avoided, outsourced, or softened.

If you’re looking for reassurance, this probably won’t be useful. If you’re looking for clarity, even when it’s uncomfortable, you’ll know whether to keep listening.