Setting healthy boundaries can feel selfish, but what if we could rewrite the script?

In this journal entry, we explore how to reframe boundary setting as a generous act of love for oneself and one's relations.

Some of the things I talk about are:

- The emotional cost of saying 'yes' when you want to say 'no.'
- The high cost of not setting boundaries, which can lead to resentment and the loss of self-trust.
- How to redefine boundaries so we can show up as our best, most patient, and present selves for friends and family. (It all starts with filling our own cups first!)
- The first step we need to take on the path to setting long-lasting, healthy boundaries.

This video is that foundational first step! If you're ready to overcome the fear of rejection and conflict that can arise when considering boundaries setting, make sure to subscribe so you don't miss the next video in this series.

✨ What is one thing you are going to say "no" to this week? Share in the comments below!

Next ▶️
Check out: Why the Golden Rule doesn’t work (https://youtu.be/ZDQd-hFtUkM) for a look at why treating others the way they want to be treated—not the way you want to be treated—is the foundation of healthy relationships and self-aware boundaries.

XOXO,
Kate Harmony

📖 Journal Notes
0:00 Welcome to the Lightbearer's Library
0:25 Rewrite the Script: Boundaries as Self-Care & Generosity
2:03 Step 1: The Emotional Cost of Not Setting Healthy Boundaries
2:39 Why Saying 'Yes' When You Mean 'No' Destroys Self-Trust
3:49 How Not Setting Limits Leads to Resentment in Relationships
5:05 The Truth: Not Having Boundaries is the Real Selfish Act
6:15 The Teacup Theory: Defining Boundaries as True Generosity
8:05 Final Thoughts & Preview: Overcoming the Fear of Rejection

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🌿 About Kate Harmony 🌿

My main channel (Hack Music Theory) has over 250K subscribers and 10 million views. I've been a full-time YouTuber since 2017 and launched this personal channel (Lightbearer's Library) in 2025, where I'm making video versions of my journal entries.

Some of my favourite topics to talk about are practical philosophy, positive psychology, and personality type (I'm an INFP). But honestly, my journals contain counter-cultural thoughts about everything, so expect the unexpected! I also share practical ways I'm improving my mental health, with the hope that you might find them useful too.

I deleted all my social media accounts over 10 years ago, so I offer a loving perspective that's free from the divisive language commonly found in feeds nowadays.

If this sounds like your cup of tea, then I warmly welcome you into the Lightbearer's Library. Stay for a while, and please remember to subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCV2wps4NID9rrO08OuwZ5Lg?sub_confirmation=1