Sex Ed Before Bed Host Bex (she/her) is in the hotseat for the first time ever, interviewed by her sister Izzy (she/her) on another taboo topic: friendship breakups.

Timestamps

• 0:00 Cold open
• 3:30 Coming out late, building a queer community
• 9:42 Pursing love with a friend
• 12:00 Girlfriend breakup, crew breakup
• 15:44 The stories we tell ourselves and friendship ideals
• 18:10 Rejection sensitivity dysphoria (RSD) and cognitive distortions
• 24:53 Transmuting pain into art
• 30:00 Accepting what is
• 33:00 Closing

Topics we discuss:

• Coming out and building community
• Role that queer families play for newly out folks
• Romantic relationships within a friend group
• Friend group ruptures in the wake of breakups
• Role of compounding factors in coping with loss
• The role of rejection sensitivity dysphoria (RSD) in grappling with loss
• Accepting the loss and moving forward

Research

• The Lesbian's Experience of Friendship by Jeanne Stanley pgs. 43-44
• Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria definitions from ADDitude and the Cleveland Clinic
• The lived experience of rejection sensitivity in ADHD - A qualitative exploration PLoS One - Published January 2026

Books

• The Other Significant Others by Rhaina Cohen
• Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents by Lindsay Gibson
• Who Deserves Your Love: How to Create Boundaries to Start, Strengthen or End Any Relationship by KC Davis

Tools

• Thought Record exercise to combat distorted thinking

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In this episode, Bex (she/her) is joined by Aislin (she/her) and Stella (she/they) to discuss what queer community means, how to find and build inclusive spaces, and the challenges of representation in the arts and athletics. They share personal stories, insights, and shoutouts to local queer organizations making a difference.

• 00:00 - Introduction
• 04:30 - Defining Queer Community
• 12:15 - Toronto’s Queer Community & Inclusivity
• 21:00 - Queer Identity & Representation
• 29:40 - The Importance of Organizing
• 39:50 - Challenges in Queer Spaces
• 48:30 - The Role of Art & Performance in Queer Culture
• 56:10 - Lifting up the Queer Community in Real-time
• 1:04:15 - Community Shoutouts

• Bex @sexedbeforebed
• Aislin @queerrunclub & @architectaislin
• Queer Run Club - Weekly Saturday runs & coffee meetups


• Queer Jock Night
• Queer Mingle Events 
- Black and Indigenous-run meetups for the lesbian, non-binary, trans and queer community

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1 in 5 university-enrolled women will experience attempted or completed rape. Rape is one of the most underreported crimes - 10% are reported.

A world without rape. A world where sexual violence is rare. This is the goal of Sara's work on Flip the Script, a new Canadian sexual assault prevention program for young cis and trans women to assess, acknowledge and act. This episode is a must-listen for every parent and every young woman.

We talked about how the program works and the positive impact it has had so far. We talked about how young women want to have these conversations about setting boundaries, understanding coercion and pondering what pleasure looks like for them.

We also talked about radical self-love and for women, trusting our gut!

Resources

• Globe and Mail Article
• Draw The Line
• Loveisrespect.org
• Sexual Assault Centres Near You

Sara's Work

• Insta @girls.resist
• Twitter @girls_resist
• About Flip the Script
• Sexual Assault Resistance Education (SARE) Centre

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