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Sextras

Sextras

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Sextras is a podcast about sex, dating, relationships and all the extras. Honey Jane Wyatt paints a candid picture of relationships and dating in your 20s, from sharing funny stories, to sex tips, to hard life lessons learnt (and learning). Typical episodes go from heavy discussions about surveillance culture and dating, to why it's so hard to orgasm during sex and offering a word of advice for cringe sex stories from their listeners. Listen in to hear Honey share all the details of her and her listeners' sex and love lives, and to maybe learn something from our expert guests along the way. To get involved, subscribe to Sextras on Substack follow us on Instagram, TikTok, and Facebook, email us (sextraspodcast@gmail.com) or submit anonymous confessions to www.sextrasworld.com.


Hosted by Honey Jane Wyatt

Original music by Sacha Puttnam

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Episodes
  • Does Social Media Have A Sex Problem?
    Feb 24 2026

    Not to sound conspiratorial or whatever, but Big Tech doesn't want us to talk about sex on social media. But it's not just sex, and specifically pleasure, that's not allowed. Women's health content, LGBTQ+ issues, and sexual wellbeing is also not allowed – especially not when it's posted by marginalised community.


    So let's get into it: in this episode we paint a picture of the breadth of digital suppression, and why exactly we all need to be talking about it more. We speak to co-founder of campaign group CensHERship, Clio Wood, about what's happening to women's health content creators, as well as Kalila Bolton, co-founder of sexual wellness and education platform SheSpot, and Amari, a sex coach and virtual assistant, about their experience with having their accounts shadowbanned or paid ads removed.


    We look at why this censorship is happening and its impact, and ask porn historian Noelle Perdue whether legislating against sexual content online is the most effective approach.


    Thanks for tuning in, if you enjoy the episode please leave us a review wherever you're listening! Subscribe to our Substack to make sure you never miss an episode or an article, get involved in the conversation, and let us know what you want to hear next. You can find us on Instagram, TikTok, and our website, or get in touch with us via email sextraspodcast@gmail.com with what you want to hear next.


    You can find more on our guests below:

    • CensHERship on their website, LinkedIn, or Instagram
    • SheSpot on their website or Instagram
    • Amari on Instagram or her website
    • Noelle Perdue on her Substack.


    In this episode, we frequently reference:

    • CensHERship's 2025 White Paper
    • 'Algospeak and performing for the alforithmic imaginary' in Dazed
    • Noelle's Substack post: 'Are you 18 or over? Are you my mother? Are you my sexy surveillance state?'


    Contact us with questions about other sources used!


    Hosted by Honey Jane Wyatt

    Music by Sacha Puttnam

    Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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    1 hr and 22 mins
  • WTF Is Kink, Anyway? With Gigi Engle
    Feb 10 2026

    If there's one aspect of sex that's severely misunderstood, it's kink. From 50 Shades of Grey misrepresenting it as being non-consensual and all about pain, to the stigma of openly associating with any kind of desire that's not ✨mainstream✨ it can be a little intimidating to consciously decide to engage in kink for the first time. And not least because there's so much information out there that, as a beginner, it can be easy to feel overwhelmed and wonder if your desires even count as kink at all.


    Well, never fear, because in this episode we're joined by the wonderful Gigi Engle to discuss everything you need to know about kink as a beginner. We start the episode answering some listener questions (to access more subscribe to our Substack @sextras) before jumping into why we need to talk about kink (hint: because more people engage in it than you realise, and it can be dangerous if you get it wrong!).


    Gigi tells me about her own journey into kink and explains what a kink actually is, and what it's not (ie. it's not just BDSM and foot fetishes). We look at how power dynamics come into it, and why they're not as scary as they might sound, how to know what kinks you're into, and what the most common kinks, or kink-related fantasies, are.


    To help you stay emotionally and physically safe when practicing kink, Gigi advises us on how to bring up your kink to a partner, and what steps you can take together before even thinking about exploring it in the bedroom – or wherever else you might want to.


    Thanks so much for listening! You can find Gigi on her Instagram, website, or Substack, and buy her book from the Common Press or your favourite indie bookshop near you (or Am*zon if you must!). We've changed our name on Instagram to @s3xtrasworld (more on this next episode), but as always you can find us there, on our website, TikTok, or subscribe to our Substack (pretty please!). Don't forget to review us wherever you're listening and we'll miss you until next time 💋.


    Hosted by Honey Jane Wyatt

    Music by Sacha Puttnam

    Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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    45 mins
  • Sexual Confidence and How to Talk About What Turns You On (with Dr Tara)
    Jan 27 2026
    It's no secret talking about sex can be awkward – that is, if you get round to doing it at all. But what with a lack of sex education, the fact that pleasure for women and LGBTQ+ people is basically completely ignored, and not to mention the rise of conservatism, it can be almost impossible to know what to say and how to describe your pleasure. That's where sexual confidence is crucial. This week, we're joined by Dr Tara Suwinyattichaiporn, the dating expert on Channel 4's Celebs Go Dating, host of the Luvbites podcast, and professor of sexual and relational communication to to help us build the vocabulary for talking about sex, desire, and pleasure — but without the cringe, don't worry.We start with a conversation about how sexual confidence shows up outside the bedroom, how it's different from sexual self-esteem, and what you can actually do to feel more confident expressing your desires (hint: practice helps). Dr Tara then talks us through her sexual profile quiz. A part of her recent book How Do You Like It? A Guide for Getting What You Want (In Bed) the quiz offers 16 sexuality 'types' – or rather, practical terms you can use to communicate with your partner. Whether you're new to having sex, exploring your pleasure, or just talking about it with your partner, we're here to offer some hope! With a little time, effort, and introspection, learning how to describe what turns you on is possible, and it can take you from having someone touch nowhere near your clit (not speaking from experience or anything...) to multiple, mind-blowing orgasms. We hope you enjoy the episode. If you want to hear more from Dr Tara, you can follow her on Instagram or TikTok. She has a ton of resources available on her website, and her book is available to buy at major retailers like Amazon, Barnes and Noble (US) and Waterstones (UK). Go check it out!To share your own experiences with talking about sex, you can get in touch with us on Instagram or TikTok, our website, email us at sextraspodcast@gmail.com. Two podcast episodes a month not enough for you? Fairsies, but don't worry – you can subscribe to our Substack for bonus episodes, exclusive articles about sex and relationships, and a subscriber-only chat to get all the tea on our sex and dating lives. ⏩ Had enough of me yapping? Skip to 14m50 to hear my interview with Tara. 📖 For some extra reading, you can find the Cosmopolitan article I mention here (you'll need an Apple News subscription, FYI). Read Sextras Magazine's profile of Dr Tara here.Hosted by Honey Jane WyattMusic by Sacha Puttnam Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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    44 mins
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