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A coffee date, a name freeze, and a confession about sharing locations with an ex—this one had all the makings of a modern dating cautionary tale. We break down the red flags, the mismatched values, and the quiet signals that tell you everything you need to know before the second latte lands.

We start with the “I’m not looking for anything serious” opener and talk about why timing and tone matter more than the words themselves. Then we dig into the moment emotional availability becomes a punchline and how humor can be used to dodge accountability. From there, we examine digital boundaries—like keeping location sharing on with an ex “because it’s easier”—and what that reveals about closure, consent, and readiness to date.

The conversation widens into perennial questions: Can men and women be just friends, especially after history? What does real effort in planning a date look like when you’re not trying to impress with money but with thought? And how does picking up the check signal interest, disinterest, or a clean exit? We trade personal rules on first-kiss timing, cultural norms around pacing intimacy, and the value of clarity over games. Expect practical takeaways on setting boundaries, spotting subtle red flags, and inviting better behavior by modeling it yourself.

If you’ve ever sat across from someone clutching a coffee like a security blanket while downplaying commitment and dodging basic transparency, this conversation will feel uncomfortably familiar—and hopefully empowering. Hit play, share it with a friend who’s navigating the apps, and tell us your wildest first-date story or your favorite green flag. Subscribe, leave a review, and drop your take in the comments so we can read it on a future episode.