The Identity Architecture Behind Extraordinary Women

Why Belief Is the Infrastructure of Your Next Level

Your vision isn’t too big — your beliefs just haven’t caught up yet.

In this solo episode of She Wears the Pants, Ashley Deland takes you into the unseen architecture that determines how much success, visibility, and responsibility you’re actually able to hold.

This is not a mindset conversation, it’s an identity conversation about self-trust, internal leadership, and the beliefs that quietly shape every decision you make.

You can have the strategy.

You can have the plan.

You can have the opportunity.

But if you don’t trust the woman executing it, the entire structure becomes unstable.

If you’re a high-growth woman who knows she’s capable of more - yet feels a subtle hesitation between vision and execution - this episode will help you close the gap between who you’re building for and who you’re currently leading as.

In this episode, Ashley shares how to:

1. Understand why beliefs function as infrastructure
2. Recognize the difference between intellectual confidence and embodied self-trust
3. Identify the three internal voices shaping your decisions: the Architect, the Analyst, and the Auditor
4. Rebuild belief through identity-backed patterns instead of surface-level motivation
5. Strengthen the three layers of belief required for sustainable leadership: belief in self, belief in process, and belief in assignment
6. Anchor into internal leadership that allows your strategy, visibility, and opportunities to finally stabilize

Ashley also names the cost of uncalibrated belief: hesitation, shrinking, over-functioning, and building momentum your identity doesn’t yet feel safe holding and why self-trust is not a personality trait, but a pattern built in the smallest moments when no one is watching.

By the end of this episode, you’ll walk away with a deeper understanding of the beliefs you’re currently operating from, clarity around what must be reconfigured, and a grounded sense of the woman you’re becoming — one who can finally rely on herself at the level she’s calling in.

Continue the Work with Ashley

Step into your next level: Explore Private Advisory, high-touch strategic partnership, and fractional leadership support for women scaling with precision and power.

→ https://ashleydeland.com/inquire

Experience a full-business transformation in one weekend: Apply for Ashley’s Executive VIP Experience — an immersive, in-person strategic overhaul designed to collapse timelines and accelerate growth.

→ https://ashleydeland.com/inquire

Stay in proximity: For daily strategy, identity expansion, and behind-the-scenes insight, connect with Ashley on Instagram.

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Your body is not a side project. It’s the infrastructure of your next level.

In this episode of She Wears the Pants, Ashley Deland is joined by Leah Van Dolder, award-winning dietitian, transformation coach, and top 10% podcast host. Together, they unpack what it really takes for a high-growth woman to feel strong, nourished, and deeply connected to her body while she builds a business that matches her calling.

If you’re a woman who refuses to choose between ambition and well-being, this conversation will help you reclaim your energy as a leadership advantage - not a cost of success.

In this episode, you’ll learn how to:

1. Shift from toxic diet culture into sustainable nourishment that supports your goals
2. Reframe movement as self-leadership, not punishment — and build consistency without burnout
3. Apply Leah’s SHINE framework to strengthen habits that protect your energy and confidence
4. Anchor your identity and faith through fear, pressure, and uncertainty so you don’t abandon yourself in the process
5. Lead your life and business with standards that honor both your calling and your body

By the end, you’ll walk away with a clearer understanding of how to support your energy, strengthen your self-trust, and build success that actually feels good on the inside.

Meet Leah

Leah Van Dolder is an award-winning dietitian, transformation coach, and top 10% podcast host. With over 15 years of experience, she helps ambitious women dismantle toxic diet culture, elevate their strength and confidence, and reconnect to their bodies through integrative, identity-led nourishment.

Website: leahvandolder.com

Instagram: @leahvandolder

Leah is also co-hosting the Bold Retreat in Costa Rica (February 14–20, 2026) — an immersive experience for women ready to reconnect with their bodies, deepen their leadership, and expand their vision in one of the most powerful environments on earth. Learn more here: https://www.shirleewilliams.com/bold-retreat

Continue the Work with Ashley

Step into your next level: Explore Private Advisory, high-touch strategic partnership, and fractional leadership support for women scaling with precision and power.

→ https://ashleydeland.com/inquire

Experience a full-business transformation in one weekend: Apply for Ashley’s Executive VIP Experience — an immersive, in-person strategic overhaul designed to collapse timelines and accelerate growth.

→ https://ashleydeland.com/inquire

Stay in proximity: For daily strategy, identity expansion, and behind-the-scenes insight, connect with Ashley on Instagram.

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The Woman Before the Win

Becoming Her Before the Results Arrive

You don’t become her at the win.

You become her long before the win ever arrives.

In this solo episode of She Wears the Pants, Ashley Deland takes you into the most misunderstood, and most critical phase of leadership: the becoming.

Not the applause.

Not the breakthrough.

Not the moment the evidence finally shows up.

But the quiet, unglamorous, unseen middle where identity is forged long before results arrive.

Before confidence comes proof.

Before validation comes discipline.

Before outcomes come identity.

If you’re a high-growth woman who feels like she’s doing everything “right” but hasn’t yet seen the external confirmation - this conversation will anchor you into the truth that changes everything:

You are not behind. You are being built.

In this episode, Ashley shares how to:

1. Understand why becoming matters more than arriving — and why the win cannot shape you if the woman isn’t built first
2. Recognize the identity work happening in the silent seasons when nothing seems to be moving externally
3. Identify the difference between desire-led action and identity-led leadership
4. Release the pressure to rush the process, bypass the middle, or perform confidence before it’s embodied
5. Strengthen the private standards, discipline, and self-leadership that create sustainable success
6. Anchor into the future identity that makes the win inevitable — and sustainable

Ashley also speaks candidly about the loneliness, uncertainty, and internal recalibration required when you’re evolving faster than your life can keep up and why those seasons are not a detour, but the assignment.

By the end of this episode, you’ll walk away with a deeper trust in who you’re becoming, renewed commitment to your process, and clarity around the identity that must be built before the results can safely arrive.

Continue the Work with Ashley

Step into your next level: Explore Private Advisory, high-touch strategic partnership, and fractional leadership support for women scaling with precision and power.

→ https://ashleydeland.com/inquire

Experience a full-business transformation in one weekend: Apply for Ashley’s Executive VIP Experience — an immersive, in-person strategic overhaul designed to collapse timelines and accelerate growth.

→ https://ashleydeland.com/inquire

Stay in proximity: For daily strategy, identity expansion, and behind-the-scenes insight, connect with Ashley on Instagram.

→ https://www.instagram.com/ashleydeland/

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