Why do people shout? Is it just because they’re angry? Or is there something deeper going on?

Welcome to I LISTEN SPACE. I’m Chiradeep, your host.

Today, we’re going to talk about something we’ve all encountered, whether in our families, workplaces, or sometimes even in ourselves—shouting.

Let’s pause for a moment and think of all the possible reasons behind someone raising their voice. Sometimes it’s raw anger. Sometimes it’s fear. There are people who shout when they panic or feel anxious. Some raise their voice because they feel no one is listening—they just want to be heard, to be seen. And then there are those who shout out of insecurity, not knowing how else to assert themselves. But there’s another layer, one that we often overlook—shouting as a power move. A tool to control, not to communicate.

Let’s talk about that.

There are people who raise their voice not because they’ve lost control—but because they want control. They use shouting as a way to shut others down. They believe that being louder makes them stronger, more in charge, more important. And this happens in very familiar places—at home, in a marriage, at the dinner table. It happens at work, in leadership, in friendships. One person raises their voice, not to express emotion, but to dominate the moment.

But is that really strength?

In reality, shouting to control others reveals something else. A fear of not being heard. A fear of losing ground. It’s as if they believe their words won’t carry weight unless they’re thrown loudly. And the sad part? It often works—temporarily. People go quiet. They back down. They don’t argue. But that silence is not agreement—it’s withdrawal. That nod is not respect—it’s exhaustion. Slowly, relationships wear down. People start keeping a distance. They become careful around you. They stop sharing honestly.

And if you find yourself in that place—using volume to be heard—pause and ask yourself: What am I afraid of? Why do I feel the need to be louder to make a point? What am I trying to prove? What am I trying to protect?

The truth is, shouting may work for a moment, but it damages in the long run. It chips away at trust. It silences connection. And what’s left is not respect—but fear. A fragile kind of fear that pretends to be authority.

Real strength? It’s calm. It’s clear. It knows when to speak and when to listen. It doesn’t need to shout to be heard.

Thank you for listening. If this conversation touched something in you, share it with someone who might need to hear it—softly, kindly. Because the loudest voice doesn’t always carry the deepest truth.

Until next time, take care of your voice and those around you.

This is I LISTEN SPACE. I’m Chiradeep. Keep listening.